We are paying for a fantasy. It is all about romance. I won't get aroused if there is no romance involved. Yes, I know it will end when I walk out the door, but that hour should be an hour of romantic pleasure for me.
Swim
Kissing and candles and music are all part of creating a romantic environment in order to get junior to respond. It has been often said the the brain is a much more important sexual organ than the penis. For me, that is certainly true. Without the feeling of romance, of being wanted and desired, it's over before it begins.
sex with me. I knew she was right but she didnt have to point it out to me and rub my nose in it. She wasnt my ATF very long after saying that. Let me enjoy the fantasy.
Yes let us pretend but don't remind us we are a customer. I believe that the several that I see every once in awhile are at the very least friends. I sure don't want a wife or SB but I like tender loving for what ever time we are together.
Just a less lonely form of masterbation. With romance, you each try to make your partner feel special.
It is a fine line for the lady to walk. During the date, if she is good, you feel she is really into you. Yet at the same time, she can control how much your into her. But I am friends with a few ladies outside the date time. It doesnt hurt the fantasy inside the bed room, comes out to be FWB plus the envelope.
Allowing some romance and feeling during the session always brings up fears of strings attaching and all the miserable baggage that comes along with that, but it needn't be if both individuals recognize that when the time is up, so are the obligations of each to the other.
That's really what makes it so beautiful.
There are two distinct aspects of the hobby good old fashion sex, and the fantasy. I think anyone who does a repetitive task every day will soon tire of it. After a while the cocks all seem the same but then again money has a significant influence.
Then there are those ladies who offer the GFE experience. Despite the doomsayers i know these ladies enjoy the "romance", flirting, the attention, and the excitement of meeting that new person. Does it mean it will lead to a relationship.. Hell no. BUT what is wrong with indulging in a little human nature! All it take is a little maturity to enjoy all life has to offer.
Since this is a 60+ forum I have to ask did you know you were even enjoying life as a kid? Do you appreciate all life has to offer more now that you are "more mature"?
That is a point I have been repeatedly blasted on. My research has shown that there is only a minority of providers who want repeat business. most think it takes less effort to find new clients than to maintain existing ones. Perhaps its true with all the horny and neglected men out there!
But I am thankful for the ladies who understand about life and relationships and choose to "provide" the fantasy so many men "need" are seeking.
I am a lady who enjoys all the special moments that make a date so special. From the first kiss when we meet our time should go seamlessly from moment to moment. There's nothing like that feeling of time standing still when you kiss good-bye, walk out the door and smile at how quick the time went. This is why a man returns to see a special lady
Kisses Haley
If by romance you mean "love feelings" and a deeper relationship, that is probably fools gold, a long walk off a short pier. I dated 3 working ladies... (not at the same time) one in Phx, one in Reno, and one in Portland.... all ladies that inspired me greatly. None lasted more than 3 mos or so - for all the reasons you might expect. Another, where it was just a strong "friendship" over a period of time allowing familiarity without expectations, (no discounts) had lots of mutual romance and lasted 10 years.
(NOT L-O-V-E) if you know what I mean. Sure it's an illusion. We both know it, it remains unspoken. We might enjoy a beverage or a snack before play time... soft music & candles... or she might cook for me or put together some food I have brought... I know when the door closes between us, it's over until we're alone again.
Romance... absolutely. But we walk a tight rope. But this is why I do not serially meet with a Fav. By rotatng them, I keep a perspective to my feelings.
HV
Flirting and playing
seduction and teasing
I think I always like to approach my encounters like a girl friend who loves to please, seduce, play and share fantasies, romance and naughty fun.
Holding your nose!!! Fine wine is to be savored so one can enjoy the bouquet, the complexity, the smoothness, and the aftertaste. Hmmm, sort of like the ladies!
Call it romance. Call it a connection. When your over 60 and, hopefully, dating a good provider, you should just plain enjoy spending time with the other person. The sex should be a very enjoyable bonus. I've had sessions where the sex just wasn't working that day (it happens at our age), but I still enjoyed the seession because I enjoyed spending time talking and playing with the lady.
The best that can be said for the feeling is a state of transcendence, whereby all else becomes meaningless, at least for the few moments you two share something.
I do enjoy the romantic sexual interludes but from time to time especially if its been a while I just want some really hott sweaty sex.
You have one great approach and attitude.
Sounds like our time together sexy!
Kisses!!!!