Well...needless to say, you'll have to make up for that one...From a woman's perspective, many of us aren't "messy" when we go down...Some guys have quite a bit of pre-cum, but I don't care for that at all.  Most times, there isn't much fluid, so when I come up to kiss, I swallow(no drooling here...)  Guys usu. have no problems kissing.  Same goes for a gent if he comes up to kiss me...I don't like saliva everywhere, but don't mind tasting myself(when you have a sweet coochie, you don't mind)  The 1st error was making assumptions...I would greatly suggest the oldest trick in the book...Talk to her about it.   Call her up, ASK if you can take her to lunch or dinner, or make her lunch or dinner; and apologize.  You only need to let her know how you feel...if you are uncomfortable about kissing after oral, and ask about how she feels about it...When you ask for another chance to try again....It will be more fun learning about each other...

Good reading???  "SuperSex" By Tracey Cox

You can buy it in any bookstore, great photos, and if you wrap it, give it to her, and say it for the both of you...

Good luck!

Sexy Sofia

Personally, I don't mind kissing a guy post DATY.  I actually like tasting myself.  I have dated men in my personal life who didn't like to be kissed after I gave them a BJ.  That was just their thing... I've also dated men who loved it.  For some men, it doesn't matter either way.  Kissing, to me, is a very passionate thing and being the person that I am, I can't enjoy sex if I don't kiss.  That's just one of my hangups.  Everyone has them... Perhaps you and your girlfriend can come to a compromise or perhaps you can explain to her why you don't like it.  Everyone is entitled to their own opinions.  As long as you respect her, there isn't a reason for her not to respect you.  

Just my .02.

Jaclyn

pluged,

this is a "too each his/her own".  for me i don't mind kissing my s/o after a bbbjtcns.  i'm not into the snowballing, but it's my stuff so i don't mind kissing her after the fact.  i also enjoy kissing her after daty.  if she's not into it, then i can make adjustments.

talk to your gf and tell her you didn't mean to offend her, but you just don't see it the way she does.

what would you do? LOL

this falls under the same heading as kissing a dog after its licked itself LOL
some people dont mind, kisses are great, somepeople think its gorss as hell.

but as a GF, she's prolly thinking FkYou! if i can swallow your spunk you can damn well kiss me thank you!
and its a real valid point.

there are more subtle ways to convey that she can wait a minute, thank you, than flipping your head back and brushing her away... poor girl might be traumatized and wont ever go down on you again!


Nicole

i thank everyone for responces, we did have lunch today, talked about & worked it out.

as far as the wedding thing goes, perhaps when im on my deathbed.

fairly certain i discussed to much of my personal life on this forum, but uhm... not something i want to discuss with my real life friends.

so thanks .