I was messaging with a girl in my hometown on SA - we seemed to get along and thing were going great. Then it comes time to exchange private pictures. I'm married, so as always, I ask her to show me hers first in case I know her or she knows my wife. Well, it turns out I do know her. Or at least recognize her. I see her at my gym several times a week. Little head was screaming "go for it," but the big head prevailed. I told her I couldn't continue with her because we frequently cross paths in real life. She was curious where, but I told her it's best if we stop here and move on. Awkward situation avoided!
If you are martied and your wife does not know about your activities you are going to keep things discreet, right? So why does it matt if she goes to your gym?
Some get that adrenalin rush from taking chances, but others bend over backwards to be safe.
Both philosophies have their place.
Constantly running into somebody you are fucking behind your wife's back is hardly "being discreet"
What if the SB "wants more" or even worse develops feelings? There are a million things that could go wrong for a married man, I think he is being wise not to pursue it.
Now for me personally, I would love it, as I could use a both a workout partner and a "workout" after my workout. lol
Speak for yourself buddy. Been at the sugar bowl for 4 months now, hobbying for almost 8 years, had/have an active vanilla extramarital affair for last 1.5 years, all while being married. Have been super careful and lucky. As Mr. Fisher said, I'm on one extreme of being an adrenaline junkie. Having fun so far. No need to limit oneself while being married...and I'm having fun with the missus too Lol!
My wife's best friend hires young college graduates to help with her daughter. Essentially exchanges room and board for assistance with childcare. The current "helper" dances/cheers for a local professional team. Needless to say, her body is incredible and I see her almost weekly in regular life. Well, sure enough she popped up on SA. Read her profile and immediately blocked her. Like you, my profile picture is hidden. I was tempted, but only for a nanosecond.
Good job exercising some self control. I'm sure it was tough passing on someone who you were attracted to but wayyyyyyy too much could go wrong there. Well done.
Link to prior post of my scenario
https://classic.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=24972&boardID=20&page=3#24972
Re-post from couple months ago. We've crossed paths once since this happened, exchanged smiles and winks. Guess there's always a chance we may jump into the sugar bowl together in the future.
Question: I recently started a mentoring program for students interested in my profession where they spend a day observing me at work. Today my student shows up and she looks familiar but I can't quite recall from where. Some back ground: Had contacted a college SB about 6 weeks ago, had some messaging exchanges but no concrete plans made and communication between us stopped. Lately over the last few days she has been viewing my profile again. We had a good day and said our goodbyes. I sign on to SA and you can guess who just viewed my profile again! I view her profile and confirm my suspicions, we just met face to face coincidentally and spent the day at my job. We message back and forth laughing about how we looked familiar and that our "secret" is safe...lol...So now it seems there's interest but caution is in order. There's the official mentoring responsibility I have with the student program, on top of the "mentoring" SB's are looking for on SA. I can see the headlines if something goes awry and being portrayed as a predator.
Any other viewpoints from the gallery of SD's out there????
My wife made reservations st a popular restaurant in town. I had to text a former SB I was coming. She made sure not to be our waitress. Nothing awkward, I was wondering if she'd follow me to the bathroom for a BJ however. Didn't happen 😩 Probably for the best