Yes, guys like sex. Yes married guys cheat, they do so with or without hookers. Yes, some single guys have no social skills.

 
I agree with all of the above, but what kind of point are you actually trying to convey with this mangled and convoluted OP of yours?

I'm sure there are many different reasons for guys and women doing p4p.  

I've been married twice, kids are grown and I travel a lot for business. I'm not interested in a traditional live in relationship with a woman, so this works really well for me.  

Didn't say I'm not interested in a romantic relationship, just not open to a standard, monogamous one.  

Have fun everyone.

what GaG and Mick have said. Basically, guys need and want sex whether it be from an affair, casual hook-up, or P4P. Each guys situation is different.

...including the craving for sexual variety. I am neither lonely, single nor desperate. I like selecting the women that I deem desirable, paying her donation, having our fun and then leaving. It doesn't get much simpler or satisfying than that. I would have this  same philosophy even if I we're single. If you choose to stigmatize single people who choose to pursue hookers instead of relationships that's on you, but you need to realize that everybody has their own perspective, many of which are not necessarily sad or pathetic.

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The assumption you are making is that either men/women hobbyists are either young and have no life other than hookers and grow to be old men/women with no life because they spent their younger years seeing hookers is idiotic.  Be careful not to alienate your clientele by barfing through the keyboard.  IMO, It seems tasteless to state your opinions that your target audience is in your words "sad," when I suppose the same could be said about escorts in general.  Are we to assume that all hookers were molested as children, or addicted to drugs or pimped out?  

I'd say, as a client you can have a wife/girlfriend/life partner but still lust for another with different features than what you have at home.  Even as a single man/woman you can just enjoy a different variety of women without the headaches and arguments.  Sometimes I like petite, other times I like thick, other times I like big fake boobs, to each his/her own.

Makes me wonder what her love life is/was/will be?  Willing to share my story which gives me no shame.

Married almost 40 years ago to a woman who convinced me to marry her by giving great blowjobs.  Never touched another woman for the first 25 years until one day she stopped cold.  Started hobbying one month later and have been having a blast with it for 13 years now.  Still married and still sleeping together.

Don't want to bash the OP other than maybe: don't drink and drive, don't drink and post on TER.

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Everybody has their kinks.  I love to cheat.  I especially love to cheat with married women.  Having done so once found it was intoxicating.  I am perfectly willing to establish a long term relationship with this person.  Makes anticipation of the next meeting all the more delicious.

 But... finding a married woman willing to cheat and who is also simultaneously attracted to me in particular is actually incredibly difficult.  

So, enter escorts.  Very attractive.  Nice variety.  But lacking the connection to be had with a civie relationship.  

You can't be that drunk at 12 PM on Sunday.  The bars just opened.  I know you miss your time at the shore, but it's time to let go and go back to work.  Maybe Bar A will be better next year.  

just a few scenarios like you have.  There are many other reasons why people see hookers.  For me, it comes down to efficiency in my sex life.  If I spend two hours with a hooker, the whole two hours we are engaged in some type of sexual activity.  If it see civvie girl for two hours I get lunch or dinner.  If I want sex, then I have to commit more time, which is what I don't have that much of.  

 
I've only been seeing hookers for nine years.  Before that, I didn't mind investing the time it takes to seduce a civvie woman.  My time was not as valuable then, plus I was better looking and younger, so there were more options for me without paying.  Now, it makes more sense to pay, and save all of the time that used to be eaten up by the collateral bullshit that comes with dating civvie women.  I get all the sex I want, without the drama, commitment, or time-suck, and if I'm in the mood to include a dinner or night at the theatre now and then, I have no shortage of regulars that are willing to go with me OTC.   Life is good.  

Who has the secret translator?

I think that due to the fact that all of us come from all walks of life makes it easier for some people to judge but I find it to be a double standard because if that were the case hobbyist can judge providers for our lifestyle as well. For me, it's all within the same. We are all here networking with likeminded individuals and we all have our reasons.  

Share your story if you'd like, otherwise I don't feel that anyone should feel obligated to explain and defend their reasons for being here. At least we have a good idea of what our wants and needs are lol What's sad is people portraying to be normal while secretly craving the same desires..

Please....

Let me know when you find out. I had a hard time understand it myself! Lol I'm thinking English isn't her first language really ☺
XOXO  
TL

The majority of personal relationships I enjoy today are with escorts.   I find most to be quite intellectually stimulating and erudite, as well as pleasant and personable.   I wish I could say the same for non-escorts I relate too.  (Not talking about you honey.)

 
But perhaps you envision a poor soul who can't relate to people for one reason or another.   If that be the case, then seeing escorts may be the best solution to finding some joy in what would be otherwise a very barren life.

I am a single and not lonely at all. Yes I love sex just as much as the next guy. I have had plenty of relationships in my life and got tired of the civie girl and I am not the only here who has made this choice. The thing you left out there are probably a number of guys on here including me, who have gotten into relationships with a provider. Now I don't expect it to happen it just does.

