My ex girlfriend is an escort and she uses this site, I'm just wondering if any other guys have seriously dated an escort also. How do you turn off your feelings knowing that at this moment another man is with her, I just couldn't handle it myself. And ladies I'm NOT judging just putting it out there to see if anyone else is in my situation or something similar. Also ladies do you tell men that you meet (not through escorting) what you do for a living? Like ive previously stated I'm NOT JUDGING im hurting... Happy New Year everyone And stay safe!
She is now retired to pursue other interests, but for a few years she continued to work as we dated.
I know it is tough for many guys to share the affections of a gal with another, but it didn't bother me as I looked objectively at the situation and our communication was good.
You have to know yourself well in order to figure out if this is for you or not.
If not, you need to break off things before they get out of hand
Did you stay in the hobby?
Are you still married?
Went down that path and it's not one I will ever consider again. To many issues, to much deceit, to many lies.
Not passing judgement on anyone else, but I would honestly tell you to walk away.
How is that different than any other civie relationship? Once you break up, she'll be banging the next guy -- and probably love him too
Look at it this way. How could a woman POSSIBLY seriously date a guy who has paid for pussy?
I mean how could she possibly turn off her feelings, knowing her man is likely to be fucking "some ho" at any moment of the day or night?
I suppose it's really tough if you only have a three inch pecker, knowing "your" woman is getting SO much more from other guys. lmao
I suppose the good news is, your loss may be my gain. Since you so cowardly made this post under an alias, for all we know I might be fucking your ex this very evening. I am sure once I get past the "used part" I will end up with a virgin. lmao
Let's be real, we both know the score in this situation. We both know this scenario is a challenge to mentally deal with, not everyone can handle it.
So as "cowardly" as he was for using an alias, a little humanity is appropriate.
Life is pretty harsh. The OP seems to be looking for validation of his feelings - that somehow P4P is unclean and dirty. I resent that attitude. In other words.... Ga G is right. The OP was judging despite the words. GaG was just being an asshole about it which is what he does. I will say it's a much more direct and entertaining approach than mine
Just the tone in which it was stated. The holidays can be a tough time for some and dealing with relationship woes can really be problematic.
If this lady is being upfront and honest about her activities, then he either accepts it or moves on. To me, he appears like he can't mentally cope with the situation. If that's the case, it's in their collective best interest to move on
I would recommend posting on a Suicide Prevention site then
not
The TER Fuck Board
Some people will understand this post, others will not. I'll leave it to someone else to explain to those who don't have a clue as to what I meant.
My wife was doing this and wanted me to play here too. And guess what, It helped. Dating or in my case being married to a sex worker can be tough. You must come to grips that regardless of how good looking, skilled in bed, funny, rich, intelligent or whatever, your woman may have a client that is more so, yet she still choose you. That was tough for me and GaGambler and others here forced me to face reality. Sometimes being an ass is a real help. I am glad GaGambler plays that role so I don't have to. I think the OP needed it.
If the OP tells me her name, I promise not to fuck her until she has been in my city at least two weeks. By way of a good example, I'm showing him a little respect here. Actually, very little, but that's besides the point.
Ga. Gambler,
Funny how you call him out for posting under an alias, yet, while you may have the most posts among guys on this site, you are doing the exact same mother effing thing.
You don't impress anyone with your total posts and hoe board prose captain of the keyboard pussy posse.
You Must Be An Expert in three inch peckers too. In fact your pecker probably can't muster the strength to get up so you post so much by living vicariously through all these other posts and stories, yet feel good about yourself by your straight shooting verbal diatribes. Whatever Makes you feel better about yourself and helps you look in the mirror each day and put up with yourself.
Seriously, with the number of posts you have what kind of life do you really have or live. Your posting quantity suggests you may have an addiction problem and you should take a long look in the mirror. Can you even go three months without looking at an escort review board or will you go through withdrawal and require intervention.
Happy New Year King Of The Alias Ass Hats!
Sincerely
Alias
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I am hardly posting under an alias.
and I am not the guy coming on here whining about falling in love with a hooker and then hating himself and her because she fucks other guys. Do you feel sympathy for him, or empathy? From the tone of your post, I would guess the latter.
