Though I will say I'm not as easily annoyed as I see some ladies seem to get.
I don't really get worked up over people sending me an email in the morning for a late afternoon or evening appointment- if you are emailing me at 9:00am for a 3:00pm time the same day it's not a huge deal.
I am annoyed by people who perpetually ask for appointments within the time frame you mentioned (2 hours or less), Not to be critical of you, but the whole "my schedule is unpredictable" excuse gets really abused. As someone who is also busy, I sometimes look at this type of comment as an indicator that someone is a bit irresponsible and flippant with their schedule/life. We all have a million things on our plate. Are you seriously saying you're not able to build in an hour or 90 minutes for a single day of the week? For most people that's just not true. Though some people have careers that are certainly like this (a gent I see sometimes is a repairman, he gets calls all times of the day). And at peak times at work, even my schedule gets this way. But I also feel like the clients who most often send me the last minute requests are the ones who haven't read my website to even see my rates (because they are blasting requests to several ladies at random, since they are willing to see just about anyone). Too often, a request to see me in 2 hours or less is followed by an email saying, "how much is an hour?" I will also note that a last minute request without sufficient information, with a special request, or for an outcall is what would annoy me me. I understand wanting to confirm a provider is available at the last minute before sending screening info. But if you are emailing me for a same day appointment, you need to be ready to respond with all of the information I need to screen you as soon as I reply. I would also refrain from using references/whitelist/okays as your screening; there's no guarantee your reference will reply in a timely manner and I personally reach out to the ladies who sent the whitelist/okay for a person trying to see me.**
**the caveat there is that not all providers check in on this, some ladies just look briefly at who gave the whitelist/okay and are okay seeing the client If you have a special request or fetish, there's probably more preparation that is required that makes a last minute request impossible. I got a request this weekend for something that I usually start dieting for days in advance. A last minute outcall is also hugely inconvenient. There are certainly ladies who are happy to see people at the last minute for any or all of the above and don't have the same time or screening restraints that I do. Best of luck!
This is for the many independent ladies I know and don't know. Sometimes I feel a little guilty for calling and hoping to meet up with in the hour-2 hours. Unfortunately my schedule is very unpredictable. With that said, my intent isn't to frustrate a friend or potential new friend. Ladies, please chime in do these requests annoy?
Though I will say I'm not as easily annoyed as I see some ladies seem to get.
I don't really get worked up over people sending me an email in the morning for a late afternoon or evening appointment- if you are emailing me at 9:00am for a 3:00pm time the same day it's not a huge deal.
I am annoyed by people who perpetually ask for appointments within the time frame you mentioned (2 hours or less),
Not to be critical of you, but the whole "my schedule is unpredictable" excuse gets really abused. As someone who is also busy, I sometimes look at this type of comment as an indicator that someone is a bit irresponsible and flippant with their schedule/life. We all have a million things on our plate. Are you seriously saying you're not able to build in an hour or 90 minutes for a single day of the week? For most people that's just not true. Though some people have careers that are certainly like this (a gent I see sometimes is a repairman, he gets calls all times of the day). And at peak times at work, even my schedule gets this way.
But I also feel like the clients who most often send me the last minute requests are the ones who haven't read my website to even see my rates (because they are blasting requests to several ladies at random, since they are willing to see just about anyone). Too often, a request to see me in 2 hours or less is followed by an email saying, "how much is an hour?"
I will also note that a last minute request without sufficient information, with a special request, or for an outcall is what would annoy me me.
I understand wanting to confirm a provider is available at the last minute before sending screening info. But if you are emailing me for a same day appointment, you need to be ready to respond with all of the information I need to screen you as soon as I reply. I would also refrain from using references/whitelist/okays as your screening; there's no guarantee your reference will reply in a timely manner and I personally reach out to the ladies who sent the whitelist/okay for a person trying to see me.**
**the caveat there is that not all providers check in on this, some ladies just look briefly at who gave the whitelist/okay and are okay seeing the client
If you have a special request or fetish, there's probably more preparation that is required that makes a last minute request impossible. I got a request this weekend for something that I usually start dieting for days in advance.
A last minute outcall is also hugely inconvenient.
There are certainly ladies who are happy to see people at the last minute for any or all of the above and don't have the same time or screening restraints that I do.
Best of luck!
Thanks for your insight. I'm sending you an email.
