Just go with the flow. It will only be awkward for you. Once you've cum the first time you will be able to relax. I suggest you see a milfy provider who is more relaxed.

You’re not alone; I got 8 years on ya!

Why I’m I still a virgin?

Broadly, the march of time is inexorable and seems to accelerate the older you get.  It feels like I was 35 a year ago and 25 maybe two years before that; it’s only when I think about past events that I actually “feel” my age.  And so, before you know it some things are just left undone - like losing one’s virginity.  Not to mention, I simply cared less and less about it as the years rolled by; I was only hard-up or desperate during my 20s.

More specifically, I’ve always been a Shy Guy with No Game... and if you’ve got no game, you’ve got no girl.  The seemingly complex, social “mating dance” you’re supposed to do to entice the ladies to go out with you is opaque to me; I just could never get anything going and their confused or annoyed expressions just made me stop trying.  Also, I was never a party guy (I don’t drink, smoke or use recreational drugs) and so never really frequented bars and such; the few times I did, I quickly grew bored and would just be waiting to leave.  That mostly leaves the women you work with, but I like my job to be as static-free as possible (I’ve got two ladies at work right now who I know are interested, but I’m really only attracted to one of them and she’s married - which would present even MORE unwanted complications).

I do fine when I’m actually with someone as I am at ease and can just be myself (i.e. we’ve gotten past the uncomfortable “getting to know you” crap); my time with my One & Only girlfriend from 23-24 years ago was great (we didn’t have sexual intercourse because she wanted to “wait until marriage”, though we did pretty much everything else; she then dumped me for her ex-boyfriend who had returned to college at the time... and they didn’t “wait until marriage”).  Years later, she wanted to get back together, but by then I certainly didn’t.

At this point, I don’t think I even want a girlfriend; it just seems like you have to give up to much to have one.  I just don’t want to be entangled in their lives (and their drama...) or they in mine.  I like the fact that when I’m off work, my time and my money are my own; I do what I want, when I want.

It is only recently that I’ve really been thinking about (having real) sex and I’ve now stumbled across this shadowy world of Providers and Clients - and it sounds just right!  By paying an upfront fee (which is very cheap in the long run) I’ll be able be to skip all the annoying pretense and social performance and have some female attention, companionship and physical pleasure.  And then I’ll be out with no strings attached!

This whole thing should be legal, as it would then be regulated and thus safe for all concerned.  It only took our great grandparents about 10 years to figure out that Prohibition wasn’t going to work, and yet THIS is still illegal?  A what a bunch of outmoded, moralistic BS.

Sorry for the life story everyone, but it just felt good to belt it out.

-- Modified on 11/9/2017 7:11:57 AM

The question is how can he make it less awkward for himself.  Yes he probably will be nervous and excited the same time.  I actually prefer not to know before hand if someone is a virgin. Providers are usually very quick to identify when someone is inexperienced sexually.  When I come across such situations, I generally lead the session and do not make an issue of it unless he chooses to discuss it.  Oh, and do not use porn as a guide of what to expect. Nothing in there is real.