GaGa is correct as posting monikers which appear in this greenish blue color are not "aliases" in the TER realm. Of course we are all using aliases as no one would be moronic enough to be using their real identities posting on an adult message board, but the TER version of an alias appears in black colors just like the OP has chosen to post under a TER alias. Yours truly and GaGa post under our main handles and these are not aliases of main posting handles. Therefore, I concur with his opinion that the OP must be a VIP member of this forum and in the most likelihood an active or recently active monger.
Back onto the topic, we have seen this story many, many times in the past that guys pay for p*ssy and then they "fall in love" with their hookers post coitus. To the majority of these types, stop looking for GFs and / or love in all the wrong places, be it with hookers or with sugar babies. Once you have directly paid for p*ssy (please spare me that false equivalency argument about you pay for it even if in a civvie relationship or in a marriage!), your chances of having a successful monogamous relationship with love being one of its most crucial elements is incredibly low. If you accept to become polyamorous or adapt the swingers lifestyle, you may have better odds of making this route work.
Make him pay for pussy too. lol!
I mean how could she possibly turn off her feelings, knowing her man is likely to be fucking "some ho" at any moment of the day or night?
I suppose it's really tough if you only have a three inch pecker, knowing "your" woman is getting SO much more from other guys. lmao
I suppose the good news is, your loss may be my gain. Since you so cowardly made this post under an alias, for all we know I might be fucking your ex this very evening. I am sure once I get past the "used part" I will end up with a virgin. lmao
For all we know he's just a lovesick john who "thinks" she's his GF. It's not like we have any shortage of those types here.
Honestly, some guys, actually most guys, simply don't have the temperament to have a hooker as a GF. The OP is admittedly one of those people. That doesn't make him a bad person, but coming on here whining about it and then claiming he is "not judging" does open him up to ridicule, and ridicule is one of the things I do best, or so I have been told. lol
Yeah I said that it doesn't masks him a bad person in my reply that hasn't posted yet. Not sure what the hold up is. But if it doesn't work it doesn't work.
Honestly, some guys, actually most guys, simply don't have the temperament to have a hooker as a GF. The OP is admittedly one of those people. That doesn't make him a bad person, but coming on here whining about it and then claiming he is "not judging" does open him up to ridicule, and ridicule is one of the things I do best, or so I have been told. lol
...of course he doesn't like girls who use their own judgement, when it comes to their vagina and their pleasure.
He must not have known there are whores around these parts
that are proud to be whores.
GaG,
You drag people out of their Comfort Zone and show them a new way of looking at things.
All that coddling he evokes in others
will only encourage more of the same activities that aren't working for him.
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This guy made it sound like he was just jumping on the board to ask a question. But there's no brown envelope. Hmmmm. Hmmmmm.
He must not have known there are whores around these parts
that are proud to be whores.
GaG,
You drag people out of their Comfort Zone and show them a new way of looking at things.
All that coddling he evokes in others
will only encourage more of the same activities that aren't working for him.
-- Modified on 12/31/2016 5:39:15 AM
It was part of my calling him out as an alias.
The fact that he even has an alias PROVES he is VIP, the fact that he is VIP doesn't quite "prove" he sees hookers, but it's pretty damn close and that proves he's a hypocrite. It's ok for him to fuck hookers AND pay for the privilege, but it's not okay for her to make a living. I bet you he met her as a customer as well, and that would make him the ultimate hypocrite.
Even drunk, there is a method to my madness. lol
Quit for each other? haha. that's a good one. Sure, why not? I am game if you are. I can quit anytime I want to. I just don't want to. lmao. I wonder if it's too late to catch a plane to Chicago?:
And I don't date outside the hobby. Although I do have an 18 year old fuck buddy, whom I will soon be filming 18+ amateur videos with...but, while we love and respect one another (as friends) we obviously aren't in love.
Not passing judgement, but when I'm in love, I'm monogamous...except, I have in the past, enjoyed adding select women to join us for occasional fun. Not so much for my benefit (although I really enjoyed it) but because I loved pleasing my SO/partner.
If the shoe were on the other foot, I would not fall in love with a male escort, or adult industry worker...because I, personally, could not accept the fact he was having sex and especially KISSING other women.
