So, I don't hobby all that often these days, but when I do I prefer to see providers that I've seen before. More often than not, these ongoing relationships have been established over many years. Anyway, I was planning to reach out to one of my ATF's recently and in going over her schedule discovered that she has raised her rates out of my price range. I'm not one to negotiate rates but we've always had a good time together and I'd like to continue to see her but the rates have more than doubled since I first met with her.
My question is, what is a tactful way to ask if she grandfathers rates for ongoing relationships? I'm not expecting a rate reduction to when I first started seeing her 15 years ago but more realistically what they were the last time I saw her about a year ago.
Thanks for any thoughts on a tactful way to ask the question.
I’d bring the donation you most recently did, and if she points out her new rate, apologize & let her know you’ll be aware next time, and will also make up the difference from this time. Then it’s up to you whether you see her again. I’ve spent 30 years hobbying & have Never had a lady I saw multiple times expect me to pay a higher rate. It’s better to beg forgiveness than ask permission.
So, always check for the current rate. It can change at any time. The game of “I’m sorry, I didn’t see your rate change!” might work to get a lower rate once, but it’ll probably piss her off, plus it’s dishonest—you DID see the new rate.
As for how to ask… I’d be honest. I’d let her know I’d really like to see her again, but her new rates are outside my budget, and ask if she could keep me in mind if she ever decided to offer a special. See what she says. Another option is a shorter session, if that’s possible. Then at the session you could mention how much you enjoy seeing her yada yada. But if she does give you a special rate, reciprocate by not waiting a year until your next request for a session.
I’ve been grandfathered in at a prior rate with providers I’ve seen frequently (and btw a year between visits isn’t frequent). I’ve always declined those offers, because the new rates were fair for the current market. And if a provider has to choose to see someone at a lower rate vs a higher rate, it’s more likely the higher rate will win.
I agree, be honest. It will avoid any problems or issues and prevent ill feelings if things go south. Communication is so important. As Steve said, ask if you are grandfathered in or kindly tell her you will have to pass as you are currently out of my budge range. Hopefully you'll get to see her if not, there certainly are other options. Good luck & have fun!
So, always check for the current rate. It can change at any time. The game of “I’m sorry, I didn’t see your rate change!” might work to get a lower rate once, but it’ll probably piss her off, plus it’s dishonest—you DID see the new rate.
As for how to ask… I’d be honest. I’d let her know I’d really like to see her again, but her new rates are outside my budget, and ask if she could keep me in mind if she ever decided to offer a special. See what she says. Another option is a shorter session, if that’s possible. Then at the session you could mention how much you enjoy seeing her yada yada. But if she does give you a special rate, reciprocate by not waiting a year until your next request for a session.
I’ve been grandfathered in at a prior rate with providers I’ve seen frequently (and btw a year between visits isn’t frequent). I’ve always declined those offers, because the new rates were fair for the current market. And if a provider has to choose to see someone at a lower rate vs a higher rate, it’s more likely the higher rate will win.
I would just ask. I've been grandfathered by a few. It's a common practice. I don't think anyone would feel offended by your asking. They can always say no.
Read the General Discussion Board about BSC providers outing clients because they felt "wronged." Besides, it's just plain tacky.
A year is kind of a long time in escort time. She may be your ATF, but you may just be some client she seen fora long time, but hasn't called on her in ages. If you want to play dumb, you'll find some clever way to remind her of your long history together and you're looking forward to becoming more active again... and then lead into a booking inquiry, asking "is $$$ still your rate for an hour?"
provide PII. Apparently, you are one of them.
I have never had it be an issue with ladies that already know me. But if I did notice the higher rate, I carry extra just in case she says something. It's been my experience that ladies who like seeming a regular are happy to keep the old rate for them. If they d have an issue with that, then maybe it's my signal to stop seeing the lady.
I recently saw a lady that I was once somewhat regular with and even though it had been almost three years since I saw her, she was fine with what she had always gotten even though it was less than half her current rate.
The worst thing that could happen is she says, “no.”
Maybe she will give you a discount, or grandfather you if she enjoys your company. You need to ask her. I love seeing my old friends!
LOL, I don't usually find myself agreeing with U, but this time I totally do. Just ask,
It's common sense and common courtesy. Jeffrey
Your rate is your rate. Bring the same amount you've always brought until she says something and then you can decide whether to go forward or make a repeat visit. You can't be expected to monitor her site for changes. If we are talking about years between visits that would be a different situation of course.
and found out her rate went up. He hadn’t seen her for a year. So why should he expect to pay what he paid a year ago without asking her about it first?
When you visit a business you haven’t been to in a year, a restaurant maybe, do you assume their prices are the same as a year ago and bring only that amount?
The businessperson sets their rate, not the customer. So it’s not “his” rate, unless the businessperson has granted an exception to normal rates… it’s HER rate.
Please ASK. We do grandfather in some of our old regulars. But also understand, her expenses go up every year too.
Peace n Love~ K