I am not sure if I am using this term properly.
Occasionally, I try to prolong a marathon f##k session.
No problem in maintaining erection. However , I then may have difficulty in orgasm achievement.
This problem may [although not necessarily] be augmented by ED med [recreational use] or one drink.
Advice ?
Am I alone ?
Thanks to LG and other responders
No, House-of-Pain,
You are not alone in trying to tamper with your body's natural functions, because you too have been exposed to a most UNNATURAL CULTURE - one which dictates that men should go on forever and ever and feel great about it. If you're trying to "prolong" something artificially, rest assured that you will have problems. Quite frankly, it's not healthy or functional to impede the body's natural response. If your body is stimulated to the point of orgasm, what's the point of trying to prolong things?
ED meds for "recreational use?" What does this mean? Does it mean that you were prescribed a medication for which you really don't demonstrate any symptoms? If that's the case, then stop the ED meds and get back to normal again.
It's not called "male anorgasmia." Male anorgasmia is people who never have orgasms, period. For people tampering with their natural body rhythms, it's called "situational retarded ejaculation." As for a "marathon fuck session," how natural is that?????? If your body isn't the marathon kind, why are you trying to make it that way? As you see, your body responds with not orgasming. Is it worth it?
This type of behavior is non-functional and your body is trying to tell you so. Do you seriously think that women appreciate "marathon fuck sessions?" Yes, maybe if they're wasted on drugs or if they are being paid to ACT as if they do - otherwise it's strictly for you and your own fantasies of what a marathon fuck session must feel like.
My advice: stop the ED meds if you don't have ED. Stop trying to make yourself into something you're not - apparently a "marathon fucker." Try to appreciate foreplay, long and slow build-ups and some sensuality, instead of endless p-v sex that leads to frustration. And by all means, please cut out the "one drink." What's that for, really? Just fuck naturally and be happy. And please understand that a one-hour session with a paid sex worker is not a "natural" situation that will elicit the highest performance possible. If you want that, then book someone for a weekend or even week, get to really know each other and groove on other factors than just the biological. I guarantee it'll be the best sex you've ever had. Otherwise, you'll be doomed to the McDonaldization of sex, which circumscribes the experience and almost encourages dysfunction.
There, that's the Saturday sermon from
The Love Goddess
That some of the workers at McDonalds are wonderfully skilled, and they have made fast food very, very, enjoyable.
I go with the flow and love every aspect of it, the excitement of knocking on a strangers door, the discovery of getting undressed, the build up of rolling around on a bed with someone, having an orgasm is just one part a great time.
OK LG.
Thanks for the tough love [I think]
And, in civvie life, I had thought it was so important to keep pitching into extra innings for her pleasure!
in which the man attempts to back down from the brink of ejaculation to enjoy the orgasmic but non-ejaculatory sensation for as long as possible?
I regularly employ this for around thirty minutes or so and I'm very happy with it. I find no problem achieving the ejaculation and usually can do so on demand.
Normally I do see a provider for at least two hours so that I can rest for forty to fifty minutes and then have another half hour to achieve a second round.
I find this a good fit for a fifty-something year old body.
There is more than one reason that manual work such as sensual massage is such a popular format for tantrikas to teach in. Also, many tantric positions such as yabyum are holding, rocking and using muscle contractions vs intense thrusting... ; )
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I used to be "hung up" on going the distance. Then I realized that going a long time is pointless. I do understand the concept of the orgasm without ejaculation. I have experienced some when I practiced that, but it is a lot of work. That concentration of knowing when the “brink” is takes away from enjoyment.
I found that if you have sex consistently with someone that you really feel comfortable with, then you will go as long as necessary: with an excellent organism (hopefully for both partners). If that happens, I don’t care if it was 10 minutes or less.
If you know what you are doing, and how to please you partner, it should not take very long for both of you to orgasm. Part of the fun is learning about someone, and learning how to please them, and yourself. Find one provider that you are really comfortable with, and stick with her for awhile. You will see.
Then you can chill till later (and maybe go again).
"And please understand that a one-hour session with a paid sex worker is not a "natural" situation that will elicit the highest performance possible. If you want that, then book someone for a weekend or even week, "
Realistically, how many guys can afford to book a provider for a whole weekend or week?
help recovery time, nor will they help with a second erection in most cases, in fact they do not even cause an erection!! They allow the body to NOT STOP an erection from happening, by letting the ateries relax and let blood flow to the corpus cavernosum. Nothing more!
Now, while I agree with LG that you shouldn't use ED meds if they aren't needed, they are not what is causing this problem. You don't mention your age, or if you are on any other medications ( especially for blood pressure, or antidepressants)
They are both notorius for this side effect. Also....how many drinks???? Anything that decreases sensitivity of the penis will cause his.
Seems to be something missing from this story. Since you cannot "will" your way to a marathon, you HAVE to be using something to desensitize yourself, you are drinking too much prior to sex, or you are having side effects from meds other than the Viagra (or whichever ED med you use). If you choose to tell the rest of the story...maybe someone can help you!