Not an easy decision to make, but probably the right one. It's not wise to have a regular or real S/O, while working or participating in the hobby.
I adore you Robbin! I'd get divorced and marry you in a heartbeat. See you again in 2 weeks.
I'm already divorced, so things will move along faster. 
You just put the biggest smile on my face...Thank You Very Much! Love,
Robbin
xox
Oh, I've been in love with you since you started on this forum 2-3 years ago. 
Love,
Robbin
xoxo
Don't anything silly, being my lover is purrrfect!
See you, again, in a few weeks...Yayyy!
Love,
Robbin
xoxo
You didn't say is WHY she's your ex.
Jealousy drive a wedge?
She got tired of you broaching the subject?
She took off with another guy?
Maybe it's the old detective in me but I'm sensing we are only getting half the story.
First of all, your specific question and the context which you presented can be quite different:
The tile states "love" whereas in the first sentence of your text you mention "seriously dated" which I find ambiguous. I interpret your situation as being in love rather than the kind of love between two friends, whereby you naturally care for each others' well being (perhaps one party more so than the other, but let's say equally for the sake of this argument!) and have genuine common interests, mutual fun, moments to share and to remember, etc; but you do not have all the delicious (harmful later on when things go awry) hormonal releases associated with "being in love". Am I correct?
Quite a few men are able to "date" an escort for a multitude of reasons which oppose what biology imposes on us (the male species) ranging from nefarious reasons such as being abusive (to her), feeling entitled to her earnings (some escorts treat their SOs rather lavishly) or something as benign as just feeling great about not having to pay for the p*ssy of a working girl whom many men have to pay to play, or for self degrading and denigrating ones such as the enjoyment of being a cuckold!
To be in love with an escort means that you must be prepared to offer (almost) unconditional emotional support which significantly reduces the number of the men who can stay in that kind of relationship for a long term. We are just not programmed in that way by Nature. In fact among all the mongers on here who have come and gone in my last 7-8 years of being on TER (different monikers) I can only think of Mr. Fisher and Scoed who are ostensibly in love with their SOs who are former escorts!
is not for everyone. It takes a guy who is confident and experienced with women, so you know if you are really a "boyfriend" or just a favorite "customer." One of the ways girls hang onto their regulars is by playing the boyfriend charade. There are many nuances to look for to determine if you have a genuine relationship or not, but the most telling is this: If you are paying or helping her financially anymore than you would a civvie girl you met at work or in a club, then you are really a customer and not a boyfriend. I have had four longer-term relationships with working girls, and each one got to a point within four to six weeks where the girl makes a declaration: "You're my boyfriend, so you don't have to pay anymore." Until you hear that, think what you want, but you are just a customer.
but you don't pay any less either.
8o)
Activities, meals, etc., as I would for a civvie girlfriend. Once it's clear I'm the outside boyfriend and not paying for sex anymore, I treat them exactly like I would a civvie girlfriend. That's the key to making it last, IMO. The real life relationship is their escape from the fantasy world they work in, so keeping it as real as possible helps them distinguish between customer and boyfriend. The trickiest part is making the transition when you met them as a customer. Many potential relationships blow up at this point unless you play it just right. It was a multi-year learning curve for me before I figured it all out.
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If she wasn't in 'this' business chances are you never would have met her. Mind games can be your friend in 'this' world
...your issues. But I do remember worrying a bit for her safety though just because you just never know. She is pediatrician now in Columbus OH. So if you live in or around there she just might be your kid's doctor
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I was in a serious relationship with an escort before I ever became one. I didn't know at first but she eventually told me. A few times I was actually there to see her in action and it surprisingly didn't bother me in the least. I joined in on some but not all. Anyways, after seeing the lack of emotion on her part, it made me realize that it was purely just a job to her. After that, I never had an issue with what she did.
I am typically a "your mine, I don't share" type but I didn't see her escorting as anything more than a way for her to get money. Thanks to her, I was introduced to the Hobby. I do take a more emotional/GFE approach than she did but that's just how I am.
Because of our communication and actually seeing her in action, I had a different view of what she did. I think in normal circumstances I wouldn't be pleased if my SO was an escort. In the end, it all comes down to how your relationship is with her.
