i know we are older and supposedly been around the block a few times..but have you ever met a new provider who takes your breath away? you are actually intimidated..you are tongue-tied..you feel like a newbie or a schoolboy? the longer we hobby the chances of this occurring decrease..but it still does happen occasionally..at least to me it does..anyone else??
One particular lady comes to mind. I met her at a private luncheon and was immediately blown away by her. She just hit all my buttons the right way, and apparently other guys too, because she went on to become one of LA's elite providers. All I could think about is why hadn't I met her when I was 20 years younger.
Anyway, as much as I wanted to spend some time with her, I was in my early 50's at the time and knew I didn't have "game" like I did in the past. Both my physical and financial assets had taken a hit at that time, and I just didn't feel I could have the sort of time with her that I would have wanted.
She was in her late 20's, absolutely beautiful, articulate, well-educated and well-traveled. She was dating millionaires, mostly from the pro sports and the entertainment world, and yes, I was just too intimidated to make that call, even though I know she wanted me to do so (we kept in touch for a year or two).
I have a date scheduled for next week. I am not sure if its intimidation or ambivalence? She has been on my "bucket List" for almost a year now and something has always come up to to prevent our getting together. We will just have to see whjat happens!!!
We all pretty much know what she looks like before we go to see her, unless she blurs her face in her pics. Have to admit, I'm sorta intimidated any time I am meeting a new provider the first time. I mean, c'mon let's be honest, we are in our 50's and 60's, and here we are meeting a girl who is 20, 30, maybe even as much as 40 years younger than we are. In a few minutes, we are gonna be naked with this hot lady, doing all kinds of things. Things we would have no chance of doing with her in the civvie world. Who would not be intimidated??
However intimidated I might be, the feeling is usually gone as soon as we start getting down to the matter at hand, why we are there....... It doesn't matter how many times I've been around the block.
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Note that I am using an alias. I have had this situation you describe with extremely attractive females all of my life, civies as well as providers. It started as a teenager and I have had the condition ever since. I just cannot be myself, I am overwhelmed by beauty, I become putty in their hands so to speak, and most women do not respond well under this condition. The guys used to say that to be successful with women a man needs to treat a lady like a whore and a whore like a lady. I have observed that many guys have considerable success using this approach but alas, I cannot be that way.