A better question would be what is the available pool of woman where they are? Where are they geographically and what are venues where desirable woman dwell? Also what is the concentration of women where they live? These are all questions that you should ask because that will tell you what is available to them. It will also tell you the places that many eligible bachelorette might be and the networks that those men have. Finally would they find these women primarily on the job, through church groups and would they know of any social groups where eligible and desirable bachelorette would hang out? Finally I am also thinking of the Machiavellian principle of familiarity breeds contempt. Considering that they have been an item for so long, they know when the whining and nagging starts because they have satiated their needs for so long. Henceforth so they can coexist they go out and participate in these and other activities to keep their sanity and hopefully prolong their relationships while getting their needs met.
Why do so many of you guys marry over bearing, naggy, fat, unattractive women? I was just doing some holiday shopping, and all day long, I saw these guys being dragged around by their wives who are yelling and fussing and complaining. It's like "Bob, what do you think of that? Bob, what do you think of this? Bob, come here. Bob, go do this." It gave me a headache and I'm not even married to them. I'm starting to understand why some of you hobby. But seriously, why do so many men settle. I could maybe see if if she was hot, then putting up with some shit might make sense. But these women aren't even.
Those ladies were probably gorgeous. In due time these ladies lost their looks. So now they're bitchy and crabby to their husbands. Just my opinion. I've never been Married.
Is that most guys are too timid to trade up when, and if, things go South. My wife was 5-2 and 104 when I married her, and 106 20 years later when she passed away. She stayed trim and hot because she know if she didn't, she would become my ex-wife. Wives get fat because their husbands tolerate it. Of course, men have to keep themselves in shape, too, as the quid pro quo for expecting her to remain hot. I never had to hobby or cheat during those 20 years. I wasn't going to sweat her over the two pounds. As far as hobbying, it may LOOK like I'm making up for it now, but has nothing to do with her looks.
and maybe 125-130 when I divorced her. Not morbidly obese by any stretch of the imagination, but mentally and especially in her attitude she had aged 20 years in about our last two years together. I was too young to be old (still am) so I bought my freedom. Best money I ever spent.
I am positive if we had stayed together, I would be old and miserable today. Most guys in their late fifties are "old" I still feel and act like a kid and I feel quite comfortable being around people 30-40 years younger than me. I know a lot of guys my age feel "weird" going on an actual "date" with a girl 30 years younger then them, but I am the opposite, I feel weird with women over 40 as they expect me to be interested in them sexually and I am just NOT interested.
dating women over 40. However, I will admit to dating a few Asian women just north of 40 that can still pass for under 30. Otherwise, like you, no sexual attraction for me.
It was a very pleasant surprise in one case.
I had been seeing a Thai girl who advertised as 25, but actually looked quite a bit younger. It wasn't exactly dating, as I still paid her for our BCD time, but we would often have a one hour paid "session" followed by 6-8 hours of dinner, movies or what ever. I liked her, but she seemed "so" young.
It turned out she was very good friends with a friend of an ex girlfriend who I knew VERY well as we had/have been friends for several years, we ran into each other at Thai Temple one Sunday, as a lot of Thai hookers go to Temple on Sunday partly for "spiritual" reasons and partly for the great food they serve there on Sunday. AAR I knew exactly how old my friend was, (mid thirties) but I was shocked when my "new friend" admitted she was older than her. It turns out she was 38 years old and experienced Asian fucker that I am, I still thought she was early twenties.
I was actually pleased to find out her real age as she was starting to become a "real" GF and a twenty year age difference is better than 30+ when you are in a "real" relationship.
CDL and I are definitely in the minority where it comes to "old broads" If you read the posts here and the regional boards you will find "most" of the guys here prefer the more "mature" ladies over the young ones that I prefer.
besides, you have GREAT tits
(for an old broad of course. lol)
besides, you have GREAT tits
(for an old broad of course. lol)after showing a co-worker a you-tube video of a girl I had been with, his response was.....
How are you going to go back to driving a mini-van after driving a Ferrari!
Her video is under "Jenna Exotic" and she is long gone from here.
