but don't think that would happen. Thankfully they live in separate areas, miles apart. If they are related, I'm hoping that they don't ever talk and compare note or contacts.
So I decide to take the plunge and sign-up for premium service on SA. Already spent time with one BCD and she was fun and we've seen each other a few times already.
Then I see a new face pop up and yea, she's definitely the GND and cute as fuck college girl (#2). We start conversing, move the convo outside of SA and we are meeting. Her IM account shows her last name.
Yesterday, another new face pops up, same thing as #2. Meeting her next week. Kicker is she has the same last name and I'm believing she's the sister based on the conversation I had with #2. Thankfully both attend different colleges.
I'm buying lottery tickets cause this kind of thing doesn't happen often. Anyone else encounter a similar scenario?
It'd be even more fun if you could have the sisters together, but just to be able to get BCD with both of them to compare and contrast sounds like a thrill.
Congrats!
but don't think that would happen. Thankfully they live in separate areas, miles apart. If they are related, I'm hoping that they don't ever talk and compare note or contacts.
I had a similar experience with two sisters. I met the first sister on SA about 2 years ago. She was 23, a recent college grad, had just moved to VA, and was working as an intern in a local law firm. We hit it off immediately and began meeting weekly for lunch or dinner and "dessert" behind closed doors. Her company was great and the sex was incredible.
I met the second sister on SA six months later. She was 25, had been living in VA almost 2 years, and worked as a model at a local agency. We also hit it off immediately, and mostly met for just drinks and sex. She was a dynamo in bed.
I kept both in my rotation, and after a year, was surprised to discover they were sisters. Although they discovered me on SA under the same name, they swear they never compared notes or swapped stories. They did not live together, but once when I was at the second sister's apartment drinking as our prelude to sex, the first sister stopped by to pick up some clothes.
We all three spent that night together, and several other nights. We also continued to date separately until The first sister moved back home to MI, and the second sister moved to GA.
It was a mind blowing experience we all enjoyed.
So of the two, one has backed out of meeting. Kind of anticipated that occurring. The other one still wants to meet up, she seems to be more adventurous and free spirited of the two.
I will say this, based on what I've heard so far. Cultivating any type of arrangement takes a bit of time and energy. Both are highly skeptical of meeting. One did meet someone and the result was disastrous; all the guy did was talk about sex. That experience, IMHO, was sufficient enough for her to be leery about meeting anyone.
Distinguish yourself from other SD morons by establishing rapport with the girl first. Don't come off like a perv who can't think of anything else than acting out their craziest kinks. You wouldn't do that on Match.com so don't do it here. Of course there is a P4P element, but this is more like dating than hobbying. Go at their speed and make them feel comfortable with you before diving into any potentially provocative topics... and when you do get around to it, do it tactfully. If she's willing to meet with you, chances are she's willing to sleep with you... don't fuck it up by saying something to talk yourself out of her wanting to sleep with you.
You may be able to salvage things with the sister who cancelled by adopting a no-pressure hands off sales approach. "You're not like those other guys", "You will not be crass or rude and will treat her with respect", etc... Once she feels comfortable with you after first meet you can gently let her know that the Sugar doesn't start until the intimacy starts... then the ball's in her court and she should be primed and ready to go.
I've purposely stayed away from mentioning certain subjects and letting things progress on their own and building up a rapport with them. To enjoy the garden, one must plant the seed first and let it blossom on it's own.
It's the other morons on the site that are making it a challenge in actually meeting. It's the very first thing they start with. Great way to chase of some really attractive girls, many whom are on the fence to begin with.
Sounds like you are on the right track. My post was mainly for the benefit of others reading and I was using the collective "you" rather than saying that you specifically were doing anything wrong. 👍
As for those other SD morons, god bless those schmucks lol. On one hand, they can make things slightly more difficult as you alluded to... but man, they set the bar so freakin' low that it makes us as SDs look like princes just by acting normal and with a modicum of respect. I often wonder how successful we would be if we didn't have these clowns making us look so good lmao 😂
Oh well, works for me!!!
