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saturnsky 341 reads
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That differs with cultures. The Latin cultures and some Mediterranean are very expressive and tactile. Other cultures, more Asian and some European are more reserved and less demonstrative.

How that translates into the bedroom I am not totally sure. I think that may have something to do with how an individual is raised. I was raised very openly where sex and love were discussed freely, And affection was show between my parents openly. I am from the typical Caucasian family, non religious, so there was no oppression there.

Add all that together and it might translate to having an open view of sex and affection but as to whether it makes anyone hotter in the bedroom, not sure. I am pretty vanilla, with a big slant toward romance and sensuality. I have tried other things but found them unsatisfying sexually. I know what I like and run with it.

I don't want this to turn into some kind of 'racial' thread but I was curious about your answers and this is for the gals as much as the guys. In your experience, if you have been with partners of a different cultural ( or racial) background, or experienced sex in other foreign countries, do you feel that there is any difference in their sexual abilities  or sexual openness?  I've read where the top three countries where men ( but keep in mind these men are sexual tourists and may have other reasons, such as cheap prices and wanting to 'marry or bring home' some of the women from these respective countries) rated women as the best in bed were the women of Thailand, Brazil, Phillipines, and Cuba, in that order. Not one European country was mentioned.

Do you feel that this 'study' or 'poll' is biased in the sense that these men are solely going to these countries to find sex in general rather than stay here in America or Europe and experience providers or civvie women on their own? Is it to generalized to say that a 'certain culture' might be better in be than another culture, or that some men and women from certain countries are warmer and more receptive to good sex than others?


Take a note that the countries listed were all tropical countries with hot weather. My personal experience as a provider has taught me that in retrospect, there ARE some cultural differences when it comes to showing affection, although not necessarily bedroom ability. Being Asian American, I have often found that men from Asia, like Japan, are not as demonstrative with their affection ( and are also inherently shy) versus men from Latin America or from the United States in general. Conversely, I have also had men tell me that they felt that Northern European women were often 'cold' in bed and unresponsive. One client told me his experiences in England and Sweden left more to be desired . He said it was like trying to open a cold milk carton: the flaps were hard to open.

What are your opinions and thoughts regarding  different cultures and different sexual experiences within those cultures and realms? Or are we all the same, really, and it just depends on each individual and their experience and expertise?

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Ava,

Thailand and Phillipines are 2 of the major countries that are always named in illicit sex trade in regards to human sex trafficking. So, I am not surprised that those 2 countries were listed in this so called biased rating system that you are referring to.

Cuba has always been regarded as one of the least known countries that do allow human sex trafficking to flourish along with illicit drug trade.

Brazil has one of the worst law enforcement agencies in South America in regards to the human sex trafficking and the drug trade. If I was a female Olympic athlete competing in the 2016 Rio De Janeiro Games, I'd be VERY careful where I go. It's laughable that the law enforcement can clean up Rio De Janeiro in 4 years.

To say that just because a country is a tropical country doesn't mean it's more sexually promiscuous than a country based in the northern tier of the hemisphere. That's a very biased statement.

I don't know where you are getting your information from, but it seems the information is being typed up by the same people who are doing the human trafficking.

For more information on human trafficing go to this link:

http://www.polarisproject.org/human-trafficking/international-trafficking

F.Y.I., I don't get into this cultural / racial bullcrap about "who" is better in bed. If both partners treat each other right, then everything is great in bed. I've had them from all cultures / racial lines and all of them are Americans.

Serpius

Posted By: AlluringAva
I don't want this to turn into some kind of 'racial' thread but I was curious about your answers and this is for the gals as much as the guys. In your experience, if you have been with partners of a different cultural ( or racial) background, or experienced sex in other foreign countries, do you feel that there is any difference in their sexual abilities  or sexual openness?  I've read where the top three countries where men ( but keep in mind these men are sexual tourists and may have other reasons, such as cheap prices and wanting to 'marry or bring home' some of the women from these respective countries) rated women as the best in bed were the women of Thailand, Brazil, Phillipines, and Cuba, in that order. Not one European country was mentioned.

Do you feel that this 'study' or 'poll' is biased in the sense that these men are solely going to these countries to find sex in general rather than stay here in America or Europe and experience providers or civvie women on their own? Is it to generalized to say that a 'certain culture' might be better in be than another culture, or that some men and women from certain countries are warmer and more receptive to good sex than others?


Take a note that the countries listed were all tropical countries with hot weather. My personal experience as a provider has taught me that in retrospect, there ARE some cultural differences when it comes to showing affection, although not necessarily bedroom ability. Being Asian American, I have often found that men from Asia, like Japan, are not as demonstrative with their affection ( and are also inherently shy) versus men from Latin America or from the United States in general. Conversely, I have also had men tell me that they felt that Northern European women were often 'cold' in bed and unresponsive. One client told me his experiences in England and Sweden left more to be desired . He said it was like trying to open a cold milk carton: the flaps were hard to open.