 The door swings both ways in this world. What is the shelf life for a provider? I am just guessing if one starts in their earlier twenties maybe early forties. If a girl is a strictly providing, then what do you do after let's say ten years and you want to go get a regular job? What do you put on your resume because sex worker will not fly in this day and age? I have meet a few girls who do keep regular jobs and provide at the same time to avoid this type scenario.

but one that did have a 25 year marriage, I can say, even though I loved the picket fence, at this point in my life, searching for, developing, cultivating, and maintaining a real relationship is just too much fucking work.  Women in my age range almost all have roots.  They have kids and grandkids that are going to suck up much of their free time. Most times you are lucky to be third or fourth on the priority list.  It's not like it is when you are young-you life is in front of you and opportunities abound.  At this age, both ladies and men are a tad stuck in their ways and wary of change.  So, rather than work that hard I go the provider route, hoping to find one or two that are more than a drive by and at least give you the feeling of being liked.  And how else (other than SB) do we get to have great sex with young attractive women?  So for me its less sad than just being a LAZY FUCK (not literally ladies ).

As as a co-worker once asked me....Now that you've driven a few ferraris, how hard is it to go back to the mini-van.

...don't listen to the haters Jenn, you are one of my ATF's!  I am sure you are dealing with an issue beyond just the job and you are venting on here.  Unlike many others I won't judge you, rather offer assurances that it will eventually get better and this too shall pass.

As a single guy, middle aged, I have been in too many dead end relationships. I am sick of the whole dating game, with the drama and headaches and baggage (major baggage). I am still healthy, enjoy beautiful women, but do not want to deal with them all day. The hobby is not a game, it is passion and enjoyment. You pay, you enjoy, then you have memories, all pleasant. No hassles, no drama, no problems.

but as an institution needs to be redefined.  It's no longer a financial contract as it was until not long ago; and in those times men sought love outside and it was generally accepted. The institution of marriage was a social and financial arrangement; men enjoyed themselves elsewhere and women were oppressed and didn't have a saying (although I'm sure many figured ways around it).  As society evolved, men, being insecure, often possesive and influenced by religion, opted to accept the same restrictions that their wives had rather than letting women explore their own desires and let everybody just be. Then marriage got4 redefined as being about love and didn't take long for men to realize that such dynamic does not work for most. The current narrative (happily ever after)  causes a lot of pain, shame and guilt. Cheating is not sociopathy; that is when you get pleasure hurting someone and truly don't care for others.  Cheating (boy do I hate that word, so demeaning, and full disclosure, I've been "cheated" on)  is an act of rebellion; a transgression to try to remove the restrains of this arrangement and try to feel alive again. People seek new experiences to rediscover the parts of themselves that got lost in the constrains of marriage. It is not about hurting the person next to you. Personally I find serial monogamy much more destructive but is socially accepted, I don't get it; hurting someone every so many months when the dopamine stops flowing.  
Not sure what the solution is, but should start by reframing the expectations, revisiting them every so often by default and respecting one's partner as an autonomous person and not as property based on a signature in a contract.

The girls are stunningly beautiful. Seriously doubt it would be so easy to have sex with such beautiful young ladies plus they are willing to play. Inhibitions be dammed. Civvies tend to be more reserved in the bedroom and less willing to party in more wild manner.

Bottom line, civvies tend to be more about tender love making while professionals tend to be about rock'em sock'em robot ride'm  cowgirl..

What a good workout high on adrenaline? The choice is simple...

naaaah,
they've chosen the Peaceful Path.
A lot of guys just don't want the bullshit.

Paid provider paid service without stress.

The easiest way to enjoy yourself without drama

Hobbying really comes down to having access to something  
A.You would not have normally without an incentive(relationship) B. Minimizes drama. C. Cheaper than dating. I don't understand your point really it's actually strange coming from a provider. It's like your grabbling with a civie perspective yet repping the benefits from a culture that has given you the perspective and right to be an independent woman. Monogamy doesn't work for most people and too many times Women and Men attach their self worth to their sexual partners. Just because your husband steps out on you doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Just because a hobbyist pays for your attention doesn't mean he's lonely. Some people rather see providers than date. Minimizes the whole getting to know you charade and allows for you have your cake and eat it too. You get to be service by beautiful women without the drama of  being in a civie relationship with them. Each time you engage with them it's on stellar levels and a treat. I wish I met a guy that gave me a Fbsm with candles lit freshly done hair, unfortunately most people don't get that for free.  I plan to save my money providing and start hobbying myself.

But maybe you’re either jaded about your clientele, or perhaps you’re searching for meaning above and beyond what you chose as a profession?

For me, as a heterosexual, and you as an attractive and sexy provider (not unlike many other providers who fit the mold) means more to me than you can possibly imagine! The good love you give me touches pleasure sensors that dance around a schizoid and hostile-backbiting wasp-feminism to a morally self-righteous religious and culturally-judgmental infective-arrogant dogma erroneously disgracing the simplicity to any pleasurable understanding to basic carnal instinct in contrast to getting off! No wonder so many may be screwed-up because of what they pay attention to; thus leaving anything else in lieu of lonely?

But, please, don’t read too much into what someone has or hasn’t done in his life; just celebrate erotica when it comes to the act! Jack it up and let it flow. Baby, I’m cumming to you…Oh ya!