I am positive if we had stayed together, I would be old and miserable today. Most guys in their late fifties are "old" I still feel and act like a kid and I feel quite comfortable being around people 30-40 years younger than me. I know a lot of guys my age feel "weird" going on an actual "date" with a girl 30 years younger then them, but I am the opposite, I feel weird with women over 40 as they expect me to be interested in them sexually and I am just NOT interested.
when we are in Florida next year..............just an FYI some men actually LIKE plus size women and looks are subjective, because someday we will ALL be old and unattractive per say, and the fact that she was asking his opinion on stuff sounds pretty cool to me, i actually enjoy getting my husbands opinion when we are shopping, i dont consider it nagging...........so glad to know who the "ugly" people are in this world known as hobbying......oh and by the way i AM one of those fat wives.....but im fucking hot!!!!
Agree with you TOTALLY! For someone (not so hott cheese) who post this is just plain ugly.
Starting get to sound like GaGambier and kind of liking it
Actually I have to agree with the OP.
It's not "why did they get married?" it's why do they stay with such nasty, troll like creatures who are ugly, both inside and out?
Don't get me wrong, some guys are married to some very decent, kind caring women who might not be that attractive on the outside. Those aren't the marriages I, or the OP (I think) are talking about. It's the guys (and this goes for women too) who are married to some very ugly women, I mean nasty inside and out, someone like Fancy is what comes to my mind, why don't these guys simply "GET OUT"???
So why do you feel you have to shoot the messenger? That is very UN GaGambler like IMHO. lol If she were hot would you be more likely to agree with her?
first off....i AM hotttttt, just a plus sized hot!!! and VERY proud of my looks.......second looks ARE subjective, if someone is "unatractive" when they got married, clearly the other person found something OTHER than looks that they loved about that person, and third why is asking your husband an opinion or asking them to do or get something considered nagging as the OP states, some men appreciate being asked for help, and being helpful.......i value my husbands opinion over anyone elses.......and as far as why men dont just leave, some men love their wives and dont find them a chore. life is too short to be hateful to and about people.
Nawwww, I'm not buying your bs.
I've seen Brie when she lived here in CA.
She's sweet, nice, extremely fit!
She asked a legit question.
Sounds like your attitude is simply because you're the kind of woman she mentioned.
Didn't hear you say anything about treating the ole hubby better, did I
I've seen Brie when she lived here in CA.
She's sweet, nice, extremely fit!
She asked a legit question.
Sounds like your attitude is simply because you're the kind of woman she mentioned.
Didn't hear you say anything about treating the ole hubby better, did I?
Dude, my hubby is WELL taken care of and treated great, we dont argue and get along great, he has NO complaints.......other than we havent been able to hobby as much as we would like, so YOUR argument is invalid......
I've seen Brie when she lived here in CA.
She's sweet, nice, extremely fit!
She asked a legit question.
Sounds like your attitude is simply because you're the kind of woman she mentioned.
Didn't hear you say anything about treating the ole hubby better, did I?
Which is like an in real life 4 or 5. See the point I am making toots?
How the hell do you know, clown?
I've seen her in person multiple times.
That body is a 10...flat out.
She's a pretty petite blonde.
She threw down first by calling others unattractive, Tubby. Look at her scores for looks. Look at my "likes." I win. Now scoot.
Scoot this, sport.
I don't give a damn about her scores
I've seen her.
You, on the other hand, are just talking out your azzz just to hear yourself talk.
And yes, she started a topic.
Guess it hit home with you? Wife/gf kind of fat n ugly?
I'd suspect that's the case.
Quite the mental midget I see. No need to keep reminding us you have bad taste. We get the picture. You are in love. Just say that upfront next time, gargoyle. Go home jagoff.
Was wondering just how stupid you are.
Good news!! I don't have to wonder any longer.
You're sitting on your brains and can't spell class and distinction.
Stick with the street walkers I'm sure they're more your style.
But your utter tool baggery has forced me.
YOU gave her a 10 for her body but gave her a 7 overall. So she has a 4 face then? You are a class A idjit and you are not helping this girl at all.
And PLEASE stop lecturing people here about "class and distinction" while at the same time you look down your fucking snooty nose at SW's. LOL
Guess what, booby? They ALL sell sex for money so take your head out of your ass and STOP WK'ing for a gal YOU gave a 7 too while running all over this thread telling us how hot she is! What a dope!
When I want advice from you, clown, I'll be sure to knock on your wooden head.
The girl's body is a Ten.
She's a triathlete and it shows.
I don't like tats...that's pretty clear.
If you can't understand that then just STFU and let us be unclear how stupid you are.
If you look at my reviews I don't dish out 9s and 10s
Not my style.
