I've got a situation that makes me feel like I'm back in High School dealing with the childish in-crowd cliques.

Earlier in the year I tried to make an appointment with a well known independent provider (my first time seing someone while on a business trip).  This lady has lots of excellent reviews.  She was very late in responding to my e-mail (I was already on the road), and when she did, she said she was not availabble, but suggested a friend she could refer me to.   I had not checked-out her friend and didn't have time to, so I declined.

I e-mailed this lady a second time and made a confirmed appointment for about a month out.  I confirmed it with her at that time, and again 24 hours before we were to meet.  She said we were all set.  The day of our appointment, she cancelled again, and suggested the same girlfriend.  I happened to be more tired from my travels than I expected, and I never would have cancelled with her (or anyone) on that short notice, but as she cancelled, I took advantage and just got some rest.  I did speak to her friend, who is also an independent that by now I had heard of and researched.  We said we'd try to meet sometime again.

Now, I've sent two e-mails to that second provider about my upcoming trip to the area, and she's not even bothering to reply.

At this point I've made an appointment with someone else and I guess I'm just writing the two of them off.  Am I missing something here?  Are there really that many people willing to pay decent independent $$$ that these ladys can just act so unprofessional and rude?  Any thoughts?

It is possible that she is too busy to reply to emails at this time. Some ladies are also not very good at picking up and replying to their emails. Maybe she has personal obligations that are keeping her busy outside of work. Overall there is no way to tell if you are being ignored or not.

I find it very unprofessional that twice she has cancelled. Although she was nice enough to sugest a substitute. Why are you not hooking up with the suggested substitute?

It is not wise to put all of your sperm or eggs in only one or two baskets. I assume you travel with a laptop or at least have good accress to a computer where you can store files encrypted, password protected, and under such innocuous non-wife-seeing names as "Wild Boar Hunting," or "Automotive Tools and Grease."

Long before the next trip, do a detailed TER search for the traits you seek in a provider. Check out Eros in the towns you visit. Save, copy, download, and store the pics, contact info, and cryptic review details such as fotc, bbjeow, swallows, daty, dfk, in the file "Wild Hussies," by City. A two column Word file works fine, and the pics downloaded and pasted there are a good reminder.

Then, if choice #1 lets you down, move down the list and don't be annoyed.

We've all had the same or similar experiences.

After one screw up a year ago, I started doing this and now have 1100 well reviewed North American vixens in my database.

I print out the relevant city page right before the trip.
I even call and e-mail choices #2 and #3 to say hello and explore their contingencies, because I "might" be in town on short notice. Works for me.

The more research you do, the more you are amazed with excellent choices of very bright, interesting, charming young ladies who also will boink your ears off.
In LA, MIA, NYC, CHI, BOS, TOR, and sunny Prague, Rio, Buenos Aires, and Caracas the list is over twenty-five eminently satisfactory dinner and dessert companions. It's rough work, but somebody has to take care of the oral needs of these young ladies. WWJD?

The link is to #5 on my Caracas list in case of linguistic confusion. Yes, they are real and taste like vanilla ice cream with warm caramel sauce, as does the rest of her delicious vix bod. She speaks English well, and her flavorite expression is: "Oh Mother of Mary, don't stop, you must be French!"
Always  take a neck brace with you when playing chess with naughty Caracas women.

-- Modified on 10/19/2002 5:19:25 PM

To clarify, the one that is ignoring me now is the substitute.

I cannot say for certain that the same is for you, but have been in the situation a couple of times and frankly, did not know how to handle it.  I am reliable, but on these occassions, one I spoke to the gent on the phone and froze and two, a picture was sent to me that made my blood freeze.  Bottom line was.......I ,knew these people and I just froze in fear.  I never showed up for the one, but the other I tried letting him know in an off hand sort of way that I knew him, but he kept e mailing me promising that discretion was okay.  It wasn't worth the risk and frankly, know I did not handle it in a professional manner, but was at a loss.  Fear consumed me.  

Not saying that this was what happened to you, but these incidents eat at me, for I am true to my word, but these two, just made me freeze in my tracks and just did not know how to handle it in any diplomatic way.  The end result is two very disapointed men out there at a loss as to what happened with a very reputable provider who just did not know how to professionally handle the situation.

Just a maybe....

Lauren

Based upon your experience with this lady and her friends I would just move on to somebody else.  As Michael stated there is no way to know if you are being stood up because of personal emergencies, the unexpected commencement of the lady's period, the lady double booked, just had a better offer, etc.  Your post does help me understand why travelling businessmen will sometimes book more than one lady for a given evening just to make sure one is available.  I am not suggesting that you double book because that may cost the lady you do not see funds that she may desperately need.

We've had a couple posts on this (related) topic, and I don't recall the ladies chiming in..maybe this can act as feedback in that regard.

A few times in recent weeks we've has posts along the line of "I think I might know from outside the hobby a provider I am thinking of getting together with...what should I do"

Each time I have thought to myself what I posted orginally (and decided to not bother posting again) that perhaps the most BASIC rule of "the hobby"...one that is almost the very foundation of it...the one that makes TRULY no strings attached sex possible (has anyone ever in the history of the world had truly no strings attached sex with a civilian female that was from their social circle ...no matter how distant...and remained in it?) is that "I don't know you, you don't know me, and we don't HAVE a relationship outside of this thing we do"

Yet again and again we see advice that guys SHOULD take a chance and meet up with that provider that they think they might know from somewhere somehow, because she MIGHT think it is cool, and besides, it indulges whatever fantasy angle the guy has ("wow...I get a chance to bang my hot secretary / neighbor who clearly would only sleep with my if money were involved and didn't even notice I was alive prior to now"). I've always thought that was pretty selfish, because I imagined that most providers felt exactly as you've conveyed...that they DON'T WANT TO SEE SOMEONE they "KNOW"....EVER.

Perhaps reading your post will make that point to a few guys...that you didn't think the situation was "funny" or "interesting" or cute or anything other than something to be avoided at all costs.

Hey MichaelCA Sweetie,
Although I don't know what the situation was/is exactly or who we're talking about...I know us ladies can always count on you to be a fair advocate an see most sides of all situations.

Btw, still waiting for your visit to the desert........
xoxxoxo
Carol
ps...are you a Libra? *wink*