Sort of going down this path with a lady. Curious what semi-exclusive and exclusive mean to people and whether anyone has ever gone down this path?
- Did she take down her ads and reviews?
- Did she agree to only see you? How could you really ever know?
- Did she agree to only do bbfs with you, but see others? Again, how would you know?
- What were the terms/conditions?
- How did she benefit and how did you benefit?
- What would you do differently?
There is a girl that I have seen several times and would like to go down this road with if there was just some way of ensuring accountability. For all I know she is doing the same thing with multiple other guys and telling me what I want to hear.
Also, what you're talking about is a SB relationship, not an escort/John relationship. Hell, why not just get married?
I have only had semi exclusive experience where a client/friend pays $10k for a month of lunch, dinner dates & overnight delight. I have never been cool with BBFS, so that’s a hard no. If I did have a fully exclusive arrangement I would take down my ads & only cater to that one person. I prefer the SB allowance relationship.
in the business more than 10 minutes knows that the MORE sources of revenue you have, the more stable your income will be, so having MANY regulars is the goal of every provider that I have met. I would look askance at any situation purporting to represent exclusivity. It's counter-intuitive to everything providers learn after entering this business. Even if she moves in with you, you are not going to have a firm answer to any of the questions in your OP. Wives find a way to cheat if they want to. When money is involved, there is even more incentive to cheat. They will figure out a way to do it.
You have you look at this as becoming a member of semi-exclusive club. Whether that club has two or three members or 15 or 20 will determine how relatively safe it is to engage in BBFS. "How would you know?" You have to accept that you are only going to know what she wants you to know.
Semi-Exclusive does not mean exclusive, it is a meaningless oxymoron. It is an innocent lie, or delusion, being told to make the client feel good. Anyone that thinks a sex worker is going to stop advertising or seeing other clients for a temporary arrangement is foolish. Providers put a lot of work into developing a brand and they're not going to put that at risk for a monthly arrangement. They know clients come and go and aren't going to be dependent on one John who promises the sun, moon and stars. As you point out, even if a woman promises to be exclusive there is no guarantee she will.
Yep.
Even "exclusive" is kinda meaningless, most of the time it's just a marketing technique.
It ultimately depends on how much you trust the provider. Semi-exclusive sounds like a nothing-burger, as what you're basically doing is paying her to take... less clients? Either she's fucking other guys, or she's not, unless you really care if she's taking 10 dicks a month vs 100 dicks a month. It'd be probably cheaper/easier to just reach a monthly agreement with her (pay $xxxx to guarantee seeing her y times for z hours, at a discount from just paying per session).
Exclusive would be the only "special" arrangement that would make sense. And you'd need to be clear up front, does this include "civvie" guys in her regular dating life, a boyfriend or w/e, how many times a month is she expected to see you, for how long, does this include social dates, texting/calls, etc. The more of the "business end" you get out of the way at the start, the more you can enjoy the actual arrangement.
Personally, I'd only consider exclusive if she either didn't see any other guys even in her reg life, or only 1 regular partner like a boyfriend, as I'd only want to go exclusive for bbfs. I'd need her to get tested before, and get tested myself.
As for how you check/know? There's always risk involved. Personally, do your due diligence. Google her name, phone number, ad website, etc, to see if they've been taken down/removed. If she has reviews or a social media presence, you can try reaching out to some of her "regulars" and casually probe to see if they've seen her during the period. If she has a personal site, see if she has sth. up like "on hiatus and unavailable until xxxx date".
Sorry friend, but none of these things you have described should even be on the table after only seeing a provider "several times." From the way your post is worded it sounds like you are seeing escorts as an alternative to regular dating and are looking for a partner. That is not a good idea. This is our job. And yes, to circle back to your comment of "she is telling me what I want to hear." Of course she is! This is our JOB. That is what you are paying us for. You are paying for an experience. I do wish you the very best but unfortunately from your post it sounds like you are expecting much more than what is likely to transpire with this sex worker. Take some time and work on yourself in the New Year. Hugs.
