**Note** I would really love to see this forum "rocking" with lively discussions on a wide spectrum of topics, with more of the lovely intelligent female providers chiming in and letting the male clients know (a little) more about them without divulging their whole story..... perhaps facilitating future dates because now you have a little more insight into each other....use this forum as a way to stand out and market yourself!**
Here's a topic that should resonate with everyone.....FANTASIES, male and female. How long does it take for you to start "Fantasizing" (that is, constructing and editing your own "movie" inside your brain) after you meet someone of the opposite sex for the first time....someone who you immediately are attracted to, both physically attracted and psychologically attracted (sense of humor, intelligence, kindness, generosity, confidence etc.) I'll start......When I encounter a beautiful, sexy woman for the first time, within 5 minutes of meeting her and talking, I have already imagined passionately kissing her....and I already have visualized what my dick would look like in her mouth. I'm being totally honest here....of course, I do NOT vulgarly, or disrespectfully start propositioning her......we are talking about FANTASIES, and I think I am not alone in this regard. What do you female providers visualize when you are attracted to a man, and how long does it take for you to start fantasizing after meeting? The providers here with webpages and online listings, obviously construct them and present pictures or images meant to FIRE the imagination of men like me, so that the Fantasy aspect is emphasized right from the beginning of the client being "introduced" to the provider by means of her website.What does everyone else think about this subject.....how long before you imagine a attractive, new acquaintance of the opposite sex performing hott wild sexual acts with yourself?
I don't automatically start fantasizing about sex within 5 minutes of meeting. Sex is not the goal. Conversations can turn me on. I love shamelessly flirting over being wined & dined. Everyone is different. I love kinky fun over vanilla play, but am also a hopeless romantic.
I applaud you for being brand new & attempting to get the board engaged. Many providers will not take the time to respond here. Reading the fantasy reviews & websites of providers helps to see if there is a connection prior to meeting. TER has a photo only board & many others as well to participate.
I read reviews of hobbyist & providers it lets me know if we may have chemistry. I do fantasize about a person with a pretty mouth & tongue that can provide pleasure 👅 lol. Smile for me! Funny post as I get ready for my duo date with my UTR girlfriend Aja this morning. Happy Sunday funday TER friends.
I understand where you are coming from Bia....and thanks for responding.
I've had this conversation among male friends at various stages throughout my life, and it's been pretty consistent....most of my male friends do conjure up some sort of sexual spectacle in their mind of a new acquaintance who happens to be an attractive female....some faster than my "5 minutes" others longer.
I thought it was a appropriate question given the audience and backdrop of this forum. It sure beats the shit out of playing Warcraft doesn't it?
how to burn the clock on the customer's dime before delivering on what he came for in the first place. Lol
Just made a quick trip to the grocery store. I see a young woman coming in my direction. Pretty face, beautiful long hair, slim and fit body, nice legs (she's wearing a short skirt). She makes eye contact and flashes a quick smile as we pass.
I'm immediately fantasizing about those legs draped over my shoulders as I eat her pussy.
Tell me you made eye contact back, that way you can give her an inviting look 😊. You can never tell 🤷🏼♀️😁🤪
Whoa....is that part of the "life coaching" skills you teach? I just took a peek at your website....it didn't take 5 minutes....or 30 seconds....mercy!
I guess I should have said " we made I contact."
You're right, one can never tell, but in a grocery store, the fantasy was probably the most I could come away with happily.
Welcome to the boards! It's nice to hear from someone new.
I go to two places. The first thing I think when I see or first meet an attractive woman is imagining them without clothes. I’m an ass man, so I like to see them from the side and from behind before I speak to them. The image I’ve formed at that point either pushes me to a conversation or I move on. If I find her ass inviting, I start the conversation with the picture in my mind never leaving my brain - unless she’s a complete moron or is a raging woke preacher. I’m not meaning to be political - I don’t care what you personally believe, but if you lead with it, you’re out. I’m afraid of a sexual assault claim later. Assuming all is good, I’m with Queen B, some good, old-fashioned flirting goes a long way, and gets me fired up. Once in a while, that initial picture of her ass becomes reality as I watch my cock hammer her from behind. Ahhhhhhh…
I'd like to think I am, but I'm probably not as much of one as I think I am.