Get P411. Or some other simple means of verification that don't require them to be actually contacting references. And in your message be super accommodating. Ie "I unexpectedly have availability at 3. I understand that it is short notice but thought I would take a chance and see if you happen to be available. I'm easily verifiable with P411, my information there is_____. Thanks!
only for returning friends and for those who are already screened and verified
Because I've come to the conclusion that it most likely will not happen. I still respond to the request like any other but I'll be honest if I do not have the time.
I think it also depends on when the request is send. If someone is emailing at 5pm for a 7pm date, it may not work, especially during the week due to the nature of my career. The joys of being a salaried professional, am I right? However, if it's the weekend - so long as the screening is returned in time, I"m open to it.
Personally, like you, I have an unpredictable schedule as well. My career can keep me at work till midnight some nights depending on the nature of what is going on. In addition, I'm in school, I volunteer, and I workout every day for at least an hour. If I can make the time, I know someone else can too. In addition, I always suggest that people pre-screen. For me, should a person be pre-screened it lasts for six months. That way when the time arises - we can hopefully meet on short notice. If we haven't seen one another within six-months, they'll have to go back through screening as so much can change in six months. Regardless, it is possible to set aside an hour to two hours. Everyone is busy, it's what we prioritize that says more about us.
As someone else stated, most last minute requests are sent through email and they ask ridiculous follow up questions. If you want to catch my attention on a same day request, fill out my booking form and give me ALL the requested information.
Finally, if a gent has a last minute request, I'm sorry friend, you may not get all the glitter and frills I want to give you. You may get LJ in a Calvin Klein bra and panty set versus full scale garter and stockings. You may get girl next door looks compared to the glam they may request.
Sometimes to get a little you'll have to give a little.
My Best,
LJ, xox
Thanks for the insightful question and responses. Sometimes I feel that there is something exciting about doing something last minute, though, which is difficult to put into words.
I think clients' attitudes about last-minute appointments often comes from the (often mistaken) impression about the lives that providers lead. While there are certainly some providers who are sitting around in an incall (or elsewhere), waiting for a client to call, that's not the reality for many.
Getting a hotel room at the last-minute, and figuring out how to shift around my day-job obligations -- that's usually pretty difficult for me, most of the time. I usually say up-front in my ads that I'm unable to accommodate last-minute appointments, because that's the nature of my own schedule and priorities.
And even where I am sitting on my couch at home literally watching Netflix, someone calling and asking if they can show up at my incall in the next 1-2 hours means that I need to book the incall, travel over there myself, and shower and otherwise prep. My life just doesn't work that way, most of the time.
But I do have provider friends, who, when they are "working" (especially when they are on tour), really are sitting around waiting for a client call, and who don't have the day job or other logistical considerations that I usually do.
If it works out, then it works out. If it doesn't, then it doesn't. It only takes 5 seconds to let someone know either way. Guys (myself included) want to be respectful and value relationships. We don't want to offend anyone unintentionally or project an image that doesn't reflect who we are.
...if someone were to ask for a same-day incall it'd only annoy me because it show he didn't read jack shit lol (i'm pretty cool about same day outcall tho).
IF I put in an ad that same day on a particular trip is okay then I don't mind however it might be a problem if you haven't even been screened and expect me to see you in the next 1hr or 2. If you see a lady that's on your radar and you're interested in her but YOU know your schedule is unpredictable then you should pre-screen with her so that's one less headache for her if you decide to last minute book/pre-book with her.
While "right now" is not in my vocabulary, I do offer an incentive for secured appointments with at least a 3 hour notice.
First things first your screening plays an integral part when booking last minute appointments. From my experience I have had guys pre-screen within a reasonable time frame so we can align our schedules much easier at the last minute. It can be very frustrating sometimes when the timing is right but the stars are not. I do not have a problem with last minute appointments as long as we can get your screening done painlessly.
What????
So there's nothing more frustrating than that whole "I just found out I have extra free time, can I meet in an hour" line. While I'm sure I'd love to meet the fellow, there's a few issues that come into play with this one. 1, I could be busy at the moment, and being independent and answering my own emails, that hour could be up before I ever get to check my inbox at all. 2, safety is my number 1 priority and if I haven't seen you before, there's no way I'm going to get you screened that quick.
With that being said, I do have friends that message me like that, and if I've already seen/screened them before and I am free when I get the message, I don't mind squeezing them in (pun fully intended).
I have to say I can't thank you enough for your flexibility. As always it was a pleasure to see you again. Can't wait till next time!