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Involving my Wife? (Also, newbie to the boards!)
GuyInAtlanta 2 Reviews 1448 reads
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Good afternoon y'all!

I'm new to the boards (never stuck my head in here before, but y'all seem fun/knowledgeable)... I've been a hobbyist for years, although lately I've been sticking with FBSMs as opposed to FS providers. My wife has always been very "vanilla" although she's expressed an interest in expanding her horizons. She's also very attracted to women, but has never really had any Close Encounters of the Sensual Kind (other than the basic fooling-around-in-high-school type). I'd like to test the waters and get her involved with another woman in the least awkward way possible, and I'm thinking the best way might be with a provider that's experienced with couples (swinging clubs are also a discussion we've had, but that's a little intense for beginners, I'd think??). Also, I'd like whatever session happens to be based around her and the provider, versus it being focused on me; I don't mind the attention, but frankly I wouldn't last that long anyway and it's a gift to my wife :smile: Could anyone pipe in with their related experiences? Looking for advice in all the wrong places, but as a whole I figure this would be a great place to get started asking around!

Thanks in advance!

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I can advise you to ask your wife what kind of woman she likes? What physical attributes (race, hair, height, weight, tattoos, piercings) is she attracted towards? There are lot of bi women in this hobby that will easily accommodate your request.  You just have to know what you are looking for. You can also consider posting a reverse ad on your regional board to check the interest it generates...

Good luck....

Thanks for the pointer to the regional boards... Looks like there's a whole lot of TER I've never explored before!!

I'm pretty familiar with her likes as far as attraction, I just feel at a loss for how to introduce her to the hobby, lol. I've had one provider (who I'm very interested in meeting up with!) send me a message and suggest a one-on-one with my wife first before all three of us, but I'm worried that might be a little *too* forward for someone who's never done this before (plus, she's a lot more shy around others than I am).

Thanks for the feedback, and y'all keep it coming! It feels good to be part of a "community" here versus just using the website as a review tool all these years :)

Posted By: conscientious_hobbyist
I can advise you to ask your wife what kind of woman she likes? What physical attributes (race, hair, height, weight, tattoos, piercings) is she attracted towards? There are lot of bi women in this hobby that will easily accommodate your request.  You just have to know what you are looking for. You can also consider posting a reverse ad on your regional board to check the interest it generates...

Good luck....

If she does not know about your activities you could be setting yourself up for a world of problems if you end up going to a girl you know.  
Maybe try the adult friend finder site if you are looking for a girl for her or you as a couple.  A female friend of mine had her first female experiences on there.

She does know about it, and I definitely appreciate the concern: I completely agree that (at least in my case) it'd be a lot more trouble than it'd be worth to try to hide something like that! :) I've seen (but not really messed around too much with) a bunch of those "friend finder" sites, but it always has felt like they're nothing but scams... Do people actually use certain ones? I swear if I see one more of those "The Faceb**k of Sex!" adverts I'm going to put my fist through my computer, haha.

Thanks!

Posted By: SonnyNC
If she does not know about your activities you could be setting yourself up for a world of problems if you end up going to a girl you know.  
Maybe try the adult friend finder site if you are looking for a girl for her or you as a couple.  A female friend of mine had her first female experiences on there.

Search in your area for very bi-friendly providers.  I"m sure there are plenty.  Talk to the lady ahead of time and explain the situation with your wife.  I'm sure she will be understanding.  If you find the right lady, it sounds like you will have the time of your, and her, life.

Enjoy,
Swim

Thanks! I mentioned it in another reply, but I've got one provider so far that I've gone back and forth a few times via email about this. I'm a little nervous because this one I haven't had any sessions with yet, but she's well-reviewed and gorgeous (IMHO, of course ;) ). I've pretty much decided anyone we go with is going to have to be someone I've been able to chat with or meet up with ahead of time, because a lot of providers have "Really Bi" marked on their profiles just so that a reviewer could give higher ratings (which I'm sure the providers appreciate the sentiments, but that restriction does kind of muddy up that particular aspect of the ratings!).

Thanks again!

Posted By: swimtrekr
Search in your area for very bi-friendly providers.  I"m sure there are plenty.  Talk to the lady ahead of time and explain the situation with your wife.  I'm sure she will be understanding.  If you find the right lady, it sounds like you will have the time of your, and her, life.

Enjoy,
Swim

Kat_RT151 reads

I've seen a few married couples before. Sometimes the wife knew I was being paid, other times she did not.  Sometimes I saw the husband alone as well  either before or after (usually without the wife knowing about it). One time I saw a professor at a prominent ivy league school and his wife. The wife was unaware I was being paid (the money was hidden in a tissue box in the bathroom), and I was asked to play the part of one of his grad students who had a crush on him.

Xoxo Kat oxoX

That must have been an interesting scenario! Now that you mention it, I wonder how often it happens that couples see providers without one of them knowing it's a paid gig. I don't think I could get away with trying to pull that off myself, lol!

Thanks for the response!!

Posted By: Kat_RT
I've seen a few married couples before. Sometimes the wife knew I was being paid, other times she did not.  Sometimes I saw the husband alone as well  either before or after (usually without the wife knowing about it). One time I saw a professor at a prominent ivy league school and his wife. The wife was unaware I was being paid (the money was hidden in a tissue box in the bathroom), and I was asked to play the part of one of his grad students who had a crush on him.

Xoxo Kat oxoX

I have lots of bi-friends, just pm me and tell me what kind of lady your wife is attracted to.My first thought is maybe meeting for drinks/coffee to see if there is an attraction.Some of my bi- friends are UTR types, but I like "ter messenger" as it allows both parties to get an idea of the other person.
gl  enjoy the party

PM sent, thanks!

Posted By: 2hot4u2
I have lots of bi-friends, just pm me and tell me what kind of lady your wife is attracted to.My first thought is maybe meeting for drinks/coffee to see if there is an attraction.Some of my bi- friends are UTR types, but I like "ter messenger" as it allows both parties to get an idea of the other person.
gl  enjoy the party

i did an outcall during bike week to this couplkes house in n.h. same scene, i went in room with his wife, used a toy on her, .......she was nervous bout the whole idea, they may have been drunk i dont know,. Maybe suggest a toy be used. its not as heavy dudty for first time, as oppsed to havn a pro shoivel her face in her muff and scissor the life out her, I d say take it slow, have her have an entertainer or pro use a ex toy on her,,,,,,and maybe klet them be alone first time,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,like nthis particular story here he stayed in livin room I went into bedroom with her...................
its not really over kill for a first encounter. then let it settle in see how every one is feeling, take it step furhter next time,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,I think takn things slow in end itll be more enjoyable, n stick with same entertainer /provider so she has some time to get accustmes to the new persons energy,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, in the end itll be a more enjoyable experience if she gets to ease into it. it can be iverwhelmingly exciting because it so different, or jump right in if you guy are really wild. go for it, i dont know what your level of comfortablility is, so maybe shes really outgoing and ready to dive in. profession muff divng extroidinaires are every where on here, ytheyl say it on site couples price..,........  youl have to both st naked scouring the sites n bein little oerverts together fantasizing bout your exciting encounter, O dont that w many a boyfriends n even just the planning it out, the researching the women, its all fun before the fact too.

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