He is now up to 20 likes. Point made. But you will argue this to death bc you don't understand how people reacted negatively to this girl calling anyone "unattractive" when she is a TER 7, IRL 5.
I hope you have enough money to rent a clue as buying one is above your pay grade.
I am done with this thread and your hyper WK idiocy. Take the last word. As if anyone could stop you. 
and please keep in mind, I am one of the few NOT blasting her for her OP. I actually agree with her post, but PUHLEASE, Strangebrew is correct. a TER 7 is more like a 4 or 5 IRL.
Now before we forget, just why did you give her a 7 in appearance if you think she is so hot?
Pretty simple: I don't like tats.
Have said many times on many threads.
A TER 7 is like a four or five IRL.
As for scoring, you can sit there and drink coffee for the entire session and still be eligible for a 10 in appearance.
That said, I actually agree with your OP, I was married once and before becoming one of the pathetic men you spoke of in your OP, constantly being led around by the dick by some woman you no longer have even the slightest desire to fuck, I BOUGHT my freedom long before it ever got to that point and it was the best money I ever spent.
I don't think your attractiveness, or lack thereof have anything to do with your point. whether you are a ten or a negative two, I still agree with your point. I will concede your "fan" BocaBuster is doing you no favors and is simply making himself look either stupid or a liar or both. but that's on him, not you.
1. Her father is worth megabucks and some day she'll inherit her share
2. She wears [a clothing fetish] in a way no former girlfriend ever did
3. She allows me [a favorite sex act] as I never got it before
4. She cooks fabulous gourmet meals that satisfy my epicurean desires
5. She shares my weakness for [booze/wine/psychoactive substance]
6. I accidentally knocked her up and didn't run away afterwards
...with his supposition. Having been married, she wasn't fat, prone to nagging or uninterested in sex during the early years. After two kids and the havoc wreaked upon her body by those pregnancies (of course, she didn't exercise, eat right, etc.), yep -- an additional 75 pounds turned her former dancer's body into a couch potato's body. No interest in sex and, to be perfectly honest, I wasn't interested in having sex with her in that state.
So it's not so much "settling" as that the relationship had settled into that routine over the years. I finally got out and have found other women who didn't fit that mould. Lessons learned the hard way are those lessons best remembered.
So it's not so much "settling" as that the relationship had settled into that routine over the years. I finally got out and have found other women who didn't fit that mould. Lessons learned the hard way are those lessons best remembered.
I have a lot of Married friends who are miserable. In fact some of my Married friends ask me how I have such an upbeat and positive outlook. I tell them I've never been Married and play around with a lot of girls. I didn't mention the pay to play part.
1) Why is divorce so expensive? Because it's worth it.
2) Why do men usually die before their wives? They want to.
2) Why do men usually die before their wives? They want to.
Q: Why do men often die before their wives?
A: Because it's cheaper than divorce
Excited to see some of these comments....waiting to pull the trigger.
Now divorced. I bought into the white picket fence thing. Really didn't want to get married but that was expected. My ex was and is for her age pretty. However to expect 2 people to grow, mature and not grow apart over that many years is unlikely. Throw in resentment and the whole concept of marriage seems goofy.
People change.
Not just changed physically but also emotionally as well as personality. Some a little some a lot. Safe to say no woman stays the same after marriage.
Especially so after a kid or two. Sadly except for very rich celebrities having kids extract a horrible and horrendous toll on a woman's beauty. She is NEVER EVER going to be the same. Sad.
When dating and first getting married they need to impress. As time goes on they stop caring how they look and realize half of what you own is theirs. Imagine Sam Kinison as your wife.
search you tube for 'marry ugly girl'
or follow link below...it explains a lot lol
a few FAT girls in school, maybe one or two. The majority of girls were normal. Today, high schools and colleges are loaded with plus sized bitches who actually think they are attractive. Our boys are being confused. They get horney and will fuck anything in their path. Being young and stupid, they end up married and screwed for life. One more thing. Just because you have a baby is not license to put on 50 pounds for life.
