to turn down DATY? I really dislike doing it, but some providers kind of push it (no pun intended) on you. Is a simple "no thanks" all it takes? I don't want to mess up the mood.

I have a couple of thoughts (I don't DATY either).  Your sessions are based on your $$$:  Do you state up-front what you want-typically, professional providers will ask anyway!  Also, you actually have providers force you to eat them????

Maybe they think you're a bit kinky, and need to but told what to do!  "You will eat me earth-man!"  

I'm just joking, but I am curious, have you ever DATY when you did not want to?

Joey

Say, "I'm sorry, but I don't dine....is there something else I can nibble on??"  The best way is to mention it before the mood gets too heated; like when you start to kiss...

Sofia

No, I've never been forced, but once (I don't have much experience) , she just went to a 69 when I just want to watch the bj. I guess she thought I would like it. Plus, I don't usually map out a game plan before - is that what most of you do? I usually like some spontaneity.

smasher,

Spontaneity during a session a good point.  Yet, the idea of setting the ground-rules is a different point, perhaps even-mapping out a game plan-being an additional third point!

Personally, I'm very much focused on the ground rules (Clear and to the point information).  

With that said, good providers, the professional ones, they are there for you what ever you want, spontaneitality or role playing or game plans--the point being communications, back and forth, like sofia said "Be Honest!"  

Joey