I'm sure this has been discussed ad nauseam. But I'd like to hear from guys who actually got involved in a relationship with a provider. And I don't mean she gave you a discount or she stayed or you stayed after your allotted time. In my few years of doing this there have been a few girls who have expressed interest in seeing me off the clock. Of course I'm no dummy and I thought that was there way of getting more of my hard earned dollars. But at the end of the day we're all people looking for other people. I know it's different but if I see a girl at work I'm interested in I doubt she thinks "Oh, he's just trying to get my money..." or maybe they do. But I digress. I'd like to hear from guys who have gotten into relationships with k and non k-girls, and how it worked out for them. I've had "leads" with both. And for the record I'm not Korean. And for the record, sorry to burst your bubble but not all korean girls are looking for korean guys, quite the opposite. Discuss!
Hyori. He seems to have all the kgirls as ex-girlfriends.
Back to point. It can happen. it has happened. It will keep on happening.
Sorry to burst your bubble as well and not to be sounding confrontational but not all korean girls or asian girls for that matter are looking for "western guys".
I have a regular, or my really good friend whom has been paying me by the hour for almost a decade, so now I would never charge him by the hour because he is very special to me. He does take very good care of me by spoiling me. He buys me gifts, and we get our nails done together. We go on vacations, and a few other things...
Just sharing pm me if you have any questions.
I've actually had a number of relationships with girls I've met in this business. There was a girl in LA a few years ago named Kyndal who I actually ended up marrying! It didn't work out but not for the reasons you would think. Anyhoo, the point is for this thread, it was a real relationship and we met by my following up on a review search here, was looking for a buxom blonde who swallowed! Got that and whole lot more!
I've also gotten to be pretty good pals with a number of girls in the adult film industry. Specifically, I got to be friends with Venus about 5 years ago, and it transformed into friends with significant benefits. There was at least two occasions where we had what could only be called dates, dinner & show type of thing that culminated in sexual romps and my only out of pocket was the costs of the date. She was, BTW, a total blast to hang out with besides being an amazing sexual animal! And again, doff of the cap to TER, responded to a post when she was in San Diego! Best $700 I ever spent!
A couple of years ago for about the last 6 months she was in the country before going back to Canada, I spent every weekend with Alexandra Quinn. During the course of things I was not handing her money but was helping her with her expenses so it felt a lot more like a relationship than anything else. And I certainly wasn't spending any more $$ than I do in "civilian" relationships but was getting to spend quality time with her on a regular basis, which was truly remarkable. Hands down, the best head ever. Indescribable, actually.
The key to all of this was I let it come to me. It's my strong belief (based on some strong empirical research, there's a couple of others I've known whose names you'd recognize that I'm leaving out for discretionary reasons) that if a relationship is to occur in this arena, it has to develop naturally, with a genuine mutual attraction that goes beyond the physical. That has to be the case in my situation, if you saw my image, you'd say "sure, pal" to what I'm saying but there it is. The other reason these things have happened is all thanks to my dear departed mother, who told me ever since I can remember, "treat all women like their ladies, even if their not!" After a career of being treated like a piece of meat, I've found that just a modicum of compassion, understanding, acceptance and sensitivity can go a long way towards establishing a genuine bond with girls in the industry, so long as they're ready to appreciate it.
Of course, be careful what you ask for, you just might get it. And as far as finances go, you know the biggest difference betweens sex for free and sex for money? Sex for free costs a LOT more! No question in my mind that I definitely spend more when I'm in a relationship with whomever than when I'm just attending to my fairly sporadic sexual needs!
I had a VERY serious GF situation with a brand new (at the time) provider.
It lasted almost 5 years, BUT the last 2 years were PURE heartache.
I'm not bragging but I've gone out with some of the most amazing women in the world. THIS was the dumbest thing I EVER did!
Obviously every situation is different, but the short version is : it was the hardest thing I have ever done and the end result (for me) is that I WISH I PAID INSTEAD!
It takes a VERY certain type of man to put up with all the things that can and do happen. She was VERY high end , and almost the exact situation occurred as the movie that starred Sasha Grey as an escort.
That movie got panned BUT it hit very close to home. I would never do it again.
I've had a few dates with both asian and non-asian girls and I currently have a relationship with an ex-AMP Chinese gal. It does happen but it can be opposite ends of the spectrum: The extremes are she's either a manipulative gold digger who is only after your cash, or she can be a real heart to gold that truly just loves to be with you.
I'm lucky in that my current GF is the latter, and we have a unique thing going on. No judgements. But I think that is few and far between, I think's it very rare you can find a relationship with someone that you meet "in the hobby" without the baggage that comes with it. I think it's harder for the guy if he is a jealous type. I have never been that way even with my civvie relationships (jealous) so it's worked for me.
so putting her job as provider out of the picture....everything was the normal BF/GF experience. hung out and fought over stupid shit like not going to her friends for dinner etc.
but eventually her being a prostitute screwed it up.
look im not some geezer who has no options, who would gladly accept having a prostitute as a GF. i mean shit what options does the geezer has. hes old and fat etc..so having a hot chick fuck them and hang with them is worth the baggage of having a prostitute girlfriend. so most of the kgirl providers i met did have old geezers as boyfriends.
but im not a geezer. so the constant thought of my GF screwing around drove me insane. so we fight. and we break up.
so my advice. if your young and not some sex pervert/voyeur who likes having his GF fuck around then forget dating a provider. not worth it. but if you are a pervert or geezer then go ahead and date and marry them. which is another baggage. most are illegal so eventually they want to marry you or expect it. so you need to ask yourself can you do it? which is another thing i don't understand about these kgirls dating a geezer...how they hell are you going to get yourself a citizenship? i mean shit what immgration official is going to believe some geezer fatso is married legitimately to a hot young kgirl who speaks shitty english???? hello!!
and theres no secret of dating a kgirl. same as real world. if you hit it off you hit off. ive been rejected plenty of times by a kgirl provider who i later find out has some geezer as a boyfriend. and then another kgirl provider, who can hook up with anyone, asks me out.
For me, it never worked out well.
On two occasions I was certain the women were sincerely interested in some kind of non-pay relationship, perhaps leading to something far more substantial. On both those occasions it was I who decided I was not truly interested in more. They were both really nice girls. They both had many reasons for me to want to date them. But neither were all that attractive to me, in the end. From those experiences I realized something: I am willing to pay to have a date with a girl I would not want to date in real life. In other words, just thinking about physical appearance, I am willing to pay to sleep with a girl I would not want to sleep with in a non-paying situation. That was an odd thing to learn about myself; but i have a feeling it may be common.
Far more often, over the years, I have met girls I was truly and totally into and very much thought and hoped it could lead to something more. A few times we exchanged direct numbers but nothing "real" ever came of it. These girls were usually from out of town. Whether or not they were sincere about being interested is something I will never know. I can still enjoy the fantasy about it, at least. I still think of those girls and wish them well. But the truth is I have no idea what their lives are all about other than that tiny moment when we met.
On a couple occasions when I had experiences like that with someone local, there usually came a time when the "money" issue just became very obvious. And in those situations it was impossible for me to get past it.
In the end, most of my experiences along these lines have really been about money. And that made me a bit resentful when I imagined it was an "off the clock" relationship.
It doesnt mean there is no way to get into an awesome, "real" relationship this way. It means that paying someone to have sex with you is probably not usually a good way to begin one. It hasnt stopped me from imagining and believing it is possible - just be cautious about it; the odds are not great, I think.