Ive got 5 past SBs that I see occasionally. Usually they contact me so its free or a token amount. Kind of a reverse booty call. But the lady has to be not BSC!
Having carefully read GaGambler's various bits of wisdom, I now consider myself a smarter SD.
Example: My wonderful, young, and athletic SB is starting to hit me up for for extra money for "emergencies."* Although I sure don't own her, it is interesting to note that she is back on SA, cruising for new connections.
So it's "see ya later" time! LOL. my only regret is now I have to fork over money to SA to renew and start the arduous process of acquiring fresh talent. Might revisit the hobby for a month or two to give myself a break.
*The cat is at the vet, my car broke down (it's brand new), I need a deposit for a trip with my girlfriends, etc.
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Your fridge is almost out of beer, your car needs a new set of fuzzy dice, you only have 2 Slim Jims left in your house, your local bar is calling in your tab, etc.
Then ask her for a loan.
Start a stop watch to see how long it takes for her to vamoose.
I'd guess about two seconds.
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There is no way in hell it's going to take her any where near as long as two seconds to vamoose. lol
Well, I will concede she "might" LOL for two seconds while grabbing her shit to leave.
in order to give some dramatic support to her woes.
But, you're probably right.
Spread the allowance out and you can catch some of the emergencies on allowance day. They will still cost you but you can level it out.
Don't entirely cut ties yet. Kinda like that old adage, "It's easier to find a job when you have a job." Will maybe keep you from jumping at certain new POTs that you wouldn't normally. You get the idea.
Wise words!!
The Cardinal
Ive got 5 past SBs that I see occasionally. Usually they contact me so its free or a token amount. Kind of a reverse booty call. But the lady has to be not BSC!
If so, that does "kind of" explain your attitude at the moment.
I know I was a bit harsh on you in that thread, but call it "tough love" and it's really for your own good.
These girls, just like all women will treat you the way you train them to teach you. Some guys are door mats and are easily taken advantage of, other guys give off a vibe where it's obvious who's in charge. Now you don't have to be a cheapskate, nor do you need to be a hardass, life is too short to live that way, but you do need to stay in control and sometimes, despite your best efforts an SB, just like any other woman, is going to start getting complacent, and/or start asking for the ridiculous. When that happens you really can't undo it and you need to cut her loose and find someone new.
So IMHO, you are doing exactly the right thing, and kudos to you for recognizing the signs before it gets ridiculous. I do sort of disagree about the "arduous process" of acquiring new talent. Personally I am always in the process of acquiring new talent as I know it's "not them, it's me" and I always get tired of a girl, no matter how hot or how good she is in bed, and I know full well that even a rotation of 4-5 different SB's constantly needs replenishing due to attrition.
But there is nothing wrong with breaking things up a bit by seeing hookers too.