Those other idiots are both a blessing and a curse. You're right, they have set the bar so low, that there really isn't even a bar anymore. Some of the stupid things to do - ask for nudes right from the start, send "dic pics", immediately try and talk about hooking up, blow up their phone or IM system. Start doing that stuff and you'll lose them immediately.
I left the door open for the one who just cancelled, taking a hands off approach. She knows how to contact me and maybe she'll have a change of thought. She still has her profile up. However, the one I'm scheduled to meet has removed her profile, so now I'm not sure what is going on. I just dislike spending the time working on a rapport only to have some moron come along and ruin it.
I was the first guy she ever met on the site. In our conversations leading up to our first meeting she told me about the guys who sent her "dick pics" and the guys who led off with "how much for sex"
I simply responded to her with "Note to self, do NOT send "dick picks" and never offer to pay Cynthia for sex" lol We got together a couple of days later "just to meet over dinner" and two minutes after I gave her a "good bye kiss" at her car we were checking into the hotel right next door to the restaurant (yes, the location was planned. lol)
I am pretty sure I was indeed the first, because when I slipped her some money as we were leaving the room, (we had never discussed "allowance" but I knew she needed the money) she gratefully took the money and then said "Well, I guess I am officially a prostitute now" lol I guess she didn't feel too bad about it as I saw her at least 20 more times.
That's exactly what I've heard from the few I've had communications with. I've met one and we've already been BCD. Amazing how the little things can score big points. Holding the car door open for them, assisting them with their coat or jacket, even small compliments make a huge difference.
It's your last comment about her statement which I think many struggle with and why they end up ceasing being on that site or just never log in again. The one I'm about to meet hasn't met anyone yet that she's comfortable with. So my mind set is baby steps and let her dictate the pace of things. She's cute as fuck and just my type too. I'm a patient person when I see what I want. It's also a matter of making sure she doesn't get that mindset or treating it in that manner.
Just like a whole lot of johns have ZERO game which is why they HAVE to see escorts.
I treat a first date with an SB just like a civvie date, I was not blessed with great looks, not even in my youth, so I learned at an early age how to make a woman laugh (preferably with me and not at me. lol) The beauty about SA is that unlike some civvie dates the default position is that she is going to sleep with you at some point. All you have to do is to NOT talk her out of it by doing something stupid. POT SB's seem to be very receptive to the first move, that is they are very receptive if you have done a good job of determining just when to make that first move. Like I said, it's just like civvie dating, only easier.
Agree...
It's an interesting artifact of the Sugar Bowl that you find women who will have sex with a guy regardless of his looks - as long as they are comfortable and trust the guy, and as long as he can pony up the sugar. I am not about to grace the cover of a fashion magazine either. But I have a sense of humor and project confidence, respect and acceptance of the women I meet. To be sure, there are POT SB's that never contact me due to my looks. But I've no doubt that those women would be viable SB's anyway.
It's actually ironic that MY willingness to pay is based 1st on her looks, and then I consider other aspects of compatibility like personality, schedule, etc.
I would agree that lots of guys have no game in any world. It's not that hard. I don't care if she's an escort, a POT SB, or a civil, treat them right, make them laugh a little and compliment them and amazing things happen.
I'm looking forward to.seeing what transpires with this.one. The two biggest challenge is going to be the age factor and the sugar aspect. She's aware of my age and it doesn't seem to be a factor. It may be a factor BCD. Thankfully I've dated a few near her age so I can relate to her thoughts.
Yesterday, another new face pops up, same thing as #2. Meeting her next week. Kicker is she has the same last name and I'm believing she's the sister based on the conversation I had with #2. Thankfully both attend different colleges.
I'm buying lottery tickets cause this kind of thing doesn't happen often. Anyone else encounter a similar scenario?