The twists and turns of the hobby world
Traveling to a relatively new city. Reach out to a provider with a handful of reviews. We have the best pre-session texting session ever. I get pictures, good humour and and I am feeling good. She then starts saying there is a chance she can’t meet. So I give her a deadline to confirm. She tells me that if she can’t make it, she will refer me to a one or more ladies she knows. Day of the meeting she goes completely dark, so I give up and reach out to another provider (Provider B) who I booked months ago, who cancelled on me at the last minute. She seemed to have a good excuse, so being desperate I try her again. She responds instantly and we book. 15 minutes before the meeting she cancels, and tells me how much she hates to disappoint me again. No excuse or explanation. But she offers up an UTR friend (Provider C), who has no reviews, or web presence. Nothing. Picture she sent, looks interesting. But I have zero to go on. I agree to the booking. Provider C and I set the appointment up, and she shows up a while later. Looking way better than the picture. I am pleased. We sit down, and she explains to me that this is her second week, she has had one client which was a disaster, and that she is nervous and needs a bit of time. I am thinking, uh-oh. I tell her to relax, and there is no rush. We relax and have a great conversation. Much humor. Now she is relaxed and gaining confidence, and starts to take charge. Long story short, the sex is off the charts insanely good. Unforgettable. I am blown away and surprised. Top one or two experiences I have ever had. She seems thrilled and appreciative that everything went so well, especially after her rough start. Back to Provider B. She insists that I contact her the next time I am in town. She canceled on me twice, but didn’t just leave me hanging. So all you experts out there, do I give up on Provider B, or give her another chance?-- Modified on 2/20/2018 9:36:29 PM
Actually I have never seen Provider B. Two tries - two cancellations.
No matter how many. I am still willing to give her one more chance just to thank her for the meeting with provider C. I was cancelled twice before because she was sick and she came through for me the third time. She was very genuine when apologizing to me in person and made extra effort for me. I had a great time. Honestly I would continue to try until I finally saw her anyway even if I had plenty of options; but only because it was her and because it seemed she had a good reason to cancel.
How about more info. on provider C?
What city is she based in, and will she be coming onto the rest of our radar any time soon?
Fool me twice ...I deserved it!
NOPE. I would not book with Provider 2 again, she had two opportunities and despite introducing you another great lady, she was not available.
Schedule with Provider 3 the next time, you obviously had a great time with a great lady.
by your words was "one of the top one or two experiences you've ever had. Not a guy but I'd contact her again the next time you are there. If she not available, try to set something up with the original lady. Still torn on my thoughts about it thou 'cause she did you a solid in the end.
Maybe if you want to give it a shot with the first lady, give her a lot of notice *if* you didn't the first time.
Steph XO
When I said time I said "original lady" and "first lady", sorry for any confusion.
Steph XO
You decide if B is worth the time
she did you a solid, so I don’t think you should hold it against her.
I mean really dude - life happens; it just sounded like bad luck on her part.
Why do you want to schedule with B? What is your reasoning? Do you want thank her for setting you up with provider C or do you like variety?
It sounds like Provider B is legit. I would feel better about B now, because IMHO she was sincere about having to cancel and wasn't flaking out on you. I would book both next time in town if the funds allow and see what happens. One the night you get into town and the next the following day.
I've done that in the past if I have an 'iffy' companion who I think might flake.
She sounds like a keeper.
Me personally if a client would cancel on me twice in a row I would not give him another chance. I understand things come up but I can't block off time for someone who cancels. I need to keep the slot available for a serious client. Especially during lunch time, since a lot of people want to see me during their lunch break.
Another thought in support of your position but from a different angle. It could be possible that provider B is being nice but realizes that she might know the hobbyist either directly or indirectly and does not want to cause embarrassment. I suspect that this happens more often than not.
Cancellations are part of the hobby. Poor performance is the only reason for me to stop calling a girl.
Given your situation I would be repeating as much as possible with C...probably not have the money/freetime/spermcount left over for B.
I travel some and in some of the places there are only a few choices. If there is limited choice, I'd be tempted to give her another chance, but then again, based on your description, my first choice would be to repeat with C.