If my bf was an escort I'd be pissed off lol. If he liked to hobby, it depends on how our relationship is. If I felt that I wasn't losing a part of him to another, I'd be fine with it as long as I know it's only about getting his rocks off.
...but if a bf was seeing escorts and felt no way about them, emotionally, wouldn't he feel the same about his gf?
(just a general question and not directed at person I quoted)
If you say that is not true that he could still have very real feelings for a gf, then why would you assume that escorts can easily be satisfied by her clientele because she gets physical with them? If clientele fulfilled all the needs of an escort then they wouldn't bother with bf's or partners. Funny that they still are open to love and forever after, eh?
Double standard: guys can have sex without emotions and love involved but never, ever could a woman be capable of the same thing.
News Flash: woman are not easily swayed to cheat or leave a partner because someone else has a bigger dick.
It's because men are visual and picture their girl with other men. They can't handle that because of insecurities that they might be better at something then he is. What men don't realize is that for the most part women do not put as much stock in sexual abilities or dick size when it comes to choosing a 'long-term' partner. That's only figment of the male imagination. And women allow you to have that (imagination), when it suits them....lol . Women rule the world lol
If my bf was an escort I'd be pissed off lol. If he liked to hobby, it depends on how our relationship is. If I felt that I wasn't losing a part of him to another, I'd be fine with it as long as I know it's only about getting his rocks off.
First of all, I've known several atfs who dated hobbyists, and a few eventually married one. Each one treated the marriage entirely differently. One quit the business, and both stayed monogamous. One stayed in the business, but only allowed a non mutual fbsm, while he wasn't allowed to play. Two stayed in the business, and did not allow their husbands to partake. And lastly, two of them had open marriages. If the lady was going to work, the gentleman was allowed to hobby, solo, or doubles with escort wifey (Does hobbyist hubby get a discount?).
If it were me, I'd have to either be both in, or both out. There's no way I could do one in, and one out. My other issue is that I want to be the best lover my wife has ever had. How is that possible if escorts and hobbyists marry each other? We've both had thousands of lovers. The odds that we're both each other's best is pretty slim. There's always that cock that's bigger than mine. And there's always that tongue that can do more rpms. But it's a moot point. I've done my time in marriage, and never again.
I also find Robbin's comment about Kissing fascinating.
The best lovers are those who are caring and respectful of their beloved.
Keep this foremost in mind when you are in such a relationship.
Good sex is icing on the cake
But I usually get over it during the drive home.
Agreed, though a few seem to stick with me for a while
Getting to the question at hand for the OP -- emotional discipline and control is probably something to work on if you are going to stay in the hobby. Not sure how old the OP is but if he's in this game he's old enough to understand the idea.
Your definition of "love" is flawed.
Your demand that another human being Be a certain way or
you will not flow love to them is the Need to CONTROL outside influences
for your Happiness.
You NEED her to be a certain way or "No Cookies for you".
You depend on their attention, admiration, and devotion for your Happiness,
not realizing the love you want is Inside of you.
You may not be "judging" ,,,,
You certainly don't know where to look for love
or what it is.
Certainly may be looking in the wrong place but sometimes, even in the hobby, forces of nature mix with our own unique alchemy to form emotional connections whether we rightly or wrongly call them love. I get some of the heartbreak here. My circumstances are quite different but what I am feeling and dealing with at the moment feel very real. I also get the commentary about being flawed. We can all look within and find our own unique levels of that as well. Here's to a New Year and all us finding a path to happiness or at least some sense of contentment within.
Look there
Move through it
Get Control of your Thoughts
Is Not
True Love
Human sexuality and emotion, are complex. And many of us marry or date within our socioeconomic strata.
I knew one top Vegas escort, saw her as a client years back, that had bought a pool cleaning business for her husband. Many of the Vegas mongers knew her as Roxy. She unfortunately died of an accidental opioid OD.
I knew an escort back east, saw her frequently when traveling, who at her husband's urging once, invited me over to their home after our appointment, and took pics of us doing it. He had a good job, they had a nice home, he was just a freak who enjoyed the extra money wifey brought in and he really got off on watching other dudes rail his old lady.
