Hello........had my 1st experience.....with a female escort........went very well!.........
Now i just need to know......what perpetuates
this line of work?
Example......this women.....had a bachelors degree.....in clothes design......very good money i suppose......so then why this profession?
I do know that her father was an alcoholic.......
he died when she was 13.......i know she had a few drinks before she met me......how common is alcohol and drug abuse.....in the profession?....
Did the addiction......of those who have one.....
start.....before(therefore.....having a need for money)......or after(because they are trying to become numb)..... to the profession they are in?
How common of an issue.......is abuse of these women?.......do you have any......cold,hard,facts
for me.....on the profession itself?.............
.................................Thank you.
Why NOT this profession? And why would the fact that someone's father being an alcoholic predispose someone to seek this particular line of work? Why are you somehow equating escorting with addiction? And what is the leap to "abuse of these women?"
Since you are asking for "cold, hard, facts," let me give you some, fresh from yours truly and her very recent research (3 months ago) on a convenience sample of 100 providers who are reviewed on TER:
1. A majority of them have some college education;
2. 22% were college graduates and 14% had attended graduate school;
3. Escorting was a secondary profession, the primary profession being attorney, engineer, university instructor, and real estate appraiser, among others;
4. A healthy majority felt that they LOVED sex and enjoyed their profession;
5. Almost half of the respondents reported living with children.
Now what does that sound like to you??? To me, it sounds like it could be your own neighbor...or your kid's best friend's mom. Here's my take on it: As long as there are "normal" guys willing to pay for sex, there will be "normal" women selling it. So there - that's what perpetuates this line of work - money, sex and pleasure, felt on both sides of the short-term mating game. You don't NEED to have been abused, or have had alcoholic parents (gee, would that be from a pool from way over the 12 million reported alcoholics and counting in the U.S.), or be a drug abuser yourself to enjoy providing. You can simply be a sharp cookie who has figured out how to combine business and pleasure....particularly since there are buyers galore!
My advice to you: please get over your judgments, stereotypes and misconceptions. And please do it quickly, if you plan to stay in the hobby. Because unless you plan on picking up homeless, substance-abusing, drug-injecting women on the street, all your inferences will be out the window.
Deep sigh,
the Love Goddess
Wow.......excuse me?..........judgements,stereotypes,misconceptions........just asking a serious question..........
i think it was answered with.........more opinion
than fact..............thank you very much.
but somehow I don't think it will matter...
Just the facts, sir,
the Love Goddess
...Since you seem to have already made up your mind that there HAS to be some sort of problematic root cause for a woman choosing to escort. By the way, why the alias?
This question and the recounting of the lady's "clinical history" reminds me of a course I used to co-teach to first year medical students about sexuality and particularly variations. There were three of us teaching. The other two were a gay physician in a long term happy monogamous relationship and a lesbian physician who is a nationally recognized expert on STDs, also happily connected (married recently in California). Inevitably, one student would ask "Does anyone know what causes homosexuality?" Looking for some childhood trauma or physiologic "defect" to explain "it". The gay physician would always say that he often wondered what causes heterosexuality.
Providing is illegal in most jurisdictions in the US. There was a lovely woman near near me raising two kids who got caught in a sting (not uncommon); it was in all the papers (you can imagine how that was for her 2-teens in HS) she lost her "day" job as a school aide and the custody of the her children. Those with professional licenses might well see those put at risk as well. That might answer the "why not?" for many woman. That said, most of the providers I've met seem generally happy and well put together (certainly no more screwed up than the public at large). Of the ones I've gotten to know well the mix of back grounds seems average...with horrible to great; again, like the public at large.
Seriously, we all have our natural curiosity I suppose but there are as many reasons for providing as there are providers.
In my 20 plus years of hobbying I have met women from all walks of life. The one thing they all had in common was that they all needed a job and they all chose escorting. To try and attach any other commonalities to these ladies is not really possible or necessary.
Enjoy the time spent and walk away. If you start getting too wrapped up in the "why" you are going to find it much more difficult to simply enjoy the moment.
Perhaps, if you are lucky like me and a few other posters here you will develop friendships with a few of these ladies. If that happens you will come to realize that all of them are individuals, all have their own reasons for doing what they do and just about all of them are extraordinary women.
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and that is about fifty or so, I can think of only one that really didn't like doing this and she eventually got out of the profession.
The rest seem to genuinely enjoy the business; and the money, while not as great as some believe it is, is generally better than other fields (especially fashion retail!).
As for drinking, yes a few like to tipple a bit before sessions, but rarely have I found any to be truly intoxicated. Some people like to drink all day, no surprise there.
.... of the many women I have met and I few that I dated there were:
- Two nurses - one saving for a down payment on a house
- The hotel executive who didn't have much time to date and liked the excitement and action
- An army staff sergeant (female) who also liked the action
- Several students who made more in one night / day then they would have in a week of minimum wage work and it was just sex (and friendship for three months of dating)
- A secretary with an autistic child who needed extra money
and so on - lots of really nice, very normal and very sensual and sexy ladies, LADIES in all senses of the word - we enjoyed dinners, shows and walks together among other things
MH50
I was fascinated with it since I was a little girl reading about Veronica Franco, Madame Pompadour.
Seemed glamorous & exciting!
And it usually is, I get to spend nights at 5 star hotels, VIP tables at the best clubs & restaurants & the guys just seem soooo appreciative of my time, efforts & charms.
I love being adored quite simply & it inspires me to adore them just as much.
It's the happiest I have ever been 
Why? and as LG said, why not
and frankly you have asked this b4 and gotten the same answers, and still its not what you want to hear. So its none of your business why.
No victims here just woman in Business.
He has asked this before? OK, here are my questions:
What causes two people of different races to fall in love and marry (illegal in 1/4 of American states until 1967)? What causes people to vote Republican? (Or Democratic, if you prefer.) What causes some people to perform un-natural sex acts (anything other than straight Mish)? What causes some people to like that taste of liver? To root for the New York Yankees? To become Nascar fans? To ask patronizing questions about other adults' free choices?
most of your inquiries I can't answer I wonder too but Nascar, I think it's the risk and seeing the great crashes. The crashes make the race, more the merrier.
Men are often under the illusion that woman can not engage in casual no strings fun, yet these same men are doing the very same thing.
Women who can't handle the situation emotionally, often bow out quickly and return to more traditional relationships with men.
So for those that remain it is the lure of easy money, no strings affairs, more affluent men and even the opportunity to be more sexually adventurous without the repercussions possible in a committed relationship.
I'm starting to wonder why there aren't even more woman working as escorts . . .
Well said.......Thank you!....I think i'm the one who needs to bow out.One encounter with my 1st provider/and i'm already losing sleep over her.............Geez!
He looks to me like another troll. I notice he has no reviews and I'd bet is new to TER.