I’ve got two sugars that I have seen at least a few times each and in the last two days both of them We’re going to meet me at a certain time and never showed up and never called. I guess the obvious answer is throw that one away and keep going but damn they’re both so much fun. Just really pisses me off, how hard is it to say my plans changed
I figure that either someone or something is more attractive to them than me so I don't give it a second thought and just move on. The last thing you want to do is to obsess about a SB who didn't show up.
Usually they are coming to my place. Their visit has made me clean up so that's good. I've just saved money. That's good too. OTOH they totally disrespected me. So I message them with a note of concern and point out that Im worried because I know they are too nice to do something so rude. They get 1 more chance.
Now if I got a hotel room just for that occasion I would be fucking pissed and that would be the end.
BTW. Seeing guys posts on a SBs site tells me NCNS is a common problem with SBs.
Sometimes they make it up to you, and sometimes you never hear from them again.
One odd thing is that they come in bunches. I had three of them within weeks many years ago, then nothing for years, then two this year. Strange.
I know that sounds kinda wrong. It’s much simpler than that. When it comes to NCNA that means it’s over most often. My problem is I want to be the one that ends it. I feel bad if she (the SB) does it to me. I don’t want to bf the quittie I wanted to be the quitter.
Must be the sales in me. The customer can’t quit me until I get what I want or need from them. Then I can be done with them.
I usually send a message expressing my concern about their well being, but I remind them that since they didn't notify me they were not going to show that I will be returning the gift that I purchased for them. After that I move on as it does seem to occur more in the sugar world.
at the last minute, and that was after he booked a room that could not be cancelled. I do think these young women are often very disrespectful. But also, they are really ignorant. They don't realize we went to considerable trouble and expense to set up the date. I'll give them another chance, but I think it's important to find some way to let them know how much trouble they caused. If nothing else, we could have made other plans if they had cancelled earlier.
I try to have a backup sugar baby or hooker right away. I usually forget about the NCNS by the time I'm balls deep in plan B.
Now that is a man with the plan. Great idea.
These girls have a cell phone stuck to their hands. It's the height of irresponsibility, rudeness, and disrespect.
When it's happened to me, I have never heard from her again. So, I don't expect that I ever will.
It just happened to me--and, I've yet to hear from her, two weeks later.
Just move on. Buy yourself somethiing nice with half the money you were going to spend, or donate it to charity.
After being stuck with a hotel room once, I wait to book until we're sitting in a restaurant having a pre-romp drink. Price line (and the like will generally come thru). You can always check availability at one or two places nearby in advance.
NCNS = Major Bummer. But, move on. If there isn't a darn good explanation forthcoming soon, move on. If an explanation does arrive (don't hold your breath), move on.
I sure do love the thrill of the hunt in the Sugar world, but I think I like the guaranteed, well almost, connection and reliability of a great provider.
She pissed me off. Gonna break it off. She doesnt seem too concerned. She can wash my laundry and thats it. If she wants the cock, and the extra payday she knows where to find me. Otherwise, headed back to the well. I can cum 2-5 times a day. She doesnt get first dibs anymore. Cancel on me 2 weeks in a row at the last minute and you are gone. At that point you become a fuck of opportunity and not a scheduled GFE. Any providers out there ready to please me becore 2pm today on Long Island? I am primed!
Had an NCNS on Wednesday. On Monday agreed to meet for a drink in the next few days -- already negotiated rate. I checked my schedule later and suggested 6:30 on Wednesday at a hotel with a bar/restaurant. If things proceeded well at the bar, would move to the hotel room. On Tuesday evening I inquired if we were still on. She said yes. On Wednesday morning she pinged me to see if we were still on for 6:00. I said, sure, see you at 6:00. About 5:30 she pinged and asked if 6:30 was okay. I said sure. I head out and get there a bit early. Wait in the car for a ping. Nothing. After 15 minutes ping her -- say I'll have to bug out if I don't hear from her by 7:00. Radio silence. They're goofy.
Sometimes they just get cold feet at the idea of meeting and then likely having sex (for an allowance).
Happens quite a bit.
If I get the sense she's a true SB who got cold feet, I'd ping them a day or so later and give her an opening to use a lame excuse. She's not likely to ping you. Of course, it depends on how pissed I am at the NCNS (usually very--and move on....)
SB's (and occasionally hookers) will flake. Not all, maybe not even most. But some. It's not you, it's them.
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Reasons include - who fucking cares? SB's lie, so just assume they had a bigger wallet/dick/present/whatever than you.
