When I first started on TER a couple of years ago, I assumed that booking a lady in advance was the way to go. Besides the fact that many providers say as much on their websites, it just seemed like that would increase my chances of booking her and curtail the likelihood of being stood up or canceled on. And while I've met some fantastic providers this way, I'm starting to question this approach. I have found that requesting an appointment far in advance can sometimes lead to more cancellations, or even fail to illicit a response at all. Yet surprisingly, I have recently had success with a couple of these same ladies by simply texting them to set up appointments later that day. Just wondering what other guys have experienced in this matter. What approach has brought you the most success?
Everyone knows today's schedule better than tomorrow's or next week's. So you will get a definite "yes" or "no" for a booking today. That's the difference. You will also often get "no" today. But for next week you'll mostly get "yes." Some of which will turn into "no" when the day arrives.
The idea of booking in advance is really more for we clients, so we can arrange our availability. If we do it on the spur of the moment we might not find anyone of our preference available. Of course there will always be someone available, but some of us are interested in specific providers. So it does depend on what you want.
Yeah, that pretty much matches my experience. I guess I was just kind of floored that setting up a same day appointment actually worked with providers I hadn't seen previously. I always thought this was a privilege most ladies reserved for their regulars.
they're exclusive, they do thorough screening, they're low volume, they have another career and this is just a hobby for them. All reasons that you need to book in advance. The reality is that if offered $500 today, they'll make the effort to earn that cash. Nothing wrong with that!
If I see a touring provider is coming to my town in a few weeks, I'll reserve a time and date, but I also know if her bookings are light or something changes, she may cancel. I also believe it's ok for me to cancel 48 hours in advance just because I changed my mind. Any closer, I only cancel if it's a real need.
If you go to dinner at an expensive restaurant that has an open "same day" reservation, is that considered a "privilege"? Of course not, and neither is seeing a hooker who happens to be free at the time you request.
I know most hobbyists no longer have a set due to years of being browbeaten by the women in their lives, but these women are not "doing you a favor" by agreeing to see you, it's their livelihood. You don't have to cross over to the dark side and become a total prick, but you don't need to let them walk all over you either.
Most of the whining about NCNS and other cancellations start off in a similar manner "I scheduled the session well in advance, but..."
How often do you hear a guy (or girl) whining about having a "short notice" appointment flake on them? Once again the "conventional wisdom" isn't so wise after when given a bit of scrutiny.
For me an "advance appointment" is one made the day before the actual session. Most of my sessions are booked same day, I rarely if ever run into no shows or last minute cancellations. So count me in as someone who agrees with your new approach, it's been working well for me for many, many years now.
If you have several providers in mind whom you'd like to see and you have some flexibility on time, sure, go ahead and try to book them later the same day.
But for someone like me who tends to see a few providers on a regular basis, and these ladies don't take many appointments and tend to fill their schedules quickly, plus add in my limited windows of opportunity, scheduling in advance works best.
I haven't had a problem with NCNSes or cancellations because of advance scheduling of ladies I frequent, whom I know to be reliable (one reason I stick with them). Sometimes an emergency happens (some of these ladies have small kids and/or elderly parents), but those would happen whether I scheduled two weeks out or the same day.
and with a couple of them I have tried making plans in advance, but I have noticed that one or both of us have to cancel or reschedule all too often. It's not as big a deal to cancel every once in a while with someone you see on a regular basis as it is to have to cancel on your very first date, but I still hate having to either cancel myself or be canceled on. Because of this well over 90% of my sessions are booked less than 24 hours in advance, and the overwhelming majority are booked only a few hours in advance.
Myself, I like to plan ahead, often weeks ahead, especially in the case of a traveling gal. Anticipation, after all, can be a pleasurable part of the whole experience. Over all, cancellations have not been a major problem, so that does not deter me.
The only times that I have made last minute arrangements is when the plans did fall through. Thankfully, I know enough gals that I often can get a hold of someone, or at least see someone at a massage parlor if all else fails.
She was only available today (Saturday). So I made that appointment. And she was excellent as usual.
Still on Thursday, I reached out to another lady I've seen before, for Friday and she was available. Also excellent.
Also on Thursday, I made an appointment for a session on October 10th with a touring lady who I've wanted to see for about a year. This is the first time that we will be in the same city together.
Dallas is a great playground.
So my answer is to do what gets me what I want. Pragmatic whore mongering.
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a few weeks in advance. I don't get very many opportunities to play so I want to be sure I will have the chance to spend time with someone I really want to see rather than someone I might have to settle for at the last minute.
If I schedule 3 weeks ahead I will usually confirm 7 days out and again at 48 hours out just to be sure the provider and I have our calendars aligned.
If you're booking with a alady who's very organized, has her own website, professional pics etc. You're best off booking in advance, by up to a month, preferably 1 to 2 weeks. If you're booking with someone who only works when she has to, isn't that organized, you're more likely to get cancelled on if you book in advance.
But usually same day - schedule opens up and then run down the list of ladies I want to see until you get a yes
Since most of my encounters occur when I'm traveling, I try to arrange at least one appointment several days ahead. Most of the time this works out with no problem. On the few occasions when either my or the provider's schedule has changed last minute I've had reasonable success booking same day appointments.
I have a really packed civilian life so now I have a calendar published on my site. Once you're locked in, you're locked in.
Some folks don't know their schedules in advance. Some folks are not good at managing that kind of stuff. But some folks are.
Also, the touring ladies I know get booked up really quickly and that's that.
So I think it depends from pro to pro, and what their style is. It's pretty easy to determine from their website I think.
I love it when a lady posts a schedule on her website. Even if she's not traveling, it's still tremendously helpful to know when/where she will be available.
One reason I went to a set hours/place model of providing is because so many of the guys want/need to be able to grab the opportunity when it comes up.
Set parameters give us a structure to work in so we don't go bonkers. Yep, If i know you and you're down the street you can put me on the list of calls you make on the spur of the moment. If I'm not busy then yeeehaaa! If I am busy, I do get a little sad I can't have you, though.
If we haven't met, then I really do need time for screening.
Having said all that - I actually do prefer a lead up time to a rendezvous. And the main reason why is because it seems to me that all the cocks get horny on the same day and I can't see them all. So 1 or 2 days there may be nothing and on the fourth day 8 or 9 calls...all for the same time that day. (not that i would have that many in a day - maybe all at once - oh, no probably not that either, LOL)
To each his own way of doing it and I agree that a combination is the best way to go.
The cocks get horny every day, Adelle. I just had one of my most enjoyable and memorable experiences in the hobby on Sunday night, and I'm already itching for the next one!
I never cancelled an advance booking because I respect that you took the time to fill out my booking form, gave me references and telling me what experience you want. Some of us can't just answer a "right now booking" cause in my experience hobbyist aren't reliable when I need to screen and I have a life. I wish hooking was all I did but unfortunately I have a 9 to 5 to makeup the extra.
I used to try to book on the spur of the moment, but it was a hassle because I sometimes needed to contact several providers before I got through to somebody. And generally I wasn't getting my first, second, or even third pick. These days, I always book several days in advance, so I have a much better chance of seeing the exact provider that I want to see.