What are your opinions and thoughts regarding  different cultures and different sexual experiences within those cultures and realms? Or are we all the same, really, and it just depends on each individual and their experience and expertise?

Serpius, sometimes your arrogance is so thick that it's laughable. You make statements before you even hear the other side of the story. No wonder you've been blacklisted from this site and so many think you're an idiot. First and foremost, I've studied extensively in school ( you ever hear of that? Or is it that you think all escorts must be uninformed and stupid or make 'biased statements' because we aren't educated, and possibly a lot more educated than you are, or pretend to be) the correlations between culture and climate. The climate of an area distinctly shapes and molds the culture of an area.  In warmer areas, people have been shown to be more open, friendly, and yes, more open-minded about nudity and sexuality because they don't feel shame OR the need to cover their bodies.  This often translates into a more open-minded, less puritanical notion of sex. If you'd get your head out of your as for once, even you'd see the parallel between culture and climate.

And no, this was not a poll regarding which 'women were the best in bed' as you claim done by human traffickers. First of all,  it's a stereotype and BIASED on your part to assume many of the girls are trafficked. MANY of them are there on their own accord, because wages are so low, there are few opportunities for women in those Third World countries, AND, prostitution does not have the same stigma as it does elsewhere. The poll was done on the World Sex Archives and taken by about ten thousand men who frequented foreign countries for sex.  Oh, I forgot to mention, Tahiti was also named as the country where men felt the women were much more sexual than women in Europe or the US. And speaking of 'trafficking' let's not forget that Eastern European women are trafficked too, yet none of them were listed under 'countries where the sex is hottest."

So please, spare me your know-it-all attitude. It's like the comment you made when I posted the thing about " Do all men pay for sex?" Without even BOTHERING to take into consideration that yes, I have a life outside of hooking, you immediately assumed wrongly that my post was about relationships when it was a simple question that required a yes or no answer. Something you apparently have a hard time with. I'm done dealing with your arrogance and your inability to accept that it's quite possible an escort knows a lot more than you do and is far more informed than you think.



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That statement does sound kind of bizzar. I don't think that's what you ment.

yes, because we are known for our monster penises.

You could tear out a woman's lungs when she goes down on THAT sword of yours.

i wish that sword was mine...:)
this is me in the pic below, wearing my fav garments.

I cannot say anything regarding my experience since I am not a professional (the 10,000 hr rule), but I do firmly believe that the certain race, ahem, is much better in bed.

But then again, I have only been with two ethnicity so there goes the bias!

And what is the 'certain race?' Curious minds want to know LOL

I am quite well traveled, particularly in Asia.  While not exactly a sex tourist, I have enjoyed what local ladies have had to offer.  One thing to keep in mind is that while I was responding to the allure and charms of the ladies, they were also responding to me, it is dynamic interaction.  My own rating would be Korean, Japanese, and Filipino. All were extremely clean and well groomed, passionate in their responses, and charmingly animated in their speech and gestures.  I think that they were accepting of Americans because their cultures had been exposed over several generations to American men.  They know what we like and have come to enjoy these styles themselves.  Having an interest in their own culture and personality helps too. Mainland Chinese and Vietnamese have been dominated by Communist puritanism too long.  Also I think they still see Americans as enemies to a certain extent.  Chinese ladies from Hong Kong and Singapore however, are just as enthusiastic lovers as the other nationalities I have mentioned.  Thai ladies seem mechanical to me.  European nationalities I  have had positive experience with  are Greek and Serb.    That is my viewpoint based on my life experiences.  I see sexual responsiveness as one more manifestation of culture and cultural interaction.  You may think this is all BS but I still prefer Japanese and Korean ladies.

ShutTheFackup215 reads

Americans and (sex) culture,
As for culture with a capital C, your "sex" culture is like your food, poor, pale, tasteless, flimsy, based on religious frustrations for the old generations and on porn for the new generation.
How can you have a great sex life when you have so sanitized human relationships since childhood, you barely make eye contact, barely shake hands, kiss, hug each other, you communicate via text, email, pm...constantly fearing sexual harassment lawsuits, rape charges...offended when you hear the word sex outside your porn screen, when you see a billboard with a naked women, outraged when a senator, president get his cock sucked by a hooker ( does it affect his ability to do his job?)...
You wanted to rule everything that you even sanitize human relationships, I remember in a recent thread a hobbyist said : " ...Use the Internet to approach women, unless you want LE involved for stalking and harassment..." ha I would be sentenced for life, just for flirting with girls outside the Internet , Facebook, match... permitted arena!
 And the worst thing is: thanks to globalization, you are exporting even that crap worldwide!  

