I never did any mongering or cheating while I was married. Never gave her a reason to be suspicious. But she always wanted us to share location with each other and she would frequently try to text me or whatever during the day. We had the conversations about boundaries, when I’m at work I’m busy and my time belongs to them, don’t call me unless it’s an emergency, etc. but it didn’t do much good. She still would want to be in touch during the day. I’m pretty sure she only ever checked my location when I didn’t respond quickly. I really don’t think she was suspicious I was cheating, she was just codependent. I never got the “where were you what were you up to” talk, it was more like “don’t ignore me I’m important.”
Anyways, based on damn near every married guy I know, this seems to be extremely common with women 40 and under or so. Most of them just have an unreasonable expectation to be able to talk to their husbands any fucking time, and to know where they are. Like I said I really don’t think my wife thought I was cheating, but if I’d said I wanted to stop sharing locations or if mine dropped off the radar for no good reason every now and then, she probably would’ve become suspicious. All that is why I think the faraday bag is a bad idea for the OP.
I know that most likely you’re correct; it sounds like the OP’s wife is suspicious. Maybe she already caught him once. He also might just be trying to avoid arousing such suspicions though.
I agree about the bullet, if it’s all that bad maybe just get out. A few providers I’ve become friends with tell me about some of these guys they see whose wives haven’t touched them in 20-30 years or more. Apparently a lot of them do massage HJ because it’s less like cheating. Some just get the massage and then rub one out while using the provider for visual stimulation, rather than cheat.
I do respect these guys for wanting to be faithful to a partner who doesn’t give a flying fuck about their needs. At the same time, I don’t want to BE that guy. When the writing was on the wall, I accepted reality and got out. And that sucked. Hardest thing I ever did. In the short term, staying would have been easier. But why spend a couple decades or more making each other miserable?