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My reaction depends on the sugar-status of the SB:
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First meet, or 1st planned BCD: I have a one-no-show policy and message them with some type of "hope you are ok and let me know if you want to reschedule" message and then I forget about them. I get 1st meet NCNS's about 15-20% of the time. I never spend serious $$$ before a 1st meet, and if I suspect she'd flakey I'll even schedule the meet at a Starbucks rather than an expensive bar/restaurant so at most I'm risking 30 minutes and a $5 cup of joe.
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Subsequent meets (after at least one successful BCD): I have a one re-schedule allowed policy. If she messages me prior to the meet or within 24 hours after the meet with a really good/viable lie (er... I mean excuse. Meaning she gets points for at least having a good imagination), I'll generally agree to a reschedule. If she does ask to reschedule, AND I think she's just jerking my chain or using me as her Plan B, I'll act a little mad and tell her she needs to make it up to me and give me a freebie (or seriously reduced) BCD to show she's sorry and serious about me as her SD. Messaging is the same as above: "hope you are ok, let me know...". For me this scenario is likely to also be low out of pocket costs as I am not married and host in my house. This happens to me a lot less than 1st time meets. But it does still happen, maybe 5-10% of the time.
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In either scenario, I have rarely seen the SB actually reply and ask for a reschedule. Still, I always leave the door open for them to contact me later down the road. Why be a jerk and ensure you will never get to taste that strange? It costs nothing to be nice, without actually being a pussy and letting her walk all over you.
I can't think of anything more disrespectful than NCNS. If she would contact me later and apologize and offer some excuse -- even cold feet, I'd listen for sincerity. But no way am I going to reach out. It's on her, not me.
is that most of these girls really like to drink! Last couple of POTs had a little trouble walking when we met up and needed help getting into the Uber when finished!
Then there's the "420 friendly" girls who I swear walk around habitually stoned.
Finally, throw in opiates/pain killers some of them take for "woman's day" and you got a prefect excuse for a NCNS.
The SB NCNS happens. No way around it, so just plan accordingly. I set up all initial "meet and greets" at a location of my choosing. I bring my laptop, order a drink and work for 30 minutes. If they don't show, since I've chosen the location, I move on to whatever in my life needs attention. As others have stated, will leave the "door open" to reschedule.
If you browse any of the chick-forums, it happens to them regularly, also. Seems they take it more emotionally.
I'm running close to 25% in no-shows, although half message me while I'm either in the restaurant or on my way.
I think ShockB has the best plan: assume they are NOT going to show, have a backup plan or just finish your drink and get on with your life!
Met this fantastic brand new SB the other day that told me that she finds the bowl alot of fun: doesn't dabble too much (every 2-3 days) and blows off the flakes as they come and go. She had a life before and will have one after, no matter what.
I do get cancellations and rescheduled dates all the time, but very rarely do I get totally blown off once we have agreed to meet.
That said, I don't go renting hotel rooms, nor do I do anything else that would mean my entire night would be ruined in the case of an NCNS. and I usually try to have at least some kind of hooker backup if I am traveling any distance.
I would never pre-book a hotel with an SA girl (well, except the one time I did -- but she wasn't a youngster and was very obviously accommodating and eager. It was easy to read her -- she was after the cash. And it turned out fine.)
because, at least for me, I will have already taken a dose of vitamin V. Very recently I had a date planned with my formerly favorite current Unicorn. I was showered, shaved, dressed, and dosed with V, and driving towards our rendezvous when she texted me with a somewhat lame excuse about postponing and could we get together tomorrow (which never happened). It's just plain inconsiderate. I guess she got a better offer.
When I am at home (small city 100,000 pop) I don't bother with a back up plan, but it doesn't matter as I don't need V and I don't need a hotel as I am single and host at home, but when I travel (often to Dallas) and plan on meeting up with an SB there, I always make sure to have some kind of "hooker backup" so an NCNS or last minute cancellation doesn't ruin my evening.
I take a quarter of a V under my tongue -- usually as I hop in the car. V works faster sublingually (and more effectively than swallowing it -- so careful on the dose.) It tastes really bitter. But that way I don't have to commit it too soon.
This is a fascinating thread ... it's been entertaining and useful to hear the experiences of all you guys 😋
For me NCNS's were a perennial problem in first meetings with pot SB's but I'm getting MUCH better at being able to wash out the flakes early on and avoid the disappointment of a NCNS. My rate of NSNC for a ( within an hour prior ) CONFIRMED first date is under 5 %.
Also, my experience with my regular SB's has been relatively free of NCNS dates ...and when it has rarely happened they usually call or text soon afterwards with a REALLY GOOD explanation ( lie ) and express sorrow and a willingness to make it up to me...so naturally I forgive them and expect them to TOTALLY fuck my brains out on our make up date 😋
With pot SB's who NCNS I usually just go silent and wait for her to offer an explanation and ask for another date...then I determine if she's worth another chance based upon my perception of her sincerity and how HOTT she is 😋