ROTFL stuca - And I've seen some really hot women who have had two kids and still have a flat belly and don't nag constantly. It may be a Florida thing. IDK I'm not from here. lol
To have children....and as most women go thru changes with childbearing. However, all the nagging, IMO, comes with being around any woman for a long time. One reason for initially dating my wife, we were both athletes, and thought ahead about offspring. If you saw her today, you would think otherwise. I also waited till early 30's to marry, to make certain I was making the right decision. Coming home everyday to an empty house got old also.....Just my story, and I'm sure there are many different
A truly happy woman is a rare treasure. But generally they will conceal their unhappiness or perhaps while in the courtship phase they are actually happy. But it won't last. When you first started out, they saw potential in you, they had plans to remake you into the man they really wanted. But you know that never really happens, no one really changes. So it just becomes a habit to scold, nag, badger. Guys just take it because there really aren't alternatives. The next blushing bride is a few years away from being the next Mrs Ballbuster. Also men get divorce raped, so avoiding late life poverty is another reason to keep the missus around. More than 70% of divorces are initiated by women, so you know which direction the payoff goes.
Actually my wife was a sizzling hot blue eye perfect nod blond when we married....land pretty much the same today.
My question is why do dudes still book ladies with mediocre reviews and 7/7 scores ?
Sorry , but there is something about this post that annoys
My wife was like a model. She gained the weight over the years went from 135 to 310. She was forced to loose the weight after going through cancer treatment. She is now back down to 210. Woman can be bossy at times with the questioning, just a fact of life.
in your case it's "wishful thinking" lol
If your name was Deb, I would tell you to go hang yourself, but that would be "rude", that said I do happen to have some extra rope lying around, just saying...
A better question would be what is the available pool of woman where they are? Where are they geographically and what are venues where desirable woman dwell? Also what is the concentration of women where they live? These are all questions that you should ask because that will tell you what is available to them. It will also tell you the places that many eligible bachelorette might be and the networks that those men have. Finally would they find these women primarily on the job, through church groups and would they know of any social groups where eligible and desirable bachelorette would hang out? Finally I am also thinking of the Machiavellian principle of familiarity breeds contempt. Considering that they have been an item for so long, they know when the whining and nagging starts because they have satiated their needs for so long. Henceforth so they can coexist they go out and participate in these and other activities to keep their sanity and hopefully prolong their relationships while getting their needs met.
My regular provider told me at our last date that 95% of her clients are married businessmen, 95%!! She loses only 5% to attrition/turnover because of her high standards of caution, discretion and security. My ex gf, now a good friend tells me that 60%!! of her married gf`s at work cheat on their husbands. The common denominator here is pretty obvious.
What`s the glue that holds these marriages together? Kids, high cost of divorce, companionship etc.? What is the acid that erodes and dissolves them ?
I`m a single senior who loves being single. I can come and go as I please etc. etc. Downside of this for me is loneliness. Yeah, I admit it. Seeing a provider/s helps big time, the down n dirty sex, affection, friendship, laughter and bonding (not a bad deal when you think about it, right?) but when the hour is up it`s back to reality with some afterglow. I`ll take it, it`ll have to do for now. No doubt I`m in a happier place than some of my friends both male and female. Most of them can`t get out of their marriages and are totally in agreement with my hobbying and want to hear all about it with the juicy details. Others admonish me for it saying that I`m kidding myself, it`s not a real relationship, it`s not real love, it`s immoral etc. Common denominator here is that both sides want out of their marriages.......... Nope, I`ll stand pat and play my hand.
You don't know their story so why judge and especially demean other women for being "fat and ugly"? Well I will not doubt that some of these women are just horrible to be around (as my step mom fits that description exactly) the holidays are rough on everyone so tempers are going to fly. As for the fat part well that happens...Women get pregnant, gain weight and get pregnant again and gain some more weight and then become so weighed down by life that they cease to care about what they look like.
My dad has never left my step mom because they have kids and property together and it would be too damn expensive. I've always wondered if he hobbied and even did a little looking into it but I honestly think he's too tired and worn out to do anything other than get home from work and watch TV and eat a bowl of ice cream. Lesson to be learned: think really hard about kids before you have them.
Spot on, Breanna. People don't put enough thought into having kids. Also, one cause of the problem of climate change and pollution is...overpopulation! People need to stop popping out babies, or the entire planet is going to die. I'm no hypocrite; my ex-wife and I took custody of her niece when we were married, and that is my daughter. I'm not responsible for her being here, I didn't add to the global population, but I still had a daughter. People should REALLY consider adoption if they want kids. Besides the overpopulation problem, there are simply too many children out there who are unwanted by their parents.
However that is not the main reason I recommend to seriously reconsider reproducing. I definitely think that should be put into consideration looking at the bigger picture as people seem to be rewarded for having a lot of kids.
