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Hi thank you for kindly answering my question if I didn't post on backage I would have no regular source of income I'm very nice, classy, and well spoken and no mattter where you choose an escort from to me basically all girls are doing and selling the same thing.Thats why I was wondering why alot of men on TER are bashing escorts on backpage because I now that I'm not even close to all the negative things they say about escorts on backpage.When I receive my new ID in the mail I will also start posting on EROS I will say TER and other professional sites are just lower risk. I've tried other places like rs2k preferred411 and datecheck but I need reviews before I can even get on the website. Thats what made me come to TER so I can start becoming more known and start getting reviews. I have only been escorting for  month so I am still learning. Once again thank you for kindly replying to my question :)

Hi my name is SeductiveKay. I just recently decided that I like Chicago and decided to move here and start escorting. I have been a provider for a month and a week now. I post on backpage because that site has alot of traffic and I'm still learning and finding new places to post. My question is why do alot of guys on TER dislike backpage or say that guys shouldn't see girls on backpage? I've posted an ad up here on TER but it seems like people are kind of scared to see me because I have no reviews yet.....  Thanks for reading :)

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Craigslist used to be the whipping post for people who thought that utilizing other sources is superior.  That has been replaced by backpage.  A lot of the people who bash backpage and those who utilize it are under the impression that if you use TER you are better than those 'others' who do sex for money transactions.

Now backpage tends to be more prone to LE traps and there are ripoff women there.  However I've also heard of ripoffs on cityvibe and other places.   Also you are more likely to have bottom feeders and bargain hunters on backpage.  When I see an ad on backpage I do like to see if she is TER reviewed but even then I have taken a plunge and seen someone without reviews with very mixed results but that is kind of the risk whenever you TOFTT.


Hi thank you for kindly answering my question if I didn't post on backage I would have no regular source of income I'm very nice, classy, and well spoken and no mattter where you choose an escort from to me basically all girls are doing and selling the same thing.Thats why I was wondering why alot of men on TER are bashing escorts on backpage because I now that I'm not even close to all the negative things they say about escorts on backpage.When I receive my new ID in the mail I will also start posting on EROS I will say TER and other professional sites are just lower risk. I've tried other places like rs2k preferred411 and datecheck but I need reviews before I can even get on the website. Thats what made me come to TER so I can start becoming more known and start getting reviews. I have only been escorting for  month so I am still learning. Once again thank you for kindly replying to my question :)

I noticed your ad says no 'men of African descent".  I'm curious why you have that restriction?  

Now I am white but find that interesting from an ebony escort.

Posted By: madman274
I noticed your ad says no 'men of African descent".  I'm curious why you have that restriction?  

Now I am white but find that interesting from an ebony escort.
Why a girl has to explain or justify whom she chooses to see is beyond me.  I think its none of our business.

To the question posed by the OP,  there are ripoffs, scams, and bs out there on every advertising board.  There is a huge clique herd mentality here that BP is nothing but scams.  Some of those propogating that have their own self interests in mind, some feel like they aren't getting a quality product because of where it is advertised, some just don't know any better and don't think for themselves

Posted By: Axxel
Posted By: madman274
I noticed your ad says no 'men of African descent".  I'm curious why you have that restriction?  

Now I am white but find that interesting from an ebony escort.
Why a girl has to explain or justify whom she chooses to see is beyond me.  I think its none of our business.
Who the hell said she had to explain or justify?  We routinely ask each other questions.  Its kind of the purpose of the board.

Kindly provide me with a list of topics and questions that are okay to ask and ones that aren't okay.

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I think both quality of providers and hobbyists overall depends on where you get your information. You find it hard to believe about the level of scams from an advertising site, yet you limit your exposure to men of African descent because of your personal experience.  Something tells me if you were more stringent in your screening and utlilized sites like RoomService and quality references from established providers, it would minimize your negative experiences, regardless of race.  But to each their own.

I surely didn't post anything to offend anyone like I said those things happened to me my first week of escorting when I didn't know much about screening and safety and I am still a little scarred from the situation. I'm happy that you find my story amusing. I also cannot get a membership to RoomService or any of those sites until I have reviews or someone to vouch for me. I'm still a little shaken up about my experience. That's why I say no men of African descent. Maybe I'm being to judgmental and letting my fear of another bad experience hold me back. I will take that out of my next ad and give it another try. :) Thanks for your response.