Why that's important in this context is that while I like to think I'm looking at an attractive woman with a perfectly neutral look that disguises my thoughts, I'm not so sure. I wonder whether what I think is a casual glance or look has turned into a stare or a leer. I'm sure I've gone over that (maybe fuzzy) line. More important to me than whether I look like a slack-jawed perv is whether I've just made some random woman uncomfortable and burdened. When she put on her leggings to go to yoga this morning, she probably wasn't consenting to be spotlighted in the male gaze and made an object that gives visual cue to my sexual fantasy. So I try to be mindful and sensitive about the looks I'm giving these women.
I'm sure all genders on the spectrum do some fantasizing and we all give each other "meaningful" looks. I just try to be conscious that I may be paying a little too much attention to someone who hasn't asked for it. My feeble attempt to be a good human.
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You're not much of anything that you THINK you are. Lol
If you say the same things to providers that you post here, I don't see how any of them could NOT think you are a slack-jawed perv, and I think you are correct to have this concern when seeing them.
Within minutes of any post I make, he's there professing his desire to give me a sloppy BBBJ, using his indirect idiom of self-hatred of course.
I feel so stalked. I mean loved.
lol Helixir.....give the man a shot, you never know, you and cour de lion might be "soul mates" .....minus the soul part ....hehe (just kidding....I think....)
I like cour de lion, the man has a trove of experience and "wisdom" people like me can benefit from here on TER, plus he lives in the place where I literally spent the best part and best years of my life, Orange County California...of course, I DID NOT KNOW at the time those were the best years of my life (I was aged 25 thru 30)....had I known this, I would definitely have asked that MILF Sales Rep who worked the Nordstrom Men's fragrance department in South Coast Plaza in 1997 if she would have dinner with me the time I purchased my first bottle of Chrome from her .....if ONLY I knew then what I know now....
They say "experience is wasted on the youth".....this of course is wrong, it's the opposite: Experience is wasted on Older Age, because, by the time you gain all this insight/wisdom/knowledge, you're often too fucking old to do anything with it!
King of passive aggression. One of his tells is when he says, "I MAY be guilty, too, sometimes.. . . ." before he levels a personal attack against someone. But you have to respect the chutzpah of a guy who once bragged on this forum that he had been a TER member for 25 years, but at the time he said it, TER had only been in existence for 23 years. That brings us to his other tell, whenever he is caught in a lie like this, he removes his own post, which removes the other responses to it as well. We call that a "post-puller" and is disrespectful to all of the members who took the time to post on the branch below his post. However, if he is just butt-hurt over someone being "mean" to him, he can report it to admin, and they will sometimes remove the post that offends his delicate sensitivities. You will notice that not a lot of people will engage with him because there is a good chance at some point, their effort to participate in the conversation may be removed. Some of the Yutes here tend to be self-centered.
With that said, in 1997, we were probably both buying men's fragrance from the same ladies at Nordstrom, SCP. That was before I entered the P4P arena, too. One of my favorite OC restaurants is the Capitol Grill at the mall. Lol
It must be hard having such a jones for me and no way to satisfy it but typing words in your mother's darkened basement.
Sorry you still haven't found peace.
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intelligent, you would come up with something new. No wonder providers find you boring. Lol
My mother is dead, which you should have been able to discern from my comments about my own age, but you are too self-centered to remember anything outside the moment. Posting from her "basement" would require a major excavation. Lol
I find peace on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays when I see providers. If you got laid more often maybe you would not always have stick up your ass, am I right?
What's your excuse then? why do you have such a gigantic stick up your ass?
Nordstrom SCP in the 90s. WOW! There was a tall beautiful blonde named Sam in men's suits (and shirts and ties) who got all my business. She knew exactly what I liked and would pull items from the Men's and Anniversary Sales for me before the sale and save them until I could get there. I worked so hard to break her away from her metrosexual pretty boy Euro boyfriend but alas I was unsuccessful. Last I heard they were Married with Children. Dammit!
I have not been to South Coast Plaza in nearly a decade after I moved back home to New England from California ....I think Labor day weekend 2014....what's it truly like these days? It's an example of how only the HUGE shopping malls in densely populated regions are the ones to decisively survive in the age of the internet. Places of such size truly have their own momentum and can weather the erosion of sales from e-commerce because they are big and diverse, and are a "Destination" instead of simply a "place to buy more shit we don't really need...."