I saw an escort in San Diego once whose picture window in her condo was covered with a sheet of plywood. I asked her about it and she said her BF had found out she was escorting (the lies and deceit mentioned further up the thread) and had thrown a brick through the window when he found out.
I feel in love with my ATF a decade back, or at the least had very strong feelings for her and told her so. Trips to LA, Vegas, spent a lot of time with her. But I was aware enough to realize that although she valued me as a friend and client, the feelings were not mutual. I kept my head, realized the relationship for what it was and eventually moved on.
MfSD>>>>
Love is Beautiful.
I look for the Love feeling in Everything and Everyone.
It Is The Best of All Feelings to Feel in every moment of life.
*Don't get it confused with Control.
Love is an Allowing of all things to be who and what they are.
You have a Choice.
Huh??
There is nothing wrong with men and women being desirous of monogomous relationships.
Theoretically, if I told a lady early in a relationship that I liked to hobby, I can't imagine casting even the slightest judgement on her for wanting to move on, for not being willing to fully accept me.
For many, it is about 100% self-giving, and wanting to be with someone who aspires to the same.
That is not about control.
That is not about NOT knowing what love is.
Monogomy is a quite natural desire actually.
I think she's more saying he's trying to make someone into someone else so he can love her - which as we all know - doesn't work.
I remember a guy trying to get me to shop at Banana Republic. When we walked in there, I think that was the start of the downfall of our relationship lmao! The clothes seriously looked like they were made out of boxes - lol!
Ok, part of the downfall was that he wanted to change my clothing style, and also wasn't going to pay for them. lol! That's a trouble that does come with dating a sugar baby or an escort. You want her to change for you, but won't fund it.
This is kind of a parallel to someone picking a short brunette escort who has a soft body, but when she walks through the door, he expects her to be tall, blonde, and athletic. And then gets upset that she's not! lol!
There is nothing wrong with men and women being desirous of monogomous relationships.
Theoretically, if I told a lady early in a relationship that I liked to hobby, I can't imagine casting even the slightest judgement on her for wanting to move on, for not being willing to fully accept me.
For many, it is about 100% self-giving, and wanting to be with someone who aspires to the same.
That is not about control.
That is not about NOT knowing what love is.
Monogomy is a quite natural desire actually.
I completely get what you are saying, but IMO she went well beyond that in her critique of the original poster.
He brought up very natural human thoughts - which to me don't speak of control.
Perhaps he now understands himself better, and won't allow himself to go down this road again, becoming involved with someone who isn't really available for the type of relationship he desires.
Relationships are great - learning about another, loving, compromising, growing - but both parties need to be realistic and upfront about what they are really looking for. If they just aren't on the same page with the biggies (monogomy, desire for kids, etc.), then it's most likely not going to work out long term. Nothing wrong with being a realist in this regard.
I have Never witnessed one.
and, Why do they desire Monogamy?
I will tell you it is about
Control of the genitals.
Control of where the person gets their Pleasure.
Control of where the person places their Attention.
Some people like to live in a Fantasy Land built up with Lies.
As long as that is working out for you,,,,Great!
I am here with my viewpoint showing you My Truth.
I encourage you to convince me otherwise.
I don't want to convince you otherwise.
I don't think any words would do this.
I certainly have a 180 degree different opinion from you, based on my life experience, and people I've known, lots of happily married people who are monogomous.
Does it mean life is a fairy tale? Hardly.
But it's also a far far cry from your bleak vision of monogomy only being about genital control.
If that is the take that your life experiences have lead you to have - so be it.
You live in your reality - I'll live in mine.
All the best...
I do not require monogamy for Happiness.
I have seen people Lie and live two lives, to the detriment of their emotional health.
I believe a human being's ability and capacity to Love
is far more expansive than just one person.
Monogamy-
It would be like pulling my wings off, putting me in jar, and watching me circle the bottom
Make your happiness the way you see fit.
However, I don't think monogomy limits one's opportunity to show love - on the contrary, I think it challenges love to grow in new depths every day (and if not worked at, will die).
Please note, I know I am on a Fuck Board and this is an odd place perhaps to be defending the POSSIBILITY of being content living in a monogomous relationship lol! (but my initial post was merely to point out that what the guy was "feeling" was as normal as can be - even if he obviously should have had more self-awareness than to start dating a provider if he wanted a monogomous relationship).
