I'm medium paranoid with SBs and escorts.
I always give my real first name. Only 3 (out of 80 or so) have ever known my last name. Except for getting verified on p411, I've NEVER given my real name, work info, etc, to anyone. I use a hobby email. I use a hobby phone number (Burner app, not a 2nd phone). I google my TER handle and hobby email address to make sure that nothing "leaks" between my real and hobby identities.Most SB's get to know my real name, and I regularly entertain the SB's I see at my own home. It's possible that my neighbors wonder about the constant stream of young hotties that are in and out of my home on a regular basis, but I can't really imagine how I could care any less about how any of them feel about it.
For the record I have had the same phone number for over twenty years and I have given the number to literally hundreds of different hookers/SBs/Civvies and I haven't had to change my number for any of them.
I suppose if you are married or have a morals clause in your employment contract that a certain amount of paranoia is healthy, but I am not the least bit ashamed of what I do and I don't make any effort at all to hide it.
although in my case I'm married and my wife knows all about my activities and is totally cool with it. Hey, she does sleepovers with her BF, so it's fair, no? But I guess this is no help for xray's question about paranoia.
She was a long term SB and number and home address. I knew hers. No one else. I shared it after six months of knowing each other.
How do you really know that only one has your real name? You may have volunteered your name to a single SB but I am pretty confidant that a slew not only know your real identity but a lot of other information about you. Not only is it relatively easy these days to track down people's identities, after all the recent hacks, particularly Equifax, nothing is really private.
How can YOU be so confident that a "slew" of them have HIS identity?
I can give you my first name, the state I live in and my age......$1000 says you can't send me an empty envelope to mail the cash back to you...Equifax can't even find my ass.
I guess anything can happen. In my case it’s remote. I don’t want to go thru all the precautions I take but I am sure I am fine
One of the SB's was/is my housekeeper. The other ended up meeting me thru a friend of a friend at an event about 2 months after we had stopped seeing each other. It was awkward, but we got over it. We are even FB friends now. (She is also married and doesnt want a scene, cool lady tho).
With providers, none of them know my last name or anything but the general area I live in (within 20 miles).
I also use a hobby email and phone. Usually RL and hobby don't mix. (Though still going strong w the housekeeper - only missed 2 Fridays due to her period and mutal agreement cause we had stuff to do other than each other)
That things can be going wonderfully NOW, but can go really bad in the future, and there is just no way to know. So, even after steady repeats and months of knowing a provider, and having a great time, things can become very different, and I learned this the hard way with a women I saw for two years.
So, I'm a bit more careful now. I make exceptions, but not many.