A provider friend of mine who moved out of my city gave a referral to her friend. I told my friend I was missing her, which I am, and asked if she knew anyone like her body wise, so she sent this girl. This girl doesn’t have a website or reviews, hence why I’m calling her UTR. We exchanged a couple of emails and made a date for tomorrow. She sent a couple of photos (selfies) and one behind the scenes shot of her modeling. Anyway, we didn’t talk length of date or rate. Just set a time. What do I do here? Just show up with what I think she might be worth. I guess my hope is that she’s the type of person who doesn’t think about time like a provider would. The date could last an hour, could last three, who knows? My question is…is it my responsibility to ask what her donation is? If I do this, then it becomes transactional…I’m planning on not saying a word and just showing up with what I would have paid my friend who did the introduction. Any thoughts on this? I am over 50 but I assume a lot people on this board have a lot of experience. I would be grateful if you would share your thoughts.
Best,
Fod
Details of what she wants from you, or it will be the last time you may see her?
Ask the girl that set you up with her and then with that info find out up front what the deal is.
And, yes, it is your responsibility to YOU to know what is going on with this date/session, so it doesn't go sideways!
I did contact my ATF and she basically said… “ you set up a date without asking her her rate?!!” I eventually asked the girl and she sent her rate. She’s not a pro but she gets her work through referrals.
I’d give her the same amount you gave the previous woman. They will surely talk to each other. If you are not happy, move on