I wanted to add my experience to the countless others who have posted on this board. I’m a young guy who started seeing escorts in college and have seen some of the best this country has to offer (and Columbia but that’s for another time) over the last 9 years. At the beginning of this year i finally took the plunge into the sugar bowl after reading this forum for months.
Like all of you I had my rough patches (NCNS, over-inflated worth (especially cause I live in LA), crazy bitches, etc). That being said I finally found my stride 3 months ago and have loved the bowl and might have found a future legit girlfriend out of it (total 20 y.o. dime piece who had wanted money, but enjoys my company and experiences I can provide enough for her). Thank you for providing words of wisdom for myself and others to follow to navigate the sugar bowl. As I will most likely continue to do this versus pro’s (if it doesn’t work out with my current situation) for the foreseeable future. Godspeed, my fellow degenerates.Birds chirping, harps playing, ahhhh the sweet sounds of love.....I’ve found some SB ‘s to be someone which I could fall in love with. Now mind you I don’t because of one main issue....married with kids. Also I’m always looking for that next girl, piece of ass. I bet you are too. Snap out of it drink some coffee!
Great story...thanks for sharing. I have discovered that the Sugar Bowl is not for everyone, for a variety of reasons, not the least of which is the fact that it takes a great deal of time and patience to find "your stride." For those that do, the rewards are well documented here. I am still amazed by the amount of great sex i have had in the past yearwith hot 20somethings that provide something for me (because of cost) that escorts cannot...3-5 hour dates that involve multiple hours behind closed doors AND a social component (drinks, dinners) if we so choose. For me, nothing beats relaxing with a glass of wine (or bourbon) on any given evening with a sexy, engaging young woman who is even more in a hurry to get to the bedroom than i am. Most importantly, she is not in a hurry to leave and i dont want her to...until i do. My ability to keep it nsa or fwb, or whatever you want to call it,has been a key to my success. I dont fall in love (inevitably ruining things) and i dont get clingy. It definitely keeps them interested. I call it " the power of SA." I know that if one arrangement ends, another is right around the corner...this keeps me balanced and making just the amount of connection i like to make. Many of these young ladies are truly "quality." I know, however, that our arrangement will inevitably run its course. With each, i just enjoy it for what it is, not thinking past our next date. Works for me... i hope you guys are enjoying the Bowl and are marvelling at finding what works for you and your good fortune. Enjoy!
So, Coach, or anybody else who cares to chime in, what is your opinion about the minimum amount of time that it takes before an arrangement can be called "long term"?
On the one hand, I used to think that over three months seemed "long" to me, and I fancied that my two great relationships, oops, arrangements, that had gone this distance, and more, are therefore LT.
But then, what would be "medium term", in that case? Can't be just 2-3 months, that seems ridiculously short.
Let's see, I have 2 ongoing arrangements that have lasted for over a year, so I think they qualify as long term. 2 others that have ended but also lasted over a year. One that's fairly new, but quite intense and I hope will become long term. I think frequency has as much to do with it as sheer duration. Once I have dated a girl 10 or 12 times, I consider it long term.
For some reason, completely arbitrary, i have defined "long term" as one year or more. If pressed, it probably is related to dating back when i was in my 20s. One year was a milestone back then
For me, true long term SB is when you start to lose track of the amount of sex for the amount of money spent. When you just bang and hang out and then help her as needed. I’ve gotten to that point in 3 dates and still not been there after 20.