Having kids changes your life. If you are a woman your body changes permanently most of the time. If you are a man it makes it harder for you to choose divorce and then you have to pay child support or risk going to jail. Either way you lose your freedom and the ability to make life what you want it to be. I've heard the stupidest reasons to have kids from everything to keeping your bf/husband around to just liking babies (they grow up). I'm hoping there will be birth control for men soon because this will change a lot of thinga.
It's called a vasectomy. I had one at age 25.
I meant easily accessible and inexpensive birth control. Don't you need a legit reason to have a vasectomy? My friend got one at age 25 as well but it was because his ex wife had a medical condition where pregnancy would threaten her life.
The nurse did ask me "why" while I was in there, and my response was "The world's too evil." My vasectomy was done the day after 9/11. There was no argument to my response.
She had a coat that she wore that I teased her about and called her "pregnant coat" because that was exactly how it made her look. 5 months along.
She wasn't ugly, she was/is a sweet person. I fell in love with her because she was my friend for years before we dated and once we started dating I realized that despite her body shape, she was the best lay I had ever had. (And at that point I had been a "hobbyist" (though I didnt know the term at the time) for over 10 years.) To this day she gives the absolute BEST BBBJCIMNQNS I have EVER received. Unfortunately, she has a low libido. Sex is great when she/we have it, mind blowing even. It just happens so infrequently that I feel I still need to see providers to supplement.
She is still my best friend, and despite her ballooning up to 185 (at 5'3"), she still gives the best head ever, when she bothers. Plus we have kids, property, etc. That makes it cheaper to keep her. When the fat bothers me too much, I see a provider. When I have no sex for a month, provider. I stay because I still love her, just not her weight or lack of sexuality.
That's half the problem.
Seriously, though, it's complicated. For me it's marriage #2, only 15 years and I don't want divorce #2. She's still pretty, and still (usually) a great friend, but people change. My libido has increased, hers has gone to zero. Quiet conflicts can build up a thick layer of resentment that blocks intimacy. (And just like non-marital friendships, you can simultaneously resent and love someone.) Yeah, it's not all on the women - we guys are to blame too.
The nagging, especially after 2 glasses of wine, pushes me over edge.
If my wife was non-judgemental, was able to listen and had half the sex drive of you ladies, she could look like Santa Claus and I'd be happy. (OK, maybe not Santa, but tis the season ...)
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People from when they first got married to years later, change. We all do. For better or for worse. And love, a relationship, marriage, is more than just looks. Sure plenty of people are in bad ones but others aren't. Clients have all different reasons for being clients. It's not so black and white as some may think.
Me, I don't judge. You never know what is going on with other people.
When we met in 1968, my ex was really hot: long slender legs, gorgeous face, generous breasts, curvy waist and hips. She kept that for just a few years, then started to gain weight. I didn't like that she was gaining weight, but it never stopped me from loving her.
She didn't nag or complain, and wasn't overbearing. She never told me what to do, but she knew how to get what she wanted. We had a fantastic sex life for most of the years we were together, and she used sex as a reward and as punishment.
Some of the guys you see with those fat, unattractive women may be unhappy. Others are very happy. I never cheated on my ex. It was only after the divorce that I started seeing providers, and I love almost every one I've seen
when I met my wife, she could have made Kate Upton run home crying that she was ugly. I married way way way out of my league. She did gain weight into her fifties, but it was a direct result of several accidents. A broken leg (green stick fracture), a shattered kneecap (8 pieces) and then an auto wreck that splayed her ankle open like a flounder (we really thought she was going to lose her foot). All this over just 5 years. In fact, just after getting the pin out of her knee (a year after that accident) she started running again and got back down to less than 130lbs. Not bad for close to 50. Then the wreck and the continuous pain afterward. She was very stoic and really never complained, but you could see if she was on her feet for a long time, it swell up. She wasn't a nag, etc., etc., but we did grow apart. And in a totally fucked up decision, I started hobbying and once found out lost my family.
Ouch! Sad story Scb. None of my/our business but just curious as to how you got outed.