Nordstrom of the 1990s thru early 2000s was the definition of "servicey" Customer Service....I'd wager any single male who shopped there had a crush on at least one female employee....they were just so friggin' nice and pleasant and made you feel like (in that moment at least) you were the only thing that mattered to her....and they all looked and smelled awesome; even the ones pushing 60....Nordstrom trained and cultivated those qualities in all employees.
pretty girls work at malls and ugly girls work in fast food places.
These days, it's very popular with beautiful young Asian women (which I'm known to have more than a passing weakness for) who love to spend their parents' money there. They have done a lot a rearranging of stores. One of my favorites, the Johnston Murphy store, moved from the corner of Carousel Court up to the second floor during one of the renovation periods, where they had more room to expand from shoes to apparel. Tory Burch is in their old space. Not much there for me unless I'm gift-shopping for a lady, but I saw some shoes in the window that would look good on Helixir. Lol
are looking for a man they can control. I know that's not you or me, and I have a feeling it wouldn't be Gus either. Lol
That's what I am starting to like about this forum, picking up terminology I have not heard in a long time, if at all.....Slack Jawed Perv is a good one....
It goes without saying, when I said "Fantasize" after meeting, I certainly didn't mean a guy literally starts ogling and drooling and staring at the woman. As was alluded to previously, having a good poker face and being able to multi-task in your brain is the key here.....
Rarely have I immediately followed up my conjuring of erotic imagery in my head with "asking her for her number" or a date....that's not my style or ability. I WILL file my pleasantly private image away for future reference, and if it does transpire that things develop to where I COULD pursue the woman, so be it.
Bottom line here, especially to you ladies, this is actually a huge compliment if a man reacts in his mind to you....and it can be from, not only being physically HOTT, but certain personalities and character traits in a woman can trigger erotic fantasies....I am really attracted to caring & kind hearted women who may or may not be "pretty"....there's a huge "X" factor in all of this.
The vast majority of the providers here are physically gifted in some way shape or form....it's the one's with the personality, charm, kindness and positive energy that end up as "enduring fantasies", pretty much like in real life I would imagine.
Unlike the majority here, I typically wouldn’t indulge in my fantasy thoughts immediately. Let’s say I see a hot guy (or girl occasionally) that makes me feel a little tingly. I tend to take a mental photo and move along.
Later when I settle in to a future masturbation session, I will conjure up that mental photo and let my imagination run wild.
Ah, the self control of a beautiful, mature woman....
Are there any fans out there of the 1980s British "Ska" band The English Beat, besides me....? This song, Save It For Later, is one of my all time favorites, it's the very definition of "catchy" and stays with you all day giving you a positive mindset...and the double entendres in the lyrics are meant to be sexually titillating:
(Lyrics)
Two dozen other dirty lovers
Must be a sucker for it
Cry, Cry, but I don't need my mother
Just Hold My hand while I come....
To a decision on it
Sooner or later
Your legs give way, you hit the ground
Save it for later
Don't run away and let me down
Sooner or later
You hit the deck, you get found out
Save it for later
Don't run away and let me down
You let me down
Black air and seven seas and rotten through
But what can you do?
I don't know how I'm meant to act with you lot
Sometimes I don't try
I just now, now, now, now, now ...
Sooner or later
Your legs give way, you hit the ground
Save it for later
Don't run away and let me down
Sooner or later
You hit the deck, you get found out
Save it for later
Don't run away and let me down
You let me down
Two dozen other stupid reasons
Why we should suffer for this
Don't bother trying to explain them
Just hold my hand while I come....
To a decision on it
I really love this post!
For me, in the first 5 minutes of meeting an attractive date I'm for sure initially focused on his mouth. I imagine him putting his hands on my face and kissing me gently at first. Small, soft kisses that lead to delicious deep french kisses where we are ravenous for one another...
Then I imagine his sexy mouth between my legs, licking and kissing and tonguing me into oblivion.
From there I focus on his hands, imagining him fingering me. Slowly at first, and then harder, with an added finger, finger f**king me til I beg to ride him. And last but definitely not least I set my sights on his delicious member, looking at his pants, staring at the outline of his buldging c*ck while I imagine him deep inside my wetness as I grab his ass & pull him deeper and deeper inside me.....