I digress...in conclusion Americans you suck at human relationships, so do your sex life...
I'm hot blooded European Mediterranean , I shout, scream, kiss, hug, bite, cry, breath, sweat...and yes it feels good.
Most of you won't understand what I mean because you have no point of comparison, sanitized and pasteurized that's all your palate knows...

Do as they teach you in the bible and in porn...and god bless your pussies and cocks!

And yes STFU!

What you say is every where and everything. No passion but lots of plastic.

Speaking from my experience I have not correlated race as a factor if a person is better in bed or not.
I will agree that some races express their affections differently than others but that might be due to their cultural upbringing.
I have met men of all kind of races from all around the world some races I have had more encounters with than others but I find it boils down to the person.I cannot say a certain race is better in bed than another.
I have had men from out of the country rock my world just as I have men from the US who have as well.
Some were more open with their sexual desires and others took some time in expressing their desires but I never factored race in to the reason why.I find it all depends on the individual.

I remember some years ago reading this article about men going to Brazil to have their fun over there.
They interviewed a group of american men from the US and asked why do they wait to go to Brazil for their sexual needs.Majority were married or in a relationship at the time of the interview.
The responses were in Brazil the women cater to the man,the value of what the guys were receiving was a lot more for a lot less than the States,and the beauty of all of those women was just too tempting to turn down.The majority of the guys who were interviewed views in what they were seeking in their sexual experiences changed drastically in what they expected now that they were back home.The article was asking were these men creating unrealistic expectations of their relationships and on american women in general now that they have had these experiences in Brazil.It was interesting to read the guys responses.

MyRantAlias257 reads

I think there is some cultural differences, orientals tend to be more submissive, latins more passionate, americans more reserved, europeans more open but can be mechanical at times.
I think the best sex is with Married women lol.  Nothing like a romp with a girl who isn't getting it at home.

saturnsky227 reads

in and out of the bedroom, for some male personalities, is a dream come true and no American woman could possibly compete with that. I guess those guys had better relocate way down south....;)

According to her white men want:

Women to be educated with college degree

Have a job and Make equal or more money (equality)

Take care him and the home

Have Children and take care to them

Cook and clean

Work 14 to 15 hours a day while men watch sports

Want women to look good, slim, big breasts and whore in the sack

Her words not mine.


I prefer Asian and South American women. I have my own set of theories as to why I have these preferences but I try not to analyze sexual proclivities all that much.  It's just supposed to be fun.

differing ethnicities vary their sexual responses.

I think that age is a greater factor, with the more mature women being more aggressive, but there are exceptions to that as well.

One problem with asking this question on here is that the experiences of most men are with paid sexual partners.  There could be a vast difference between how a paid partner reacts to one who is not being paid.

This prompts me to ask the gals:  Do you make love differently with your paying partners than with the non-paying partners?

If yes, what is that difference?

saturnsky267 reads

The main difference is the level of attraction and the business aspect.

I choose my private sexual partners based on physical attraction/chemistry and emotional feeling. So the encounter has my full attention an involvement that is of a visceral level and very real.

With paid dates, I am not always attracted so there is an element of fantasy and because he has paid and has expectations, I live up to those expectations as best I can in order to deliver the service paid for. My satisfaction is secondary in most cases. If it is the clients motivation, I will do me level best accommodate to complete his fantasy.

In short, the main difference is the level of attraction both physically and emotionally.

wow, the whole sex trade comment kinda ruined this topic for me. but, from my experiences, latina women are the best in bed.

saturnsky342 reads

That differs with cultures. The Latin cultures and some Mediterranean are very expressive and tactile. Other cultures, more Asian and some European are more reserved and less demonstrative.

How that translates into the bedroom I am not totally sure. I think that may have something to do with how an individual is raised. I was raised very openly where sex and love were discussed freely, And affection was show between my parents openly. I am from the typical Caucasian family, non religious, so there was no oppression there.

Add all that together and it might translate to having an open view of sex and affection but as to whether it makes anyone hotter in the bedroom, not sure. I am pretty vanilla, with a big slant toward romance and sensuality. I have tried other things but found them unsatisfying sexually. I know what I like and run with it.

Yes,  I have spent my life traveling, in the navy, as a merchant marine and vacations, I have anticipated women of certain backgrounds only there is no real difference when it comes to being in bed.  Some cultures are more open to some activities which go along with these pleasures, such as massages.  When it comes down to it, it is what the two, or three people have between themselves which makes it so much pleasure.

Any man that has been fully assimilated by French culture--reguardless of ethnicity.

These men tend to have a very rare and unique understanding of women.  Very appealing and something all women should experience.

