question for everyone, do orgasm decrease in intensity as we get older? lately I been getting some dull orgasm and is wondering if old age or some other reasons. any feedback would be helpful.
I think that orgasm intensity after 55-60 would vary from guy to guy. I'm not sure what you mean by intensity, but my pleasure from orgasm hasn't decreased. But given my T2D & age (pushing 70) my ability to climax has been effected. It takes longer to get there but when it comes it feels just as good as it it did 20-30 years ago.
My main limitation is that it's difficult to get hard enough for vaginal intercourse, so I have fallen back on oral or digital stimulation to climax. I do take a daily dose of Cialis that probably helps. But ultimately, each man will age differently.
I'd advise a visit to your doctor just in case it's something more serious like prostate issues.
I've only had intercourse with 4 women in the past couple of years; 3 pros and one 40-something sugar baby. With Viagra, I'm still getting teen-age hard erections, I am happy to say. My orgasms through intercourse (and a couple of BJ's) seemed as intense as I could remember ever having. Of course, only having sex every 6 months or year raises the intensity.
On the other hand, (pun intended) most of my O's are self-inflicted these days, and those are often dull. It's funny or sad, that these days my sex life is about the same as when I was 14; hiding in the basement bathroom and taking care of myself. At least the porn on my ipad is better than using the Sears ladies underwear catalog from back then.
Playboy and Penthouse, all the way.
Sort of like the Way Back machine: I do remember jacking off to Sears catalog underwear gals. However, my favorite was a sex ed book set that had a graphic of a barely post-pubescent girl with a soft cutaway drawing showing her internal genitalia on one side and her lightly haired mound and lips on the other. More than forty years on, I still jack off to her visual memory every so often.
Finding my Dad's Playboys and Penthouses of course was great, but I still imagine giving up our virginities to each other with the girl who modeled for my sex ed book.
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But the destination never was my first love, it was the journey. Fortunately, that is still very pleasurable.
I'm 79, I have found when I do orgasm it lasts for at least 60 seconds and much stronger than when I was younger. The only drawback is I have to go to a hooker to have it happen at all. I have 2 FWB and neither one of them can get me off. Hookers can always get me off. Any hooker can no matter what she looks like. The girlfriends are both really good looking but no matter what they do they just can't do it. Whoa is me, I guess I'll just have to keep seeing the hookers.
Maybe you should get your FWBs to be sluttier. Go to a sex shop with her (as nice and classy as you can find). She might like it and it might be a turn on for you. If you take one to a sex shop and buy her whatever toys and stimulants that she might be interested in, you might be rewarded many times over. Costumes can help too; a young lady friend of mine was very turned on by having Japanese school girl and French naughty maid costumes. Both came off quickly or got bunched up around her waist as she "lost her virginity" but it definitely got her motor running even before I touched her down there. If she is turned on, you should be turned on too.
The ladies who work in these stores often have good ideas. Have her interact with the sales gal.
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The dynamic with FWB's and hookers is different. With "friends" you generally have to please them in return so a lot of your focus is outward. With hookers, they have one job, and so you can turn your focus inward.
I am 68 and use some chemical help from time to time. I exercise daily and am in good health. I have found that 1) it takes me longer to become very erect and to reach orgasm, 2) the amount of ejaculate has decreased immensely, but 3) the intensity of my orgasm seems to have increased as compared when I was in my 40's or 50's. Anyone else noticed this?
I am 68 and use some chemical help from time to time. I exercise daily and am in good health. I have found that 1) it takes me longer to become very erect and to reach orgasm, 2) the amount of ejaculate has decreased immensely, but 3) the intensity of my orgasm seems to have increased as compared when I was in my 40's or 50's. Anyone else noticed this?
That pretty much matches my experience. I'm 70, fairly sedentary but generally healthy. Ladies have noticed the small volume of semen from me and wondered whether they have satisfied me, even when my experience was delightfully intense.
I had very intense orgasms until about 6 months ago.. suddenly.. not so much.. and now when I cum..no semen.. it oozes out very slowly for a minute or two. Really aggravating.. the change was sudden..my health is good.. in this Covid era.. I'm not going nuts.. because seeing no one.. also worrisome.. takes a long time to get off too.. age is a bitch
I am sure like most of us, when you were young you probably wished you could last longer. Now that is the least of our problems. lol
To tell the truth, it really doesn't bother me that much that sometimes it literally takes forever to cum and on days where I have sex multiple times after the second time I usually don't cum at all. I am just happy that I am still fucking, I can still cum at least once, and I never disappoint any of the women I sleep with by being a "two pump chump" lol
Have your prostate checked. One sign of prostate issues is decreased ejaculate volume.
Like many of us over 70, it does take longer. I recently completed radiation treatment for prostate cancer(early diagnosis!)and find that while I can still maintain my mental stimulae, it is taking longer to have a strong erection. And now, little ejaculate... I have an ATF that is quite good at getting me where I like to be and find that with others (younger than my ATF and several one-timers) i have resorted to allowing the oral experience be the order of the day. The feeling of being stimulated orally is a pleasure I can live with as long as my partner is obliging and enjoys giving me as much pleasure as I give her...
