LG, I just love your column. Lot's of good input. I sometimes encounter "retarded ejaculation". And I think that your advise about laying off has merit. But several years ago when I was going through a period of undiagnosed diabetes I slowed down masterbating and had a series of prostatitis and epididymitis infections perhaps due to not flushing stuff regularly. Supposedly the condition was once called "monks disease" for obvious reasons. Do you think there is some frequency that ejaculation needs to occur to stay healthy? Just trying to pace myself. The truth is I would much rather do it with a girl than myself but I sometimes think my body needs to stay in practise. Being realistic I only hobby once or twice a month. Use it or lose it.
Dear phi68psi,
HUGE merit. HUGE. But of course it's not specified how semen expulsion should occur...and, in all honesty, the most natural way is how it was intended to come out..via ejaculation inside a cavity, either vagina or anus. The problem is that we have evolved beyond primates - and for reasons of Victorian prudery, those of the time came up with all sorts of rules for where we should and where we shouldn't ejaculate.
If you are one of those fortunate men for whom masturbation does not cause a deleterious ejaculatory pattern, then hell, jack off till you pass out. Keeping the pipes clean is healthy! Unfortunately though, some men get into a masturbatory pattern that does bring on RE. But heck, if you already have a physiological disorder, keep trying to expulse. Best if you can afford live females. If not, bite the bullet and self-stimulate. Always better to be a live dog than a dead lion, if you get my drift.
Darn tootin' rite,
the Love Goddess
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Too much masturbation --defined as 10% more than I did at your age-- causes "neurasthenia" according to older medical textbooks, paralysis according to my father, and visual difficulties according to many of my friends' mothers. ("Neurasthenia" apparently means fatigue and laziness.)
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such information is outdated and grossly inaccurate according to modern research, lest some individuals misunderstand and really believe that this is the case. There is no such thing as "too much masturbation." What happens to individuals who sometimes have situational anorgasmia is that their long-term masturbatory pattern has been established in such a way that when they encounter a real, live person, difficulty with climax sets in.
Let's all get very clear on this: MASTURBATION DOES NOT CAUSE ANY ILLNESS - THE LEAST OF ALL "NEURASTHENIA".
Member of The World Association for Sexology recoils in horror,
the Love Goddess
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Boy, I've been beating myself to death for years over that one.
Of course, then there's my nearsightnessm my hairy palms, etc...
8o)
and if there was such a thing as "too much", it surely wouldn't be geared to my personal activity. Nor would I use 200 year old texts, my puritanical father, or my friends' mothers as references. I though it was obvious, but perhaps I was wrong. Thanks for making things clear.
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I mean really, gross! How in the world could that be any fun. That's why the we have the lowest rates of Neurasthenia in the country.
I am interested in the whole anorgasmia thing. Damn, I worked on lengthening the response curve for years. I was thinking this was kinda an acheivement. I'm just gonna go into a major sulk if its a phsiological condition and I have to stop masturbating for treatment.