Seem to get LOTS of time wasters that never go through with the meet in my area, especially with a new profile. Had a new profile show up yesterday, sent message, got positive message back with cell to send message on when I wanted to meet, sent text to phone asking for lunch today, met at 11:30 and seemed to be getting along great so I told her my home was available for us to meet this afternoon, headed to my house and we were in the shower in 15 minutes. Just finished three hours of not mind blowing but certainly great sex with my new 27 YO sugar.
I have read where many other seem to have this happen often but definitely a first for me. I am in a fairly remote area where most are over an hour away so when one pops up in my are I have become so skeptical I never thought I would have one of these "first message to BCD" in one day.Sounds like you had a great and well deserved good time. Some of the guys here, especially those in target rich environments like LA, say they never approach a SB with a message first. But for guys like you and me who live in low populated areas that strategy would result in very few dates if any. When I see a new local pop up, I pounce immediately so I can get a date with her before the other mongers in my area take her! Looks like you do the same and glad it paid off so nicely!
after our lunch is over (which I always schedule a short drive from my home) when walking to her car if she is serious about being intimate with an older man specifically me. If they say yes, I ask if they would like to come home with me to get to know each other better and move the relationship along. Never had but one no to the first question (after which I clear that hurdle ahead of the meet, but ask again just to be sure). I've only had 5 meets so far and as I said, one said no, one said yes, but couldn't right then (we have since sealed the deal), two said yes but one tried to renegotiate our deal and I walked away.
In my target area (radius about an hour) there are 4 to 5 NEW POT SBs join the site daily. I use the shotgun approach and contact them all.