OK, it's kinda long.....
started out she was on my computer (which was a normal activity) and found 1 porn pic I had buried and forgot about. Well, that sent her into a tizzie and after a few days apart we made up and I agreed to never look at porn on the computer. I then went online and cancelled every membership, etc., etc. and bookmark (the bookmarks were on a fake email account). I was going to be a good boy from then on out as I saw how much just porn upset her and hobbying or not, I DID love her very much. Well, that night I told her that I "erased" everything so I just couldn't go back. Well, I thought I did-but must not have-deleted the history. So, early the next morning she says "Can you come in here please?" and there it was...my history from the day before and she had been through it all. Not just porn sites but Escort sites. The yelling and crying started, and like an idiot I went on to work. She on the other hand went to see a lawyer. The next couple of weeks were tough, we were separated kinda. I would stay on our boat at night, but come home when she was at work and cook meals, wash clothes, etc. And once a week we got together to pay bills (she immediately withdrew 50% of our checking and opened her own bank account). This whole time I am denying any adultery at all. Saying it was just a way to see cheap porn. Then the last time she asked me if I said sex with any of those women, instead of just saying NO as I had before, I said something stupid like "I'm not going to admit that" (not exact words) that I guess was an admission in itself. She called me later-screaming-that I better get a lawyer quick because she was going to file papers the next day, and ended the conversation with OBTW Happy Birthday you son of a bitch!!! (yes, it was my birthday). She drug out the divorce settlement, wanting everything until she met someone she couldn't let get away. A Captain in the Navy AND a Dentist....cha ching. So we made a kinda fair deal and it was over. The worst part is that she showed my son the stuff from the computer and my answers to her lawyers questions (and to this day I have not admitted to using escorts and won't) so he, nor my step daughter, have spoken to me in over 7 years.
So if you are married and care even a whit for your wife and family....stop mongering yesterday.
sorry it was so long, but you asked.
Why didn't you take the car keys away after the first accident?
“Husbands are like linoleum. If laid right the first time, you can walk all over them for the next 20 years.”
Also, Men marry women thinking they will never change and woman marry men thinking they will change them. Both are soon disappointed.
I've asked myself that very question hundreds of times.
Perhaps because I didn't know our world existed to the extent that it does.
I'm sure not going to attract the women I meet in our world if there isn't an arrangement, so it could be that I figured that she was the best I would get.
I did take notice of some of the guys from work at the office Xmas party, who are normally cool, fun to talk to, and when they are there with their wives they act as if they've been tied to a whipping post. And one of the ladies at work, who I always thought was a cool person, her husband looked like he has lost his soul. I can only imagine that some guy has said the same about me at some point. I'm just happy that I got out with some semblance of myself, I ain't falling for that shit again.
Speaking of being dragged around in the stores, I've only once sat in one of the "I no longer have a soul chair", you know the chair outside of the fitting rooms. Fuck that! Hell, I don't drag my woman out to the golf course, I have no idea why women insist on dragging their men out shopping. You want to go shopping, go. I'd rather throw up in my mouth.
Well said, Russ
But they choose to stay.
And contrary to what they might tell you, missy - it isn't just because of finances or the children.
And if their wife hasn't slept with them in months (or years), there's a reason for it - just like there's a reason they continue to stay with her under those conditions.
And, newsflash, many of those wives know what their husbands are up to but turn a blind eye to keep the peace in the house because sex (or how those needs are met) isn't a reason to destroy a household.
And for all that she isn't now compared to what she looked like when he first met her - he has changed too and usually in terms of performance, stamina and creativity more than appearance - and she still chooses to stand by him, stay with him and not call it game over because his value to her isn't limited to the bedroom.
She has had his children. She has put his health before hers when he was sick. She has lost sleep and sanity for their children. She has sacrificed the opportunity to live a different life by marrying a different man and chose him instead and doesn't spend the entire marriage reminding him of that (or he would have left by now).
Not all men who have mistresses or providers do it because they hate their wives or their wives are no longer "appealing" to teenage boys and old men alike. Many of them are still sleeping with their wives but due to many other reasons, it is preferable that he gets his sexual needs, specifically, handled outside the marriage bedroom to make life easier for both of them.
There's a lot you don't know yet and it would appear that almost all of those things have to do with meaningful relationships where there is actual love and commitment to someone else involved. Marriage is more than sex. If it were only about sex, men would lose their value after 25 and women would lose their value after the first child. Luckily, we are more evolved than lizards and alley cats and know that the real value in a relationship is the person, not what they look like.
Beauty has many definitions. Many of them look nothing like you. Shocking, eh? Welcome to adult life
...but we've rarely been the perfect gentlemen we are with great providers 24/7, and we certainly didn't know how to treat a woman right before we married the bear. So if you are gentle, friendly, toned, lusty and gorgeous, or even two of those, you wouldn't marry us in the first place!