Best post I’ve seen in some time here. Empathetic yet honest. Nice. Agreed.
Set her up in a new apartment. Have cameras everywhere. Put a tracker in her car. Spend all your time monitoring.
Maybe, just maybe, then you'll be sure.
Semi-exclusive has as many meanings as GFE, PSE and high-end.
And if "several times" isn't a dozen or more, including extended dates, out in public, off-the-clock, you have no idea what she's really like.
I've had outside OTC dates with over 60 providers, and at least half of them did not have the same personality in real life that they had during a paid session. Before anyone gets too deep into an "arrangement", they should go out a few times OTC and see if they still find her as "hot" doing everyday things as they do when she is focusing on a sexual experience. "SHOWTIME" is the fantasy we pay for, real-life is different and may not be the match a smitten customer is looking for.
exclusive relationship, and based on your comments and concerns, it seems you haven’t reached that confidence level yet.
As others have pointed out, "Semi-Exclusive" is a meaningless term. Like "military intelligence" or "partially pregnant".
There's never any way to know for sure but I am dying with the partially pregnant!
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Re: Partially Pregnant
As others have pointed out, "Semi-Exclusive" is a meaningless term. Like "military intelligence" or "partially pregnant".
When you say "sort of going down the path", do you mean that this something that you've discussed with her? Or, something that she has proposed? Or, something that you have proposed? Or, some notion that popped into your head?
I have never had an exclusive or semi-exclusive arrangement (whatever in the hell that is). Mostly because, I don't have the resources to be the sole support for a provider. Nor, do I have any delusions about whether or not she would/could remain "exclusive". But, as has already been stated, this sounds more like an SB relationship.
That said, if you are serious about pursuing something, my simple advice is: A) Know what you need, what you want and what you are willing to give. B) Talk to her. If your relationship is not developed such that you feel comfortable talking to her about it, that suggests that it may be too soon. But, if you are ready to talk to her, the questions that you've posed, are a good place to start (I restate the below):
- Would you take down all of your ads down and suspend all of your review profiles?
- Would you be prepared to see me exclusively (excluding all clients, old boyfriends, F-buddies, one night stands, etc.)? (As for "How could you really ever know?", you couldn't)
- If not, would you be open to bbfs with me, and not anyone else? ("Again, how would you know?" - You answered your own question)
- What would the terms/conditions be?
- This is what I need.... What do you need?
Good luck
- What would you do differently?
Third ,make sure she never gets bored with you. Fourth, make sure you're both healthy.
Fifth ,make sure she is not a sex addict, and if you are, she can keep up.
As long as you can keep up on the first four and you're both good on the others ,you should be good to go for the total exclusivity. Just remember you have your work cut out for you.
As for the partial exclusivity, it involves more risk,but might be less costly, so the choice is yours.
I saw an ad depicting a toned, tanned, athletic Latina with a body built like a brick sh*t house. The caption? "If you marry me, we will have sex 5 times a day." Hint: A green card may be involved.
Would this arrangement work for you?
ATTB
Nevertoosmall,
has any female ever told you that anything(s) are only for you ad no one else. That's called "Exclusive"
She was exclusive with someone else, not me. She had ads and reviews when I booked her including my deposit. When we first met she had removed all her ads, reviews, and socials. She told me she went exclusive with another guy who was out of town. In addition to her crazy monthly stipend he flew her into town every Wednesday or Thursday until Sunday. So we met on Monday or Tuesday, five times total. He was wealthy but had some physical problems and it sounded more like an intimate relationship than sexual. The one account she did not take down and it’s still active today, her Venmo 
We still text but I haven’t seen her since Labor Day. She’s young 28yo smoke-show, I doubt she’ll come back full-time since she has mastered the sugar life.
Have her move in with you to ensure she doesn't see anyone.. Also just to seal the deal hire a PI to follow her around. Might as well put a tracker on her car..
Short of that nothing you can do... If you want a gf or a life partner there are other places to find the same.