I think the study that did not mention Northern European women is just plain wrong.  I have read recent articles that discussed the sex lives of the French, and personal satisfaction rated much higher than the US and other countries.  Married French women are far more likely to take lovers (as well as French Men) than any of the other cultures in the comparison.

I have spent a fair amount of time in France, not that it makes me an expert, but just watching people and interacting with them, I found the ambiance to be very erotic and sexually charged, while still being held as an undercurrent.  And of course, there is enormous literary content about the eroticism of the French.

American awareness of French erotic skills go back the Benjamin Franklin and Thomas Jefferson, but really exploded in WWI when the doughboys discovered French bordellos.  The impact of hundreds of thousands of American men discovering oral sex (which apparently was a relatively rare experience in the US at the time) had a direct line of cultivation to the sexual revolution that exploded in the 60's.  All thanks to the French......

And then there are Italian women....... oh my.

And Spanish women?  hola, senorita, como esta usted?  Even the Catholic church can't keep them under wraps.

The worst sexual experience I have ever had was with an Asian woman, born and raised in Korea. (fully recognizing that one datapoint means nothing) I trust this experience will be rectified and I will be able to re-establish the charms of Asia as a top erotic fantasy/realization...   :}



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lex90027198 reads

Je t'en prie mon ami et te remercie de rendre à César ce qui est à César!
Je suis encore sur le cul de voir tout le pataquès que font les américains juste pour tirer un coup!

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And you are quite correct.  But there are providers/escorts in France as well, and the French seem to have taken lessons from the Americans on being prudes, since the bordellos are now all closed.  At least in France women are not arrested as prostitutes, only the pimps are.  

But if French women were wholly liberated and it were quite easy to get laid, there would be no market for the escorts.  And while I did not put a full court press on to get laid in France, the few meager attempts I made at civvie sex or escorts were all failures.  

But there was one beautiful French lady I left behind with a very good impression of me, and I got the sense that when I go back, we will have a very, very, French evening.....

lex90027204 reads

Too bad you didn't answer in French...
I just love the American accent when speaking French... especially American girls... So sexy, that just suffice to turn me on !

You are right, we became unfortunately kind of prude, another bad lesson we took from you " evil " Americans ;-)

Indeed bordellos ( I prefer the term " maison de joie"= house of joy ) have officially been  closed in 1946, but prostitution was and is "une activité libre" ( free activity) 
That's not a punishable crime, prostitutes are not criminals and are not arrested in France.

 Some of them actually even pay income taxes as prostitutes ( which makes our IRS a pimp ). One huge difference from here, clients are not arrested either, their name are not published in the local newspaper...nobody gives a fuck if I  go see a hooker, not even my wife! Only pimps are prosecuted.

Bordellos are unofficial and " tolerated " in Belgium, so sometimes I cross the  open border...

Younger I use to go to some specific places and streets in Paris ( rue St Denis etc...) where you can go and pick " your whore " in the street and go upstairs in her hotel room or incall to fuck, with cops nearby, walking or driving in the same street as clients and prostitutes, just checking if there was no public safty problems...
Now I'm very amused with this picture in my mind when I  compare with you guys...here they can shoot you if caught with a hooker! One more cultural difference... I'm sad for you guys to play hide and seek and regarded as criminals just to enjoy a few moment  of hedonism...
Here I'm trying to care about cops ;-) , I'm not really preoccupied with my reputation, or if my name is in the newspaper, since I don't have political ambitions like DSK ( which by the way was a funny trial, this guy  raped a mouth full of sharp teeth ! it cost him the president seat... Bravo Sarko...)

Yes sure the French women are wholly liberated, but they are full of attitude, playing hard to get... and to be honest I found them,  especially the young generation , quite frigid that's why hookers and escorts services are booming in France ;-)
And that's why I sexually immigrated to the U.S! lol
 that also explains why your attempts at civvie sex  and escorts were failures! Even our hookers have attitudes !
No worries,  just probably wrong girls, wrong places... 
Next time when you go back, il faudra séduire et emballer cette nana qui t'a plu!
Ha les femmes! toutes les mêmes quelque soit la culture... impossible de vivre avec et sans!
Ce fut un plaisir.
Excuse mon anglais.





Posted By: thewinger
And you are quite correct.  But there are providers/escorts in France as well, and the French seem to have taken lessons from the Americans on being prudes, since the bordellos are now all closed.  At least in France women are not arrested as prostitutes, only the pimps are.  

But if French women were wholly liberated and it were quite easy to get laid, there would be no market for the escorts.  And while I did not put a full court press on to get laid in France, the few meager attempts I made at civvie sex or escorts were all failures.  

But there was one beautiful French lady I left behind with a very good impression of me, and I got the sense that when I go back, we will have a very, very, French evening.....

And hate being cold and winters.  I think we spend more time in bed and thus making us better in bed.  And my french skills are top notch ;0)

Just saying.


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