I find that a decent share of the SBs who message me are scammers looking to sell pics or videos or looking for money up front. Others are women from hundreds or thousands of miles away. Some are not appealing to me at all. Some are looking for a higher allowance than I will consider. The bottom line is that maybe 10% of the women who write to me seem real, viable, and appealing.
One of my friends takes a hard line and says that hot women never contact guys, because they don't need to. As a result, he never pursues anyone who contacts him first. My favorite SB was someone in another city who wrote to me after I viewed her profile, even though English was her second language, so I know there are some good possibilities. Recently, I think I read that a couple of guys sit back and wait for the SBs to contact them. That's the exact opposite of what my local friend does. So my question: Do you guys think it is better to be proactive and contact the SBs whose profile you like or to wait to be contacted? If you use a mixture of those approaches, how do you evaluate the effectiveness of each? What factors make one approach work better than the other? All thoughts are appreciated.Due to flakiness on SBs part I contact ALOT! It doesnt cost anything nut your time and can be entertaining. Lol
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Being proactive works best for me in most circumstances. That may be partly because my profile is a bit skimpy on details and has no pictures. Thus, I don't get too many unsolicited messages. When I do, it is usually after I have viewed and possibly favorited a profile. Others come out of nowhere, with no obvious explanation. Those tend not to be from SBs I would ordinarily be attracted to.
I suspect that most SBs get lots of unsolicited messages, so they do not feel the need to reach out to SDs, particularly those with skimpy profiles. I can live with that. When I do reach out to someone, I share a lot more information in my opening email and include an offer to send pictures via text or email. That's usually enough to get things started.
Even though he is usually correct, I do get unsolicited messages fro true hotties from time to time. But to be honest, most of the unsolicited messages I get are from women I find unattractive or overweight or too old or who live in the Philippines or some other distant place. So I am very active in sending first messages to sweeties who capture my attention. That approach has led to the vast majority of Sugar Dates I've had.
from Lonesome Dove...."A guy that won't be proactive for a poke don't want a poke bad enough"