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Seductive Kay,

You don't have to take anything out.  I was just curious as to why that was on your ad.  A lot of sex workers have restrictions on who they see.  I was just wondering the reason why.

Best of luck getting established.

I would suggest joining the sections for women and networking with other women in a similar boat.  there is a lot of wisdom and experience on this board.


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Her body, her risk, her right. I'm tired of the race card when it comes to a persons intimacy with her own body!!!!!! A woman's body isn't a friggin grocery store or a neighborhood your looking to move into!!! It's HER BODY!

She can see who she wants or not see who she isn't comfortable with and once she gets reviews she can join roomservice. Typical board instead of helping guys are judgmental and about as helpful as water on a grease fire.

Posted By: oneperday
I think both quality of providers and hobbyists overall depends on where you get your information. You find it hard to believe about the level of scams from an advertising site, yet you limit your exposure to men of African descent because of your personal experience.  Something tells me if you were more stringent in your screening and utlilized sites like RoomService and quality references from established providers, it would minimize your negative experiences, regardless of race.  But to each their own.

Thank for your kind reply and thats what I was thinking it was frustrating to see all the negative things said about backpage girls. BP is my regular source of income. And I'm not one of those girls who are ghetto trashy use fake pictures etc... Now I do understand concerns with having to possibly deal with LE on backpage, but I'm very nice, classy and well spoken when gentlemen on backpage see me or call me their always like your not LE are you because you are so well spoken and classy. Its a shame that their are girls out there making it harder for girls like me. I've tried to get on preferred411, RS2k and datecheck to broaden my horizons with escorting but I need reviews to join those sights. Thats what made me join TER to become more known and start getting reviews. TER is a great site I was just wondering what was up with all the negativity with BP.... Thanks once again for your reply :)

You need to spellcheck your site. Several typos and again it helps with the presentation.

Has nothing to do with snobbishness in my opinion. Has everything to do with minimizing risk. I will screen a craigslist, backpage, et al. ad more than I would a RoomService or TER reviewed provider simply because of the track record.  Eros used to be a very good board. Now, you have to really do your homework on it. If this is your business, then spend the money to create a professional website and advertise in the places that will, in general, produce the clientele you are interested in spending time with.

I have a website and I'm trying to get the proper clientelle that I am interested in but I need reviews for RS2k etc...... Thats what made me join TER.... And I am nothing like what people are saying BP girls are like, its kind of hard to believe that almost every single girl is a fake or a scam on BP.

I agree with OnePerDay.  Alot of guys will wait till you are established to take the plunge, if you were in their shoes with an unknown wouldn't you.  We all know LE is hot as hell right now, that there are heavy busts mainly of back page ladies, or busting gents by posting ladies on back page.  Heck, LE here has also busted ladies and then forced them to continue with their day busting each guy walking in the door.  Crazy stuff is afoot right now.  People are not taking chances, or much less then they used to.

Your best bet is to become a regular poster here.  Let guys get to know the real you from your responses to posts here, that is how some choose who they see.  Get in on RS as soon as you can(if you have seen a RS guy he can furnish you reference to get on the board I think).  You can't rush reviews.

As far as the no black guys thing, that is also a turn off to many other decents.  You do have a choice to visit with who you want but through screening you should be able to weed out the bad seeds.  Or if you still choose not to see a black gent you can usually tell from their name or voice, or you can tackfully ask what nature is their decent.   Posting it on your ads or site can scare away anyone who has ever felt discriminated against.  

You didn't pick the best time to come into the hobby, but good luck, Sage

Ok, Thanks for your response. I just wanted opinions and answers on the situation.  I just had a bad experience with black guys because of my lack of knowledge on screening... Now I know better and maybe I'm being too judgmental and letting my bad experiences hold me back from meeting really good men.

Kay, welcome to the board and keep posting so we can get to know you.

To answer your original question (and that's all we should be bringing up in this thread), Backpage and Eros have a history of scams, LE problems and are scary places for many of us. Of course there are good girls on those sites but there have been so many scams and traps, we've become "snobbish" about avoiding them. You're much better off here, get to know the locals, post often, and participate in discussions and you'll get the reviews you desire. There are good guys here who often take chances on new girls so it's only a matter of time before you become known.