If you have not tried this, find an experienced practitioner of bondassage. Something about the lack of control on your part and the slow buildup on her part, that gives me the most powerful orgasms I have ever had. I mean ever.
Edging, with a provider that is good at it, helps.
Another trick, during a bbbj, is for the provider the squeeze your shaft just long enough for the cum to build up. A couple of seconds. Once she releases the intensity is fantastic!
Like others, my frequency of intercourse has slowed down, particularly during COVID. I usually have one to two orgasms a week. Any more and the intensity does decline.
YMMV
Heres a simple and easy solution to increase semen volume . Try drinking about 3 litres of water a day. If
your slightly dehydrated your volume will be decreased. Go for about 10 to 12 , 8 ounce glasses throughout
the day. Another bonus, you will increase blood volume and your erections will be much harder...Keep in mind , that
alcohol will work against you and will dehydrate you. Drink a glass of water between cocktails. You should eventially
blow loads equal to what you did in your 30s.
I can't drink that much water without having my bladder explode.
Lol. Lester. Yeah you will piss a lot more. Don’t drink it all at once. Space it out throughout the day and night. The erection gains will be worth the extra few times you’ll have to pee.
Hey Golf
Thanks for the suggestion! Im 72 and would love to get the volume I used to. Its still good but not like I was 40. Im in good shape and work out regularly ..People say I look much much younger which I attribute to a serious workout program I started 35 years ago. Seems to have worked for me so far...lol
Stay safe everybody!
I started TRT 6 years ago (I'm 62 now) and was advised at the time to increase my water intake by 50% each day. I was already used to drinking a lot of water because I've been a gym rat for 40 years and I sweat a lot during my workouts. The unexpected side benefit was a larger semen volume. As you say, I piss a lot more, usually up twice during the night, and each time I piss, I drink another half a bottle of water before returning to bed, but as you also say, its totally worth it.
I'm an old guy (80 in a couple of months) and a heart patient. I need to drink at least 2 to 3 quarts of water a day due to heart medication needs. I still like to visit a couple of nice providers about once a month to relieve stress. Due to meds it is tough to stay really hard, but these gals can really do a nice bbbj and get me going. For the past 4 years I have still been able to have a nice orgasm. Every gal I have seen in the last 4 or 5 years has commented that I really blew a big load. I know I blow as much now as I did when I was 30 years younger. Drink water, and good luck.
Here’s what it says on webmd. This does not constitute medical advice. You should always do your own research through multiple sources and consult with your doctor.
https://www.webmd.com/diet/features/water-for-weight-loss-diet#1
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“It depends on your size and weight, and also on your activity level and where you live,” Nessler says. “In general, you should try to drink between half an ounce and an ounce of water for each pound you weigh, every day.” For example, if you weigh 150 pounds, that would be 75 to 150 ounces of water a day. If you’re living in a hot climate and exercising a lot, you’d be on the higher end of that range; if you’re in a cooler climate and mostly sedentary, you’d need less.
As you can see from the above, there is no single amount of water that works for everyone regardless of age, size, activity level or weather. But starting at a minimum of 64 ounces per day (the 8X8 rule) is a pretty safe bet.
Probably like others my sex life has ebbed and flowed over the years. Like others I used to get rock hard and last forever back in my teens through late 40s.
After a prostrate cancer scare that turned out to be negative getting hard and lasting was a challenge. Not particularly fun when the SO feels bad because she has to work at getting me hard after I get her motor warmed up nicely.
Even started organisming without getting very erect. It was almost like my dick was getting motion sickness and just laid on his side to toss his load w/o getting very hard. That was a real drag!!
Made the SO lose interest in rubbing uglies and considering she was always a pillow princess and now doesn’t seem to care about her body image - yep, her former cute butt has lost its cuteness and other such changes.
Acouple years ago my MD started asking about my sexual health and he started me with virga substitute - that was fun because I would be semi erect once in a while as a pretty girl walked by.
Really showed a difference during a lap dance at a strip club. Biggest drawback was during a lap dance I would get good and hard then I’d pop my nut. Popping my nut during a lap dance was very strong.
Acouple times I would come across a very friendly stripper would suck me off instead back in the VIP room. Once I ended up with a 21 yo Barbie who sucked me off and I blew in her mouth. She gulped it down, caught her breathe and then looked at me saying something like, “I thought you old guys didn’t cum so much and didn’t cum so hard”. I just grinned and tipped her well.
Since the purple pill is more affordable my MD has moved me over to it. The change is funny. Sidaphil made me hard when touched. The purple pill really works well for me 4 hours before a playdate, on an empty stomach, with two aspirin and plenty of water before/during the play date.
