On Monday evening after going through a provider's reference checks policy, I scheduled a Tuesday afternoon appointment with her. I was thinking the incall would be at her house since she was local (wrong assumption on my part).
This morning she texted and said something personal came up, can we re-schedule for tomorrow at the same time. I said sure, no problem.
This afternoon she emails me and says something must be going on in the city, all the hotel rooms are booked up or charging double, can we meet further out in the suburbs?
If she was really planning to meet me earlier today, instead of cancelling 3 hours before, wouldn't she have known this information already? Was she really going to cut it close and book a room at the last minute? I suppose she might wait to book a room in case a client backs out on her?
Is this a bit of flakiness or poor planning on her part? Should I give her the benefit of the doubt about personal problems, or should I be concerned and look elsewhere? Much ado about nothing, or something's up?
She has more than enough good reviews on here, none of which mention cancellations, etc.
Is that she is trying to schedule multiple appointments before booking the hotel room and one of those appointments will be out in the suburbs.
Think about it -- a girl is not likely to be able to justify a hotel room for just one appointment
Depending on the city, just because there were rooms on Tuesday doesn't guarantee there would still be rooms on Wednesday. These kind of things do happen, and she is giving you the courtesy of keeping the lines of communication open.
I say "much ado about nothing" especially if she is well reviewed with no mention of scheduling issues.
Just look into what's happening in the city, it's probably going to be pretty obvious if an event is going on that would draw that large of a crowd.
If you can't find anything, then you at minimum know that she's lying to you.
... I think you're overstating how poor it is.
First, you made an incorrect assumption that she'd do an incall at her home. Why would you assume that? If she did, THAT might be a red flag for me, not her hotel room scheduling.
Second, she wasn't planning on meeting you today. Your appointment is tomorrow. She's booking the room a day in advance. For a local incall, I don't think that's unusual. Why book a room before you have a need for it?
Third, she didn't cancel on you. She worked with you to change the date, and then asked if a hotel in the burbs was ok with you.
None of this is a big deal, IMO. Stuff happens. She's communicating with you and trying to make it work out for both of you.
If there's any flakiness here, I'd have to say it's more with you than her. 
If the hotel location is ok for you, why not go ahead? She may be very appreciative of your flexibility, and show her appreciation when you meet her. 
If you're still concerned, you can easily find out with a web search or two whether her story about something going on in the city is true. It's not unusual.
Posted By: Hedonist51
On Monday evening after going through a provider's reference checks policy, I scheduled a Tuesday afternoon appointment with her. I was thinking the incall would be at her house since she was local (wrong assumption on my part).
This morning she texted and said something personal came up, can we re-schedule for tomorrow at the same time. I said sure, no problem.
This afternoon she emails me and says something must be going on in the city, all the hotel rooms are booked up or charging double, can we meet further out in the suburbs?
If she was really planning to meet me earlier today, instead of cancelling 3 hours before, wouldn't she have known this information already? Was she really going to cut it close and book a room at the last minute? I suppose she might wait to book a room in case a client backs out on her?
Is this a bit of flakiness or poor planning on her part? Should I give her the benefit of the doubt about personal problems, or should I be concerned and look elsewhere? Much ado about nothing, or something's up?
She has more than enough good reviews on here, none of which mention cancellations, etc.
to find an out of the way place to bury a body in the suburbs. Her pimp just didn't think it through, but ultimately appears to have gotten it right, except now you're suspicious and maybe you won't show up if given another chance. Geez. Amateurs!!! Don't you hate it?
Similar experience a few weeks ago. Well reviewed lady I've seen before setting up a repeat visit. Date and time agreed upon. First time she has business reasons for cancelling. At least this is a day ahead. Reschedule for the next week. Morning of the appointment, she can't find a hotel, can we meet at your place. Sorry no. She tries to find a place, but eventually says no go about an hour before. Shit happens, but like the OP, bit skeptical. Sometime my green isn't green enough. Makes me appreciate a lady that has a hotel rewards card, knows how to use it, and keep an appointment.
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How bad do you want to see her?
What you are seeing is just how flaky things can be with ladies who book hotels all the time. It's nothing ...
I do outcalls and hotel incalls. I tend to book hotel rooms last minute in case a client cancels because I don't have a deposit system in place.
Occasionally a hotel I wanted was booked or the prices were almost double. But I really care about my clients so I just accept it, book the room and enjoy a lovely time with my client.
I add a fee to hotel incall donations to cover the cost of the room so that usually evens out.
To me it sounds like poor planning. She may have waited to last minute to book a room or there were a lot of things happening in the city that she may have been unaware of. I would give her the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes things happen that maybe out of her and your control.
I agree with GaG and mr envelope.
and questioning of motives?
This is simple. Her business is to serve clients. She had to reschedule once and didn't want to again; therefore, she offered you an option that might work for you both.
Every little thing is not subterfuge or ulterior motive.
Go see her and thank her for finding an option that would work for you both.
Hmm...why do providers screen clients? Why don't they just trust who they say they are No need to question motives, right?
I suspect that she is trying to schedule at least a couple of appointments for the same day to make it worth getting a hotel room, and the flakiness may have more to do with her other appointments falling through. Or maybe she needs a babysitter and doesn't have anybody that she can reliably get on short notice. At any rate, you should just move on and give your business to somebody who is more dependable.
Obviously scheduling is not her forte. This morning she texts and says noontime is good, and she will text the hotel later, which she does. Now, only an hour before the appointment, she texts and says the hotel is not allowing early check-in and asks if I can make it at 3:00pm.
Anyone ever heard of planning ahead and paying attention to details? Is this the way her service goes, too?
If all these changes are a red flag to you, or if you don't have a flexible schedule, then you are of course free to cancel and move on. On the other hand, it seems like she is juggling all kinds of things to make the meeting possible, so while she may not be the most organized person, at least she is keeping you in the loop. In my book that is a thousand times better than a NCNS. Personally, if my schedule was flexible, I would still see her.
For many of these ladies, planning ahead and paying attention to details are not their forte, but it does not necessarily reflect on the BCD performance. Some of my best sesssiobs have been with ladies who were not very organized on the business side of this thing.
but, she is keeping in touch, it's very possible they led her to believe she could arrange an early check in and then not have the rooms cleaned yet due to no one checking out early, and personally I would most likely agree to reschedule to 3 PM if my schedule would allow it, but that's just me.
I know this can be a bit frustrating, but after having dealt with some truly flaky women over the years, this is very mild and highly excusable in comparison.
Yeah, but hearing it twice is probably good for the OP. lol