Let me apologize for those who've brought up the race card. For those who are offended by you stating clearly on your site your personal preferences for clientele, there are also many who would criticize you for not making it known on your site. You can't win for losing but no one has a right to criticize anyone for their preferences in whom they see and this applies to both escorts and hobbyists. You need to be comfortable and your clients want you to be comfortable, at least the clients who are worth seeing. Unfortunately, BP and Eros ads attract a lot of undesirables which you've already found out. There are undesirables here as well so read the warning post by ChiAndrea and contact one of the ladies posting in that thread for details. If you don't have VIP, email them, let them know who you are, and you'll be much safer.

Thanks for the warm welcome and wow thank you so much for your reply yours was one of the best I've seen all day... This is what I was looking for lol. I just didn't understand the bashing I had no idea so many girls use fake pictures.  BUT Just from me posting on here today I've already seen 2 wonderful men from TER :). So I'm just going to keep posting here and talking to everyone and see how that goes. I am a VIP member here. Yeah the race card kept being brought up even though I explained my situation but its ok you don't have to apologize for others I don't get mad easily and I'm not about to argue with people on here I just came here to be cool and get to know people and really meet some nice gentlemen. I sure will check out who the undesirables are. Thank you for the info and advice I really appreciate it.

Sage,

You always have some of the best advice.

Keep it up sweet cheeks! ;)

Posted By: Sage of Chicago
Alot of guys will wait till you are established to take the plunge, if you were in their shoes with an unknown wouldn't you.  We all know LE is hot as hell right now, that there are heavy busts mainly of back page ladies, or busting gents by posting ladies on back page.  Heck, LE here has also busted ladies and then forced them to continue with their day busting each guy walking in the door.  Crazy stuff is afoot right now.  People are not taking chances, or much less then they used to.

As far as the no black guys thing, that is also a turn off to many other decents.  You do have a choice to visit with who you want but through screening you should be able to weed out the bad seeds.  Or if you still choose not to see a black gent you can usually tell from their name or voice, or you can tackfully ask what nature is their decent.   Posting it on your ads or site can scare away anyone who has ever felt discriminated against.  

You didn't pick the best time to come into the hobby, but good luck, Sage

Especially like the photo of you in your dress and the frontal in the pink robe.  Since times are tough for providers and hobbyists alike, you might want to have more revealing photos.  Also, all of your links are to general pages.  Once you develop relationships with others you can link to their pages.   Good luck to you.

Being a BP chick, you just might want to go with an agency for a bit to ante up some reviews and street cred. Dude, I went with agencies for 10 years and I'm totally credible and awesome (if I do say so myself) Apropo is cool as well as SimplyGFE and uh, there are many others such as Michelle's, Secretly-Yours, do your homework and go indie after you're established.

FIN!

XXX-Giselle

Welcome to our community. Let me make a few points:
1. I do see backpage ladies if they have reviews on TER by reputable reviewers
2. You'll get there give it time
3. Some providers self post reviews to get a head start. Don't do it. TER users are smart and can catch self reviews.
4. Like someone said try out an agency
5. You may also request your clients to provide reviews
6. On the race front it's a lose lose as another poster mentioned. I will not see ladies who have racial preferences but I am glad that they mention it upfront.  But i would be even more upset if I had a bad session due a racial preference which I did not know about. The lady may not mention it but the session will not be good.

Great advice !

Posted By: asiantantric
Welcome to our community. Let me make a few points:
1. I do see backpage ladies if they have reviews on TER by reputable reviewers
2. You'll get there give it time
3. Some providers self post reviews to get a head start. Don't do it. TER users are smart and can catch self reviews.
4. Like someone said try out an agency
5. You may also request your clients to provide reviews
6. On the race front it's a lose lose as another poster mentioned. I will not see ladies who have racial preferences but I am glad that they mention it upfront.  But i would be even more upset if I had a bad session due a racial preference which I did not know about. The lady may not mention it but the session will not be good.

Thanks for all the advice and responses. I'm not really interested in working with an agency thats why I'm going the independent route from the beginning I've always liked being my own person and doing my own thing. I'm doing pretty good on my own. I'm learning and growing from my experiences and others. I'll just be more patient because I'm starting to realize that everything takes time in this industry.  As for the whole race issue I don't dislike any races I am just fearful of another bad experience. Now that I know more about screening and safety I'll remove that from my future ads and give it another try with all races. Thanks once again for all of the advice and response :)

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