I have been a part of TER and the hobby a long time and have a question: I am one of those fully holding out until the virus has a vaccine and it is fully safe to reengage. I am wondering how many of you who also carry the underlying condition of age (plus whatever maladies often accompany it......high blood pressure; heart issues; etc.) are rethinking if they will return to the hobby when it is safe. I've been thinking more and more of putting it in the past and not taking it up again. Any others thinking the same way?
but I am "barely" old enough to be on this board, not to mention I have the immune system of a cockroach so not only am I NOT thinking about "putting this in the past" but truth be told I haven't slowed down a single beat due to COVID. I last had sex about five hours ago and I am already thinking about who I am going to fuck tomorrow.
Oh crap, I guess that means I have slowed down, a few years ago if I had gotten laid this afternoon I'd already be making plans to see someone else tonight, I guess I really am getting old. lol
Now all that said, if you do have a bunch of maladies that accompany your old age, it very well may be a wise idea not to risk your life over pussy. I of course am nowhere near mature enough to do that. I have done all sorts of stupid things in my life due to the pursuit of pussy, somehow I don't see that ending anytime soon in my case, but you do you. I only take responsibility for my own life and I "try" not to judge others for their own choices, I don't always succeed, but at least I try. lol
I plan to hobby with a limited number of ladies.
My standard advice is that if you're afraid of getting sick, stay the fuck home.
As for me, I am not going to be shaking in my boots, hiding in my closet, reorganizing my lint collection until the ghost has passed my house. If I have to do that to remain sick free, well then just kill me now and get it over with. I don't worry about things I have no control over and, yes, I am in an identified risk category. There are at least a hundred things that could easily and more probably get me sooner and faster than CV and I don't worry about those either.
Of course anyone who has certain health issues probably should consider what they expose themselves to. But only one in forty people in the USA have even been diagnosed. And only 1:1500 in the USA have died from it. If you have regular health, it is still a low risk proposition. So no, it hasn't affected my behavior in that regard.
I am 60 and healthy! I cut my mongering back from 1-2 times a week to once every ten days to two weeks! So far no problems. I figure it’s reasonable to give myself and my next provider some margin of safety. It would be bad to get it from a provider and then give it to the next provider by accident. I have also narrowed my scope to well known, mostly more mature and less frequent providers that I know. For some reason I think if they expose themselves less, my risk goes down. Probably not accurate. No question this activity is the biggest risk for me to get Covid in my daily life at the moment. However, man cannot live without sex, right?
Well, one can EXIST without sex, but I wouldn't call it living!
I'm a few years older than you and have been having sessions with one of my ATFs as often as the budget will allow.
She and I have gotten together three times since February, so I'm happy...all things considered.
I am in the same position , and have given the circumstances some thought. The pace and lust slow down, as well the need for companionship takes on a new dimension. My thought is to try and find (or maybe you already have) one who is special and knows how to bring pleasure to an older man. The use of toys and watching is interesting.
This is the first time have posted, so I am not clear how it works. My private email has my name in it., so I'll use this as a test and determine if I can read your response on this board.
When things warmed up, so did I. Was careful who I saw and limited in scope of location.
Now infection rates in the Great Lakes area are increasing sharply. I am tying to restrain myself. However if I catch a suggestive scene on a TV show/Movie, or have an erotic dream, it is game on.
Two members of my household work in health care, but not directly with COVID patients, so the odds are a bit higher. I just don't want to be the person that brings COVID into this house hold.
I am very conflicted right now.
I am with you WICardinalfan.
I am conflicted. I don't want to bring the COVID into my household.
But I have seen 3 different ladies since March 1, 2020.
I have been tested for COVID once and the results were negative.
Currently I'm trying to come up with a scenario where I am masked but he provider is not.
Any suggestions would be helpful.
May I humbly suggest carefully thinking through the mask thing in this context?
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Aerosol transmissibility implies that spending an hour in bed with someone, breathing heavily the whole time, pretty much guarantees transmission. No ordinary mask will change that very much. So choosing to make the visit is choosing the risk. You might as well be unmasked so you can enjoy what you're risking it for. A session without kissing and nipple-nibbling and DATY and more kissing is one I can skip without regret.
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"Do, or do not. There is no mask safety."
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I consider masks important and effective for ordinary interactions like shopping, by the way. Just not for sweaty wrasslin' time.
I have too many underlying issues.. I was going to see an ATF.. but then she told me that she was immune.. said she already had it.. that was it for me.. I have had two friends die from Covid.. 5 others I know have had it.. way to risky..
I cant wait for a vaccine!
I don't get it.
Finding out she's immune, and thus (both not absolutes but very very high probablilities)
- can't infect you
- can't be infected by you
should, it seems, have given you confidence to enjoy her. She just told you the risks are way lower than you thought.
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What did I misunderstand here? Did you think she was lying?
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I wish my ATF, or one of my CF or TDL girls, would tell me that and back it up!