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badbemeUnfortunately I got bored one day and googled her phone number. That's how I ended up here and on a few more sites"Now I'm not against the hobby but I wasn't up for dating a full service provider."

Lets look at this together analytically.If you are single and aren't willing to date a provider for free,there is  no logic in paying for one.
You might as well leave.Nothing for you here.
Oh wait.. there are some  bonding groups on TER,  where you might find male comradery, that just might be, your cup of tea.
Don't worry about telling her the truth about why you left her. I have no doubts she has already forgotten you, or you woke up from your dream.

My advice:  In a couple of months (to preserve your anonymity,) I think you should send her an anonymous note, saying that you are "a harmless, well-intentioned person."  Tell her that you accidentally discovered that her personal life and provider life are linked through her phone number.  Tell her that she should consider getting a separate phone number for "work."  Tell her that you don't want to see her get burned, just so she won't worry, when she gets your warning.

When we first got together she said she was only into D/s and their was no... further interaction. Unfortunately I got bored one day and googled her phone number. That's how I ended up here and on a few more sites.

Now I'm not against the hobby but I wasn't up for dating a full service provider. I broke up with her saying it was for other reasons but I am wondering if I should tell her to get a different phone for her personal life so that this doesn't happen in the future or if I should keep my mouth shut so she doesn't know why I really broke it off with her?

Any thoughts?

Also I apologize if I got the terminology wrong.

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she probably doesn't even remember your name. you give her way too much credit for having feelings of a human nature.

That wasn't very fucking nice. LMFAO

at least she admitted that she wasn't very nice herself. rofl

The two of you sound like you deserve each other.

My advice is to tell her now about her vulnerability, no reason for her to suffer because of any desire you have to save face.

It seems that you do "like" her at least, dating an active provider has a set of challenges all it's own. There is nothing wrong with you for not wanting to accept them, at least you are being honest with yourself, which is the most important thing.

You might even turn her on to TER, it could save her time, money and even her freedom, it also might be the best "parting gift" you could ever give her.

how could I possibly be declared a loser?

Please don't tell me that instead of getting irate, some "whore" is going to make you look foolish instead. roflmfao

not to mention the fact that she didn't exactly dispatch you with rapier wit. Her shit was pretty lame as well, but yours was just plain WEAK WEAK WEAK.

Who knows, if Jack_Schitt can't even match wits with a lowly "whore", maybe his time has come?

No offense to any girls here, but I never date and not at some point tell my guy or girl(yes im totally bi) what I do!!!! The truth actually helps people, whether you want to tell it or not....It should be the other persons option whether or not they can except the life...not yours to lie and decide for them....You were right for dumping her sweetheart, but if you cared for her in any way would have been ok for you talk to her about it!!!!

I believe that when you break up with a woman and there is a definitive reason why, you should tell her what it is.

The reason is because many people have numerous insecurities about their human value; and letting her know that it was simply her occupation rather than some other problem could prevent her from feeling undo angst. It can also keep her from trying to rebound on you for a second try when nothing has changed and also keep her from the personally embarassing thing that sometimes happens when you break up with a woman in which she cries about how she'll "change anything."

The fact that she is an escort does not mean she is any different from any other woman emotionally; and she should be treated with the same level of kindness as any other woman.

Just like many women would not want to date a man engaged in certain legal occupations (e.g. soldiers, police) or illegal occupations (loan shark, gigolo); men likewise have similar preferences. I believe it is important to let her know that the objection is to dating a woman with an illegal occupation or as a non-exclusive sex partner rather than an indictment of her moral validity as a person. This would simultaneously be both gentle and final; allowing her to move on more quickly.

when she has you tied up, immobilized and naked in spreadeagled bondage, then just casually tell her why you broke up with her

she'll probably be comfortable with that

It's not gonna change how you feel, so maybe best to take the high road sorry you had to find out that way.

quit holding back, tell him how you really feel. rofl

Thanks for the advice. I tried asking in other places but it seems those outside of the lifestyle won't give a serious response.

I'm going to tell her about what I found and suggest she gets a 2nd phone with trackphone or some other card based service so that it won't leave a record to her. I'll also suggest she edit or delete what she can to limit her exposure. Over all she's a pretty cool chic and I wouldn't want this coming back to bite her. If anyone else has suggestions I'll check back for another day and see.

Thanks again and good luck to you all.

after all he is always claiming that he is the "nice mod". lol

As to literbike, I triple dog dare you to tell us how you really feel about Jack_Schitt.

And this from a self confessed SW monger who boots them out of the car after his $20 BJ. No you're not a loser, you should have been a blob of bloody cells in a doctors bucket. You are sucking way too much O2 from the air that others could benefit from..in other words Shittface, you're a waste of skin and a blight on humanity.

Awesome reply.

I would but I am afraid my post will be pulled...

After this exchange, you're afraid to not be PC?  You don't know me very well.  I still say that I'm the nice one, although I just explained to 4 guys in my training class that I have no moral compass.  They laughed at first, and then one by one, the looks of horror came across their faces.  We reached a consensus.  

Post away my dear.  I double dog dare you.

i let it go too far to begin with. don't you know that using the word "whore" will get you a bad board rep.?

No LP, I was worried that it would be pulled. I can't see any other way to reply to someon like this. He deserves no common decency, although I have my suspicions that he is a heavy hitter on here who has another persona he uses when booking appointments and when using his "real" name. Could this be his real feelings and if so, he's a synapse away from hurting someone with his high level of anger and disdain for women who get paid handsomely for what they do. If he is "joking", ya know what they say...50% is a joke to cover the truth, the other 50% is for real. Scary MF...

I win!  ha haha ha hahaha!  Loser!  Still giggling over here!  Too fucking funny!  Morons like you are so entertaining!  LMAO!

This whore has more great sex and I AM SURE makes a lot more money than you do!  Tee Hee!  Schitt_Head!!!  If you hate whores so much, what the fuck are you doing on this board?  This is a board for Whores and Tricks (Johns/Clients/Hobbyists) Whichever.   Don't like it?!?  Fucking leave.  From the looks of it, you will not be missed.  

Jack_Off!  You are the scum on the bottom of my shoe.  This whore walks all over little pricks like you.