Solo mis dos centavos
As a provider, I eschew heavy texting as some guys use that to get off! Why did she send pictures? Did she not have a website? As far as reviews, on what site? Could they be fake? They do exist, you know. It's possible that she could be a female pimp and sending you to her girls. Hey it's a possibility! I would move on and leave her alone. I would, however, send her an email thanking her for girl C! 
The texting was Provider A who stood me up. One and done. I won’t be contacting her again. Normally I am all business in setting up appointments. Confirm. Reconfirm. Done.
It just so happened that Provider A started sending me these amazing pictures, without me asking, and then bantering about the appointment. Which I was fine with. It struck me as odd, that she ended up going dark on me.
You sure do enjoy getting fucked around don't ya!
If I wanted so much indecision, inconsistency, unreliability and constant blue balls, I'd go hang out in bars and get prick teased by civie women.
This is supposed to be easy!
Me: P411 appointment request for date and time
Her: screens me and answers request with availability time adjustment.
Me: day before appointment, check in via her preferred method.
Her: confirms appointment and gives directions on meeting arrangements.
Me: checks in as arranged and shows up on time
Her: gives final address and does the mystery door opening magic.
Me: Has a most incredible 90 minute to 2 hour session with a beautiful, talented, reliable woman.
If any of the first few situations ( slight delays at appointment time are usually acceptable to me) become a challenge...... she's too much trouble for me.
There are too many wonderful women in this world to pay to be strung along like you have been.
Me: number of times that I've hit radio silence from a provider in the last 3 years......... 0
I must choose wisely!
Thank you ladies!
You just described how I normally do things. Provider A who flaked was contacted through an appointment request on P411. She initiated a lively dialog after that. Then flaked, so I am done with her.
Then I simply reconnected with Provider B, who cancelled once, but I believed her excuse. So gave her another shot. Last time she was super-responsive, and I had just a few hours to set something else up this time. Seemed like a better alternative than trying to book someone else, last minute in a strange city. She is the only exception I have ever made. If I get cancelled on, I never go back.
So she cancelled on me again. Which very likely is the end for me. But she spent time and energy to make sure my evening wasn’t ruined. She was in constant dialog to make sure the replacement date happened. Simply, put that complicates things for me. She could have cancelled and not cared a bit.
So good for you, on your perfect record. But in this world shit happens.
-- Modified on 2/21/2018 4:59:58 PM
Yeah, it does. Hope it works out for you.
Are just fucking sexy! 😜🙄😏😚
XOXO
TL
..... are fucking sexy.
Sigh
...jaded and a NCNS'er like B and A.
Ya. Don’t know if her being totally new, explains her performance. Or maybe that she is some kind of sex machine. Either way, I am seeing her again. The fact that I was her very first good appointment, is an experience I don’t expect to repeat any time soon. There are aspects to the newness, and a big need/desire to succeed, that simply cannot be recreated. I had no idea I was TOFTT.
I have too much self esteem and respect for my time to allow anyone to abuse me in this manner. I would never put up with that. I have no patience for anyone who does not have their act together. I have booked incalll appointments, shown up as scheduled at the agreed upon time, only to be texted, not ready, give me a few. After 20 minutes I will leave. Last year I had an experience like that. 35 minutes later she texted that she was ready.....it was way too late for me. And I never called her back again. Hookers who expect you to sit in your car and wait on them are inconsiderate and disorganized.
In the business world I have occasionally fired a customer who abused my time. It works both ways.
Schedule with provider c with provider b... if provider b cancels, you still have the lady you already have great chemistry with! 😀😎😚
XOXO
TL
....... are so freaking sexy!
Best answer! Ding, ding, ding, ding!
I would give her first priority next time. Provider B is now plan B. I wouldn't necessarily blow her off, but she wouldn't be my first choice. No reason to tell her that, of course.
+1 See C again to re-verify. Back burner B&A . Don't over think. C may bail the life.
I'd put my energy & dollars where I was happy. I value my opportunities more than others may (I live outside the city) so I'm hard on gals who are unreliable. I have to be.
what for, you struck gold w Provider C .... #sendherathankunote