No..I'm a nice guy who shouldn't be nice. Because mr.nice guy gets taken advantage of. .
It's been my experience in this hobby so far, that the more you see the same provider, the less the provider seems to put into the sessions with a client, as far as " enthusiasm of service " after seeing this one gal for 7 dates her level of service and enthusiasm to please the client dropped off dramatically to the point where now shes just 10 min pump and dump. Even despite my constant gifting her and giving great tips. And this isn't just an isolated incident, this has happened 4 times already. It's like the better you treat them, the less effort is put into pleasing her client..worse part about this all. Is I thought I've finally after seeing many ladies ,I thought I had found a true treasure in these woman..guess I won't be gifting any escorts anymore, seems my kindness is being taken for weakness. What a shame. .
if I haven't made a "connection" or developed chemistry after the first visit or two, I move on. It is more common for me that subsequent visits get better as she learns what I like (and vice versa) and sometimes the intensity builds. The analogy I use is that I continue to go back to restaurants where I know and like their menu, but occasionally I will visit a new restaurant.
The insanity here is, I did have a connection I thought with these ladies..
I agree completely. Usually the first visit is somewhat awkward. Follow on sessions build on any chemistry and are generally better.
Sorry to be frank but maybe these providers just don't like you. Since you are experiencing such patterns in bad service it maybe something about you, could be your personality, maybe your hygiene is not up to par or maybe you are just plan boring or don't express your desires to them. Just because they have seen you multiple times, doesn't mean they know what it is you desire out of your time together. Unless you are communicating that with them at each visit. Providers are not in the buisness to read minds. We are here to provide you with the best service and experiences based on your needs and wants. You can be the nicest gent and always tip or give great gifts but if you are not easy to talk to or get along with or your hygiene isn't immaculate or you are pretty much quite and don't communicate your desires easily, depending on if that provider is in need of the business she will probably still see you but her attitude towards you definitely won't be the same as her attitude towards her clients who don't lack any of the previously mentioned. Some providers will see anybody and treat this strictly as a job and definitely know how to turn on and play the "scripted pleasant and sexy role" when meeting new gents. But can't really keep up with that role for regulars or they figure "Hey, he has seen me enough so he won't care". Especially if you are tipping and gifting them when you didn't really have such a great time. Your sessions will almost always go the way you want them to if you express your needs, wants and desires right from the beginning, either in text or email or phone call. If she is not up to fulfilling your requests than she will hopefully tell you upfront. Personally if I do not click with a gent the first time I meet him, I will not date him again. He could be the nicest person but if I can't find something I enjoy about him I just won't do it. And I definitely am not afraid to tell someone "Hey, I appreciate your desire to meet with me again but unfortunately I don't feel like we had any chemistry together so I'm not comfortable seeing you again." That's just how I do things. This is a job yes, but this is a buisness of pleasure and if I don't feel like I can provide this gentleman with the best level of service and pleasure because we don't click, then it isn't fair to him or me. Choosing a provider that is perfect for you may not be easy and you can do all your homework on the provider, but you just really won't know how things will go until you are there.
I wish you much luck on your journey to finding an amazing companion and I hope you keep in mind that us ladies are definitely not all the same. So don't let a few bad ones jade you.
Good luck!
Sexy vixen. First let me say my grooming/ cleanliness is impeccable. And if I'm coming from work ect. I'll lay the consideration down in a gift bag and imeadiatly ask to take a shower if in doubt. As a matter of fact I carry a duffle bag w/all my own soap ect. For whatever reason I seem to click easily with my providers. Buy, maybe after a few dates, iam doing something iam not aware of..instead of seeing her a couple times a week. I'll see her twice a month. And no gifting until I'm sure w/out a doubt she likes me. But, do us guys ever really know?? After all she could be acting, given she's a professional lover..
Vixen hit on most of the things. Could also be that you are seeing gals who do not care about maintaining regulars.
I tend to view it as it gets better after the first date, but that is just me and my experiences. Some gals like having the same guys and developing communication and looking forward to seeing the guy again. I most certainly do enjoy having regulars and I treat them as such. I am not your wife or gf where everything gets boring. I want to enjoy my time and want you to do the same.
Sometimes guys who gift give tend to not respect boundaries and want more than the Hobby experience. Not all, by any means. You would be the only one who knows if you are just appreciating her or thinking there is going to be "more". I really don't see you as the type to suddenly post a "I feel in love with a provider" thread, so I am thinking that's not you. Do you tend to be pushy on things/demanding... or simply being nice and they are using you?
Well at least you are one of the guys who takes Hobbying seriously with bringing a bag for Hobbying, lol. Overall i think that is a good thing to do. Not a must but mind as well make sure everything is good, right?
On a different note, I saw a gal twice. First time was REALLY great. Second time was 10 times better. Who knew that could be possible? bwahaha.
I think a lot of them fall into a comfort level and figure they have already made you a regular so they can stop trying. The good providers make it memorable each and every time. I had a woman that I saw for about a year before she retired and I never know what to expect but was always a great time because she was always up to try something new. Then again I was recently seeing an under the radar provider who doesn't advertise so she's almost entirely dependent on repeat visitors or referrals. The first couple of times it was fun but the last two visits I could tell she just wanted a quick buck and was kind of going through the motions, so I won't be going back.
You are a bad person who pretends to be a "nice guy". I'm willing to bet they sensed it too.
No..I'm a nice guy who shouldn't be nice. Because mr.nice guy gets taken advantage of. .
Nice guys don't go around getting the Twitter accounts of ladies they've never even met suspended.
You think to much of me ninja. I wouldn't know where to begin to get twitter accounts suspended..actually, I'm very new on Twitter.