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reeder 95 Reviews 1220 reads
posted
1 / 18

I found a new hobby (kind of) over the last few months -  found a Sugar Baby and while it started it out great, I'm starting to think that I need to stop and get back into the hobby.

We have a great time together - we go out, text regularly, have very intense dates and overall have a great time together.  The problem is that she has a lot going on in her life and I think that I've gotten too close to her.  I find myself wanting to fix her problems - I want to say do these three things and your life will be better but then realize that it's not my job to fix her life and that she might resent it.   She doesn't complain but when you spend so much time together, you really get to know what's going on.  

i think she's become too much like a real girlfriend.  Think I might come back to traditional hobbying.

Anyway, writing this helps me think this all through.

ToniLove See my TER Reviews 808 reads
posted
2 / 18

Is to fuck the hell out of someone else ;)
Hugs and kisses
TL

GaGambler 565 reads
posted
3 / 18

I have had some "non exclusive" longer term, paid arrangements, but as long as money is involved I retain the right to go fuck whoever else I want to.

There is something to be said for a bit of familiarity that comes with seeing the same woman for a period of time, and paying a SB is a lot easier and less stressful than trying to find a college aged GF when you are well past 50. lol Throw in the freedom to fuck who ever else you want to without it being considered "cheating" and what's not to like? until you get tired of it of course, and then you have the freedom to just STOP. No angst, no divorce, no "who gets the friends" you just go your separate ways.

AninaLove See my TER Reviews 690 reads
posted
5 / 18

The whole sugar daddy/sugar baby thing NEVER worked for me.

I'm way too detached to deal with someone constantly like that. I like that I can just hit it and quit it altogether until the next time you get that "itch". lol I have my life that you don't care about, and you have yours that I don't have time to even WANT to know about. HEAVEN!!

That's the best thing about the hobby. You keep your freedom & your sanity. I'm sure there are some advantages to doing the whole SD/SB thing......but I can't think of any.......

You definitely won't lose anything by jumping back into the hobby.
You'll figure it out.  
My 2c

-Anina

Batman612013 429 reads
posted
6 / 18
airmantroy 28 Reviews 425 reads
posted
7 / 18

I understand what you're saying, but isn't the idea of being a SD to "help" her out...why not just make the suggestions.

StinaValentine See my TER Reviews 643 reads
posted
8 / 18

Is the stellar advice given by older, wealthier, wiser gentlemen that have been there, done that. My XSD taught me how to manage my finances and was a plethora of information. He was really helpful with other very practical things for me too. Only reason we split was because his wife found his phone. :(

Have you talked to your SB about if your advice is wanted? She may be very grateful for your help.

Obviously, this advice will go against the grain because we providers want you back in the hobby seeing us! But, that's my honest opinion, self serving set aside. If the sugar bowl hustle wasn't so hard, I'd be back in the bowl because I miss that relationship dynamic.

jocko 4 Reviews 634 reads
posted
9 / 18

I would want out just because it sounds like she must continually be raising her problems with you.  Do not try to fix.  Just smile and listen as they go in one ear and out the other.  Fix one problem and it will be replaced by another.  

BTW, how much is the monthly?
Posted By: reeder
I found a new hobby (kind of) over the last few months -  found a Sugar Baby and while it started it out great, I'm starting to think that I need to stop and get back into the hobby.  
   
 We have a great time together - we go out, text regularly, have very intense dates and overall have a great time together.  The problem is that she has a lot going on in her life and I think that I've gotten too close to her.  I find myself wanting to fix her problems - I want to say do these three things and your life will be better but then realize that it's not my job to fix her life and that she might resent it.   She doesn't complain but when you spend so much time together, you really get to know what's going on.    
   
 i think she's become too much like a real girlfriend.  Think I might come back to traditional hobbying.  
   
 Anyway, writing this helps me think this all through.

reeder 95 Reviews 420 reads
posted
11 / 18

Posted By: airmantroy
I understand what you're saying, but isn't the idea of being a SD to "help" her out...why not just make the suggestions.
I did make suggestions in the beginning but she didn't do anything differently and the issues persist.  I think she sees the issues as so big that it's hard to know where to begin.  To be clear, she doesn't complain but a typical date is usually about 5 hours and sometimes overnight so we have a lot of time to talk.

AninaLove See my TER Reviews 397 reads
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13 / 18
GaGambler 395 reads
posted
14 / 18

Even those 7 AM "first appointment" of the day doesn't insure against her having spent the entire evening before with another client, or shocker of all shockers, her husband or BF with whom she doesn't use a condom. lol

mongo19621954 22 Reviews 498 reads
posted
16 / 18

I think that a woman telling you about her problems is just telling you about her problems because that's how some women communicate.... aka venting...which is a girl thing that I do NOT understand.  When I hear about a problem - I want to solve it.  When women hear about a problem - they want to validate the problem and empathize about it and then do something about it.  Hence the popularity of Dr. Phil and Oprah.

She may not be interested in you actually solving her problems.... it may not actually be a big trust thing.  She may just want to tell somebody about her problems.  Don't read more into it than that

GaGambler 391 reads
posted
17 / 18

Yes, some women (and men I suppose) just like to run their mouths and tell EVERYONE who will listen about their personal problems.

I agree that I wouldn't read a lot into it, I have had people (not just women) tell me their entire life story, complete with all their personal problems, five minutes after having met them. AND with all our clothes still on. lol

toohot 436 reads
posted
18 / 18

I've been fortunate to be in a longer term SD/SB relationship and it has been fantastic! But be warned, spending that much time with one person can get confusing and you better have a good grasp on reality.

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