I love this! I have a guy who says, "Pick a flower and it will die." I love that quote - you can't make something work that just doesn't work for you.
xoxo
Your demand that another human being Be a certain way or
you will not flow love to them is the Need to CONTROL outside influences
for your Happiness.
You NEED her to be a certain way or "No Cookies for you".
You depend on their attention, admiration, and devotion for your Happiness,
not realizing the love you want is Inside of you.
You may not be "judging" ,,,,
You certainly don't know where to look for love
or what it is.
Aren't you more concerned that everyone who has read this thread considers you her ex-pimp?
Many years ago, in my first year in the hobby, I fell in love with my ATF. We had some common interests and some great chemistry, and compared to almost any regular woman that I ever dated, she was really low maintenance and generally relaxing to be around. I didn't like to think about how she made a living, but she didn't have the education or skill to make more than minimum wage in a legal job, and I didn't earn enough money at that time to support her and her kids.
Unfortunately, around the time we started spending OTC time together, she was starting to smoke meth. Over the next few months, she lost too much weight, wasn't working enough, and kept hitting me up for loans to fix her car. Turned out that it wasn't her car that needed a fix. I dumped her, she got into some trouble and spent some time in county jail and got clean. We were on again/off again after that, and eventually I worked as her driver for a while. That was the worst, sitting in my car waiting. Trying really hard to not think about what was happening inside, but staying alert in case I need to kick in a door and rescue her.
Eventually, she got into trouble again, and had to spend a year in prison. We weren't together anymore, she was with a heroin dealer at the time, and they were both using. I finally got on with my life and met my current SO. My former ATF got out, clean again, and gradually put her life back together. We haven't talked in over a decade, but I found her facebook page a few years ago. She seems to be doing okay now.
Yikes!
Unfortunately, around the time we started spending OTC time together, she was starting to smoke meth. Over the next few months, she lost too much weight, wasn't working enough, and kept hitting me up for loans to fix her car. Turned out that it wasn't her car that needed a fix. I dumped her, she got into some trouble and spent some time in county jail and got clean. We were on again/off again after that, and eventually I worked as her driver for a while. That was the worst, sitting in my car waiting. Trying really hard to not think about what was happening inside, but staying alert in case I need to kick in a door and rescue her.
Eventually, she got into trouble again, and had to spend a year in prison. We weren't together anymore, she was with a heroin dealer at the time, and they were both using. I finally got on with my life and met my current SO. My former ATF got out, clean again, and gradually put her life back together. We haven't talked in over a decade, but I found her facebook page a few years ago. She seems to be doing okay now.
... and 50% about what we're willing to overlook about the other person. It's this part that makes or breaks every relationship
I think it is 100% possible to have a client or just a regular guy fall in love with a escort. We are human people to with feelings. I think the man or client has to full understand that the escorting is just a job. There could be tons of emotional connection with her in her clients but at the end of the day, they have there families to go home to if married and or have girlfriends etc. It is very possible to become in love with a women that does this and we can as well shut of certain feelings and know their just a client. I think overall it does take a very special confident man to be able to handle this sort of thing we do. Sorry you feel so hurt.
If not, or if so, don't try to make something work for you that doesn't work.
It's hard, and I know that because I have dated someone who was not at all involved in this industry. It was very difficult - but the difficulties came through two humans trying to make something work - that just didn't.
And I will not do it again. He wasn't a bad guy per se, but for each other? It was intoxicating and toxic at the same time. For both of us.
However, we weren't "serious". He friend zoned me, and didn't give me enough sex - so that option was more out because of the lack of sex on my end. lol!
I've told a guy I dated what I do, and that's when I learned for my level of evolution, that it doesn't work for me - so I just don't date outside of this. I get plenty of love and attention here (and money) and am having the time of my life. lol!
Good luck, but I say if you can't handle it, try finding a girl somewhere else. If you see escorts, yeah - you can't really judge.
xoxo
Courtney (for now at least. muahahahaha)
It proves he is VIP, which means either he pays for the privilege of being here, OR he writes reviews.
