Love Doctor. I think you've written about this before but I came up empty on my search. I'm having trouble ejaculating unless I take matters into my own hands. I've waited two and a half weeks at one stretch without cumming and couldn't make it happen with a very lovely and accomodating provider. Came home that night and no problem poping on my own. I think I read at some point you suggested waiting a month or so without ejaculating but after two and a half weeks the family jewels were turning blue and I couldn't sleep at night. Had to get some relief. I'm very new to hobbying and need to break the porn habit. I'm in my late 50's. Any recommendations making the transition!
Thanks
You now have yourself in a state where YOU are the only person that can make you cum!
Leave the thing alone!!!!!! You said you know a very accomodating provider...Tell her your problem, and leave it to her to fix it. IT WILL WORK if you keep YOUR hands off of it, and let her fix it. This isn't an uncommon problem with guys that feel they have to jack off constantly!
If you want it fixed...quit pounding it!!!!
Jeez, sly59,
It must be "I've-got-delayed-ejaculation" week here on The Erotic Highway! As for my no mas masturbation plan, it states 45-60 days of no self-touching, meeting with as many providers as possible during that time and NO PORN. No self-stim whatsoever. If you get blueballs, CALL A PROVIDER.
And you are in your late 50s? Well, figure it this way: if it took you, say 35 years to get to where you are now, it's going to take a lot longer than two and a half weeks to reverse the pattern. The only way this will work is if you hand over the controls to someone other than yourself - permanently. Fuck to your hearts content, but NO MASTURBATION AND NO PORN, maybe for the rest of your life if you want guaranteed ejaculations. Men were made to put their penises in various orifices, not in their own hands. That's supposed to be more or less a second choice, or even an emergency solution - isn't regular release what steady sex partners are for? And that includes providers if your wallet can afford it.
Final thought - I'm not so sure that your extensive porn use/masturbation isn't some mental compulsion at this point. Hence, this has less to do with physical needs and more to do with some kind of self-soothing mechanism. Thus, we're treading in compulsion territory. If you can, please go cold turkey. It will hurt, but it will force your brain into new patterns - probably those that involve live females with reliable regularity.
Fuck, fuck and fuck until it happens,
The Love Goddess
I hobbied for three years and until very recently had never been able to come except for a couple of HJs. 50+ appointments and I never filled the sack. I enjoyed the sessions, but still. I tried holding out once for 11 days. Didn't work. The last time I didn't come, instead of going home and beating off, I made another appointment for 3 days later. Bam. Like losing my virginity again. I've now basically stoped spanking the monkey, and I've exploded on my last 7 appointments. I even had my first CIM with a hot, dark-skinned Argentine. The 'downside?' I'm horny as hell all the time and I've averaged an appointment a week for the last two months. Clearly, I can't keep this up (no pun), but man it sure is fun after years of not popping.
Hearing your story is really helpful follonero. Thanks for sharing it!
Be patient with yourself. It will happen. And it will feel great.
Thanks good doctor. I think you hit the nail on the head, it has been more or less a compulsion since I was in my 20's, even during 20 years of having a SO. I got my marching orders. No self-touching, no porn, lots of pretty providers. Got it.
