I could use some advice from my fellow over 60 posters and maybe some of the ladies. I am reasonably new to the hobby and have only seen a few providers, mostly when I travel. I had an appt with a local provider yesterday who I had seen before. We had a nice phone call and an e-mail a few days before and everything seemed set for a meeting at her incall, where I had seen her before. Our first meeting went well, I thought, and we bounced a few e-mails afterward, all very congenial. I called en route and left a message. Then I called when I arrived and left another message. Over the next hour I called twice more, all to no reply, so I gave up and went home. Today I e-mailed to see what had happened, again with no reply. My conundrum is that I don't want to be shopping around much in my home town and thought I had found someone with whom I could have periodic meetings. Should I just give up and move on? Is she trying to send a message by not replying? Is this thing common? Advice would be most helpful.
You might hear from her and she might have some plausible excuse, but you'll never know for sure.
This happens to everyone sooner or later.
Just get back up on another horse and ride.
Thanks MrFisher. It helps to hear this.
I keep hearing this and it just ticks me off. Ladies have the decency to say to the men that you can't or that you had something come up and need to cancel, don't just leave them hanging.
In full agreement, go find someone else, she should have responded, period.
Thanks to you too kendra. This board is a great place for this kind of thing, I'm glad we have such a good group here.
Okay back when I provided incall, I was No Show with out been able to call or email until the next day once and only once.
I am a pet owner and anyone who has them will understand, my male dog Cha-Ching got into Rat poisoning at a friends house when he was 8 months old. I end up running out the door to the Animal Hospital with out my phone, but later that day after 4-5 hours at vet. I return home but was to upset to call or talk to anyone. I truly had forgotten about my appointment, the next day when I returned my friends call and let him know what happened he was understanding and the next week I made it up to him. Lol and he even brought Prince Cha-Ching some toys and treats when he came and a extra big tip for me.
So I think shit happens in our lives it's how we deal with it that matters. So many of us ladies not only have pets but children with that comes visits to ER and other things that can cause No shows. I'm sure once she can she will call and you will find out she was not avoiding you.
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Tori Blake
There are so many wonderful women just on TER alone that I would forget her and find another. Good luck.
they are correct..move on..one last bit of advice..do not fret..some younger hobbyists get bent out of shape by a ncns..nasty e-mails and nasty voice mail never work out for either party..providers have a way to make life a living hell for you if they even think you are messing with them..go to the gd board and read my thread on blacklisting..very good info on there..even for us older gents..
If you return to the scene of a bad experience.... your just asking for another bad experience...move on...
If not, do so now and let your fellow hobbyists know. That's what we're on TER for, is it not.
If you already have, see if you can write a new or altered review to add this tidbit. It doesn't need to be mean or demeaning, but the facts are the facts. She should expect to deal with the fallout.
You can't do that. Wishful thinking but his previous visits were fine. If he didn't see her that day he can't write a review about it.
If fellow hobbyists would like to know they can PM him and get the information, same way we girls keep each other informed.
Its better to just move on...it will catch up to her if she does this alot.
you can let your fellow hobbyists know she was a flake.
I would not "out her" until a few days have gone by without hearing from her. It is possible that some emergency came up and she has not been able to access TER or maybe even the internet.
To answer your question no this is not common for a provider to do this with that being said unfortunately at times it does happen to gents and providers.I am not making any kind of excuses for a no-show but in some special circumstances things happen where the other party cannot be notified of a cancellation or reschedule.
In these cases there should definitely be some kind of compensation for the party who is on the end of the no show.
I have never no call no show a gent if something comes up I am letting him know so he can make other arrangements.The provider you are speaking about there is really no way to know if something came up serious that prevented her from contacting you or if she is just a flake.
You have done all you can do on your part and I feel you have reached out enough the ball is now in her court.I say it always sucks when one's time is wasted because of the actions of another I would suggest for you to start looking around in your home area for a provider who does respect your time.
A lady goes flakey... you do not have a lot invested. move on.
I wanted to try someone new... so I set something up. We set a date & time when I would be in the city & I was to call in the morning... yup!! No Answer. Some times you can salvage with a back up plan, but I honestly did not expect this well reviewed lady would do this to me. I've moved on but a lesson was learned... and she's off my bucket list permanently. Why? She did not cost me any cash but she wasted a rare opportunity. I would have accepted "Can't make it, change in plans". But I'll not risk my opportunity on her again, not even if it was "free".
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Thanks to all of you. The advice is good and worth heeding. Something serious may well have come up and maybe I'll never know. I guess that is one up side to the hobby, no real emotional attachment. I'll move on.
Now, can anyone give me a good recommendation in the Boston area?
.....it takes but a minute tops to send an email or text or straight to vm message.