Either way, it's pretty obvious he sees hookers, So IMHO he's a hypocrite and my earlier post stands, even though it was made a with a full bottle of wine and a half a bottle of tequila in me. Here it is 18 hours or so later and MUCH more sober and I feel the exact same way.
Are cognac induced. But then I wake up the next day and it's not so brilliant anymore. 😆
Silly me. Yes he has an alias. Wtf was I thinking?
I'm not going to shame him for seeing escorts, but it's kind of annoying when captain save a ho patronizes escorts to leave the industry for love (with no payment).
Either way, it's pretty obvious he sees hookers, So IMHO he's a hypocrite and my earlier post stands, even though it was made a with a full bottle of wine and a half a bottle of tequila in me. Here it is 18 hours or so later and MUCH more sober and I feel the exact same way.
and let them know beforehand what I do for a living. I can't see how a typically monogamous guy would be able to handle the jealousy issues that come with dating an escort. As hard as it is dating an escort it's even harder dating while being an escort. Most of the time you have one of two choices...to lie about what you do or to be truthful and risk the other person's judgement and derision. I'm happy I discovered the poly community as most are pretty non judgemental and relaxed about it and I hate lying. I still feel as if I need to have a "falling in love" fund though.
You date guys who wear polyester suits? I thought they went out with Nehru jackets!
Lol this woman can't resist a man in a polyester suit.
...as long as she doesn't care if I fuck around, then I'm okay with her doing the same, especially if she doesn't charge me. But then, I'm an old fuck and not looking for a long term gig.
Or loves his girl sucking on others guys dicks why hes thinking of his love for her.
I kind of always figured that. Glad to have conformation. It explains why so many squirrels hang around my house.
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My wife, who is a sex worker, is an amazing loving, kind, and patient woman. She makes me laugh with her humor. She lifts me up when I am down. She celebrates my victories. She is an amazing mother. She makes me want to be a better man. She is an easy woman to love.
Loving a sex worker is like loving any woman. You take her as she is. A person's way of support is part of who they are, just not all. But I don't think how do you love a sex worker is the real question. I think how do you deal with the jealousy, feelings of inadequacy, and worry that can come with it.Am I right?
First you need to realize sex is not love. Your SO may have many "O"'s with her clients. She may even like them as people. My wife does. But here is the thing my wife comes home to me. She gets to just be her with me, not the perfect but false version she presents her clients. I have sex with other women and she has sex with many others of both sexes, yet we only love in that special way SO do, each other.
Second, you both have to be honest and have constant communication. I have been married 13 years to my wife. I still make it a point as does she to talk daily. And I mean really talk. We still go out on dates. I still dress up for her and her me on these dates. When honesty and communication waine drifting happens. When that coupled with the hobby, things go down hill real fast.
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Scientists estimate that only 3-5% of mammals are monogamous. It is not a natural condition in the animal kingdom!! So much strife has been created by this societal pressure--- it has caused incalculable damage!! Why can't we love more than one person intimately--who created this barrier, and why?? IMHO this is another example of the devastating effects organized religion has had on our society!!
like you are confusing sex with love. Maybe you should ask the swingers on this site this question. For me, I could easily fall in love with a few of the ladies I've seen and gotten to know. I would have no problem with her enjoying her career. After all, it's her heart I would be interested in.
I think it takes a guy who ever enjoys his lady being desired and taken by others...or just a mind set that she is yours at the end and the start of all days. The time she is with other men is tantric.
Not easy and impossible for some.
est answer I've ever read to this ever-repeating question. Good on ya Caressa!!
Not easy and impossible for some.
So while there are many escorts who treat clients like any customer would wish to be treated in a business transaction - with honesty, fairness, and respect - some sex workers are aiming to hustle as much cash out of their clients as they can. These girls are master manipulators and don't see the client as a person - the clients are just tricks, fruit ripe for the picking. How many working girls would gladly let a client pay triple what guy the hour before paid, and yet their service was the exactly the same? In any other profession, that would be scandalous and perhaps land the businessperson in court. It's the lack of a moral compass I've seen in the profession that leads me to believe dating a working girl will most likely end up in pain and hurt.
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Honest Living?
escorts vs Cable companies
Discuss
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