And the purple pill works best if I’m fully aroused and turned on. I was with a 33yo provider recently who did a good job being sensual and ramping me up. By the time she touched my cock I hardened up nicely and when she slid down over my cock it felt wonderful. I really felt the texture of her pussys interior squeezing my cock. As she slide up and down on me on cowgirl I blew my load.
After my rocket took off she cuddled up licking my cock clean. She commented it was a good thing that I was fixed (vasectomy) because it felt like my swimmers were rocketing their way to the finish line.
Being in my 60’s now I am finding that it does take a while to get my cock interested, the purple pill must be administered precisely as described above and the companion has to be very visually/attitude/behaviorally attractive as well as take her time in getting me calmed down to slowly ramp me up to a good place. Also, condoms are a real downer because I lose so much sensation.
If you're using the traditional male condom, you might consider seeing a provider who has experience in using the Female Condom (FC2).
For us "dinosaurs," it can be a game-changer. Without my dick being "strangled," I enjoy myself much more -- and the sight of the uncovered Dino Dick™ sliding in and out is an additional turn-on.
Use the the right amount of lube and have fun!
My most intense orgasms have come from hand jobs. I think that is for three reasons -- it takes a while which allows the stimulation to build up -- and a skilled hand motion stimulates a lot of skin area nerves -- and you can focus on the sensation without having to put part of your focus on your own physical activities.
I’d think stroking your cock would be a physical activity you’d have to put at least some focus on.
I’ll take a pro who knows tease & denial, with talented mouth, tongue, lips, and hands over my own work any day. Plus a great view!
Yeah, I meant and hand job by someone else's hand, not your own.
First off, I was thrilled to see TER and this forum back up. I have found it to be very educational over the years. That said I have experienced “dull” orgasms and ED and tried a variety of remedies. Prescription drug side effects are too much a price to pay in my opinion. Not long ago I started using medical marijuana for PTSD and found that it greatly enhances my desire and the intensity of my orgasm. My friends are skeptical and say I’m reliving some kind of 60’s fantasy but it’s a side effect that I can live with
Love to hear from others that have tried pot in their golden years
Maybe to "notagrumpyoldguy" lol
and who cares what your friends think? Even if you are reliving a 60's fantasy, who cares? Orgasms are mainly in our mind and if a little pot gives you an enjoyable side effect I see it as a win win for you.
As for me. I only smoke pot when having sex with a girl who loves it. I don't particularly enjoy it myself and quit smoking pot for my own pleasure by the late seventies/very early eighties, but I know a couple of women who have only an "average" sex drive without pot who will virtually rape me if I am patient enough to let them get high first.
I've seen reports about pot giving chicks a better sexual experience. That said I've never met an escort who openly smoked it. I suspect some of the SB's I met may have, but not while with me, nor ever explicitly mentioned it. So I have no experience with it's effects on a session. But a caveat is that one can never tell with escorts or SB, or even girlfriends for that matter, whether their responses are an act for the benefit of the client/boyfriend.
No, of course you can't tell by a single session, but with someone you've been with multiple times it's pretty easy to tell if she is doing if for her own benefit or yours.
I have experienced many different types of orgasms from older gents that are my dear friends, during my years as a life coach. Dry orgasm, intense with no ejaculation, MILKING with loads of semen, physically shaking with an amazing sleep afterwards. No one can tell you what is normal. Get old ain't for sissies is what my Mama says. lol Smile 4 me!
I have utilizes a penis pump with a cock ring combo, sounding, fantasy, and fetish fun as other methods to achieve greatness when it comes to age effecting the twig, and berries & growing older.
It doesn't feel as incredible and surprising as the first time I ejaculated through masturbation when I was twelve, but it still feels wonderful. The distance and volume of ejaculate have definitely dropped off as I aged, but I was never into facials or pearl necklaces in any case (and my partners have consistently hated the idea of both). I realized early on that sex was a lot more than penetration and squirting. Giving and getting orgasms through fingers, tongues, genitals, and nearby openings while in a long cuddling and kissing session has been my favorite since a lovely older woman (late 20s) took my virginity when was 21and taught me that bedroom time should be a multi-hour experience.
The main downside of age other than lower stamina is because of prostate medication that usually results in retrograde ejaculation which doesn't feel as good. My young and still fertile SB certainly doesn't mind the reduced pregnancy risk, and I can usually tell when it is going the right way instead in time to pull out.
excellent conversation. In addition to all the different experiences, I find a significant dimunition of lust. The desire i s greatly reduced; the experience has become a take it or leave it. Desire reduced to every two or three weeks; and even than, my requirements have become more erotic, as discussed in the other posts. Just watching is a turn on.
Agree.. I used to feel that I had some kind of a disease.. a good disease..but the impossible to resist need to see a girl at least once a week was there. Suddenly at 71, I am not driven... still interested.. but memories are good.. Covid caused a real pause..
At 70 and counting, I have experienced no letup of lust. My problems are all in the practicalities of satisfying it without undesirable consequences.
I have had a small few guys who have to take medication for varies reasons and have had problems in with getting the dicks hard and having an orgasm. So, It's what happen with Age & Medication.