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That was very well put communication is the key on both ends for a great session.

MrFisher got me thinking about my own inexperience in this area so I have decided that one of these days I'm going to let go of all inhibitions and jump into a session without ever looking back.

I know that there is a difference between a well reviewed GFE provider who also offers light to moderate BDSM opposed to the well reviewed provider who considers herself a lifestyle Dominant and takes her position seriously.

In order to personally experience many key aspects this lifestyle offers, which choice would be the logical one to make for a true newbie like myself who is interested in a light to moderate gradually progressing session ?

I have searched the boards in Vegas and find many ladies who seem to " dabble " in this area but very few ladies that express a serious devotion to this play.

I suppose the answer I seek is in the true lifestyle Dominant, but can this choice be too much too soon for the inexperienced ?

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Pro Dommes will sit down and talk with you to find out where you are at. They will also give a safe word wwhere if things get to much for you and you say it they will stop and discusss it with you.

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Posted By: romeogolf
MrFisher got me thinking about my own inexperience in this area so I have decided that one of these days I'm going to let go of all inhibitions and jump into a session without ever looking back.

I know that there is a difference between a well reviewed GFE provider who also offers light to moderate BDSM opposed to the well reviewed provider who considers herself a lifestyle Dominant and takes her position seriously.

In order to personally experience many key aspects this lifestyle offers, which choice would be the logical one to make for a true newbie like myself who is interested in a light to moderate gradually progressing session ?

I have searched the boards in Vegas and find many ladies who seem to " dabble " in this area but very few ladies that express a serious devotion to this play.

I suppose the answer I seek is in the true lifestyle Dominant, but can this choice be too much too soon for the inexperienced ?

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Whatever you are looking for, GFE with a little kink, Domination with a sensual side or hard-core BDSM, make sure you let your expectations be known up front. This can be done discretely and politely without breaking laws or insulting people. This way both sides know what to expect. You may have to experiment a while before you find what you want, but that's part of the fun.

Personally, even though I enjoy some of the rough stuff, I hate to be left out in the cold for some of my other physical needs. Being left to fend for myself in this area does not appeal to me. It does mean that there are several Dominant Females that I would love to see but know not to, because I'll ultimately go away unhappy. And I know that because I didn't do my homework and I didn't communicate well and walked away from some great sessions feeling bad because I wanted more and it was not available.

Whichever path you choose, do you homework and express your needs. Most providers and Dominant Females appreciate the honesty.

Enjoy Yourself and Stay Safe,
roidblob

That was very well put communication is the key on both ends for a great session.

Excellent advice!!

I have to say, the one thing I hate is for someone to contact me and tell me "I only want to serve you Mistress" when I ask what they are interested in. In MY world, serving me means washing my car, or dropping off my dry cleaning, or vaccuming the carpet, none of which are typically included in a pro session, but all of which are expected when someone is in service to me.

If you have particular desires, tell the Domme what they are, HOWEVER, be respectful!!! I cannot count the number of times over the last couple of weeks I have completely ignored an email, voice mail or text message because the message was overly explicit or just plain rude. Polite, respectful communication of your desires for the direction of a session are really important. We may be perfect Goddesses, unfortunately we don't come with mind-reading abilities and while I have a full array of tools and toys to tease and torture you with, I doubt you are interested in paying for the hours it would take to go through each one of them until we find the one you like.

I happen to enjoy time with newbies and bringing them to the dark side ;) but I know many ladies prefer more experienced players. I like finding out how you respond to certain activities, what excites you, what makes you say "oh holy cow that's good!" because then I can take that and run wild with it, but without having at least a glimmer of an idea from you, we might as well just have lunch.

So, be polite, be respectful, have an idea of what you are interested in and communicate that idea...you'll find what you want :)

Kiley

I second what's been said about communicating your wants clearly. Many, if not most, dommes will not engage in sexual play and some won't provide any sexual release.

Some escorts who offer BDSM play know what they are doing but a majority really don't and are just trying to market themselves more broadly.

If you want a "real" BDSM session you will do better with a "real" domme who has experience and equipment. However, if you want a sexual component, you probably have to search out escorts who offer this and feel out whether they know what they are doing.

I'm very unusual in that I actually am experienced in the BDSM world but also offer GFE sessions.

The concern that a real domme may be "too much" for a newbie is not a real issue. A skilled dominant knows how to start slow, especially with a beginner.

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