I have been active in the hobby for years and have seen quite a few providers, some new, many repeats. I am always well groomed, polite and considerate of the escort. Just recently I had a not so pleasant encounter with an escort. I emailed her for a date, showed up on time showered and paid the her fee up front as she requested. to make a long story short, she pulled a cash and dash on me. ever since that episode, I have been having trouble gettng a date with other escorts. I get all sorts of excuses from I've retired to having them set up a date and then stand me up when it's time for the date. My guess is I am on some kind of blacklist. what I would like to know is what kind of info is posted about me and how I can get off this list and back to enjoying the hobby as I once used to?

You showed up at her place and she pulled a cash and dash?
Are you telling us that she took off from her own place???

-SF-

First, can you be more specific about the cash and dash episode - how did that go down?  Did you have a dispute?  Did you post a "rip-off" review?  Did you otherwise retaliate?

Next, you said you have seen quite a few providers, many repeats.  Are you having trouble with them too?  Seems like you ought to have some provider(s) that trusts you enough to tell you if you are on a blacklist.

I don't see how anyone can help you here just based on your alias.

You said you are being stood up.  Is this something new, or has it happened before the episode?

Well to clarify first, it was a hotel I got, not her place. She seemed very nervous, told me she had a bad episode the week previous. Kept asking if I was sure I was not law enforcement and I assured her I wasn't. Now just to set things straight, I am a very clean cut gentleman, often told I look like a cop, but believe me am far from it! anyway, she told me she always gets the donation up front. then she excused herself to the restroom, came back and told me she had to give the money to her driver for safety reasons. needless to say she got out the dor, jumped in the car and was off. when I called her number to ask what was up, her driver told me she said I solicited her and she does not do that and hung up.
as far as being stood up, no it has never happened before all this took place. there was no dispute and I never called her back, just thought I would chalk it up to experience and go back to the regulars. and as for the regulars telling me about the list, they are either not advertising anymore or have told me they "retired."

I would suggest seeking an independent provider rather than an agency.  I would also look at the provider's website and read any reviews posted. I would also seek an in-call meeting.  There are a lot of cash and dash and bait and switch, but there are also many quality providers.  It just takes a little research.

Thanks for the advice Michelle. unfortunately, the last Independent I called for incall told me to call her from the corner near her location, when I got there and called, I got nothing but her voicemail. I would normally think this was a fluke, but the same exact thing happened with a completely different independent the very next day in a completely different section of town! Coincidence? Hmmmm.....

I noticed you have a website, you appear to be an independent escort (and beautiful I might add) how do you deal with clients you wish not to see?

That sounds like a D.C. area service. Am I right?

Jaydee2,

Thank you for the compliment.

I rarely turn down clients unless they are crazed or suspicious of LE. I do age select somewhat due to the safety factor. I feel that men over 35 are safest. I have never (nor do I condone) standing up a client. I dislike it when that happens to me. When I do turn a client down, I gracefully state that "I am booked right now". Usually if I wish to see the client, and I am REALLY booked, I will ask him to call back. I try to spare feeling if possible.

Michelle

I cannot imagine any girl with a cash/dash reputation being included on any backchannel info with other ladies.  I'll add to that that at least in DC, I don't even KNOW of a "blacklist" that exists!  If you've seen lots of ladies I am sure some of them would be willing to provide you with a reference.. unless there is more to this than you are sharing here.

Hugs*
Nicole

Right up front about it Nicole. all the ones I have seen in the past seem to be out of the business now. ALOT of the escorts I have been talking to lately have mentioned to me about major sting activity that has been going on. which could be why they are retiring or just laying off for a while. but it still doesn't explain why they are all pulling the same stunt on me. you mentioned "backchannel info", could it be this escort is telling others to watch for me and that I am LE or something of the like?

But I think you are a little too paranoid (and I say that in a nice way). We providers are intelligent ladies, but most of us just dont have time to keep records and make black lists for clients.

The only thing I can figure is you're setting off RED FLAGS.

Since you have had that Cash & Dash experience you may be a little more nervous or cautious than you think.

You may be contacting the girl too much (leaving countless voicemail or email messages to confirm) because you are so afraid of being stood up. You may even be giving off a VIBE (too "nervous" or "jumpy") with your regular ATF's which may make them wonder what is going on with you.

The best advice you can get? RELAX. :0)  You'll get another appointment, I'm sure of it. Try to have put that horrible experience in the past, and try to have the same demeanor and act the same way you did "PRE" Cash & Dash.

Good Luck!

Sable





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She has a rep for being a cash and dash.

No one would take anything someone like that says seriously! At least no one with half a brain. I mean DC has a few *infamous* C&D girls... I can't imagine anyone taking a reference from one of them, good bad or indifferent! It would just be crazy! A reference is only as good as the person giving it... thus she needs to be *trustworthy*.

This is a perplexing thing... maybe you need to write to some of these girls and ask them directly what is going on.

Hugs*
Nicole

Thanks Sable, I hope you're right. by the way, the only "red flag" that comes to mind is when I've called they ask when and I usually ask for a few hours later the same day. could this be a possibility because of all the LE activity going down?