I'm going to piss some people off with this, but then again, I'm good at that....
I've been retired since 2017....I still work selective ad hoc projects but my time is mostly my own....I volunteer at an animal shelter and have been considering learning sign language both to cope with my own worsening hearing loss, and to work with deaf kids. Being completely free of any other obligation I have more than enough money to last me at the rest of my life, so long as I don't go nuts and become profligate. The issue for me is not how much money to spend, but how much TIME. A 2 hour session with a provider actually entails a lot more time when you factor everything in....I'd feel that time is better spent on less self-absorbed things.
That said, when I decided to get back into "this", the first thing that actually bothered me is this absurd euphemism...."Hobbying"....I was like "WTF? Hobby? Paying women for sexual & personal intimacy is a "hobby"? Baseball cards are a hobby, chess is a hobby, photography is a hobby.....I enjoy my hobbies but I can live without them if I have to; sex & intimacy is not a hobby, it's a human need. When you go too long without them, your life becomes more empty and your actual mental & physical health can be in danger....depression, physical problems etc. But I also don't look at provider's like I do Potato Chips....one is never enough etc
I prefer terms like Transactional companionship, or even "perpetual provider procurement"; hell, as a Teen who experienced the life changing moment of watching "RISKY BUSINESS" in 1983, the term "Human Fulfillment" is my all time favorite euphemism for "this"....by the way, my favorite character from Risky Business was "miles" (Curtis Armstrong), the one who went to Harvard lol He coolly lights his pipe and tells Tom Cruise, "I don't have to pay for it...." Sadly, that line never worked for me.
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