I have been providing FBSM for 16 years, and am wondering why so many target and ask for "more." Even fetish stuff!
When a provider provides a CMT, full-body massage, just for kicks guys, truly, she is NOT an escort. Thoughts?
you're posting on an escort website? Lol
The reality is that many CMT's use massage to get their customers and once they find out the customer is not LE, the menu opens up. Many (but not all) girls advertising only massage services on their websites also have TER reviews for FS. Don't hate the players, hate the game.
I think I'm "getting it" now.
roughly 1/3 of FBSM providers have given extras ranging from kissing to prostate work to DATY to BBBJ to FS. this is regardless of what their ads and reviews state. In many of the cases, I didn't have to ask. It was offered, sometimes on the first meeting, sometimes after a few appointments. Admittedly, there's usually a pretty clear vibe / connection. Contrary to CDL's experience that many also advertise as escorts, none of the providers I am referring to do so.
Since I rarely see providers over 30, I can't speak directly about someone who's been doing it for 16 years, but based on reading reviews and the language in ads, it seems the percentage of "more mature" FBSM providers offering extras may be even higher.
If you had linked one of your ads we could give it a critique to help you be more direct in marketing to guys who only want a CMT-quality massage with a happy ending. Alternatively, if you don't already have a profile on TER maybe ask one of your regulars to write a review that emphatically lists NO No No for all services provided except a fully clothed massage.
I said they advertise only the CMT service on their websites, but once they know you're not LE, many will offer a wider menu. I think you're saying the same thing from your own experience. Just wanted to be clear.
equating TER reviews for FS with posting ads as an escort, but point taken.
Yes, I suppose my menu is more on the "tiny sandwiches without the crust" side.
it's just more economical for a client to seek a provider offering FBSM to cater to his fetishes, rather than an FS girl. Most FBSM girls are okay with reasonable requests and light fetishes, but it's all up to your personal comfort level.
...Even with the upcharges for "more," the guy figures it will still be less than the basic charge of an escort, and definitely less if the provider has surcharges for "more." A guy thinks that a CMT who gives a HJ is "half a hooker" already, so she may go for "more" and won't be offended by a guy asking.
Yes, I suppose if you are getting "half a hooker" then you should not have to pay the "full-blown" hooker rates? Sheesh.
Do I want the half that fucks or the other half that sucks? lol
Maybe, instead of seeing a lady as a "thing or object," it might be better to view her as a whole person who also has feelings and a heart? Just a thought.
I don't think a man asking for FS means he doesn't view you as a human or a woman. You are providing a service.
When the guy came over to do my drywall and I asked him if he did baseboards I wasn't treating him like he wasn't a person. I was simply pleased with his work and wanted to know if he offered additional things I could compensate him for.
half a hooker huh... thats cute. 
I enjoy a good massage, so if a massage only session stays that way, it isn't a total loss, but sometimes things do progress, if you are a nice guy and don't get pushy.
One time in Florida I met a gal for a massage at her house, and from the beginning I had a feeling things were going to progress. After I flipped over I began to ask her if she provided extras. She said she used to, but that LE was very active and she retired from that. I said OK, and proceeded to drop the subject, but we kept eyeing each other and finally she said: What have you got in mind? I said $300? Next thing we were on her bed doing the tube steak boogie. It was fantastic.
Even as I write this, I am texting back and forth with a gal I met ages ago at an MP. She retired from that years ago, but contacted me a few weeks ago to rekindle a Platonic friendship, but she also needed a few bucks for some emergencies, so she is working it off with therapeutic massages, (A+ massage) but something tells me that given all the interest she shows in me, and her perennial need for more $, more is going to come of it. But even if it doesn't, I'm happy just to spend time with her. For example, she actually laughs at my corny jokes. (She has had formal training in acting, come to think of it.)
Oh well.
You know I couldn't agree with you more. I feel like I charge a standard half a hooker rate and deliver a great massage that everyone seems quite pleased with. I like to under promise and over deliver generally. Its really hard for me to answer when a guy emails me that Ive never met and asks for more. I'd like to consider that "more" would be something that happens organically because of the chemistry and connection like in the story that you described. I like the comfort of long term "friendships" Every once in a while I get overcome by horniness. Im only human after all and think that I might want more but then check myself because I dont want a review to come out and everyone to expect this of me. I want my experiences to be authentic. I am comfortable with my half hooker status and my rates reflect that. But when a guy is cool and the chemistry is there sometimes I want more myself.... Just saying....
...and we're guys, it's what we do. We sometimes can't help ourselves. Once we're in the presence of a beautiful woman, the blood rushes out of our brain to the activate a certain part of our anatomy which insists on being taken care of. 
I use to work in a couple of spas in midtown east and Murray hill and only provided FBSM with a happy ending, nuru, or light fetishes. Personally I like to create more of fantasy when doing FS. So the spa/ massage room wasn’t ideal for me it also effect the market if you work in a spa and doing FS at a lower rate. Also in terms of pricing if you are not a CMT you have to be aware that pricing average body rub rate might not cut it. Especially after backpage crashed.
FBMS is a gateway drug - like how smoking cigarettes eventually leads to heroin
You may need to partner with a sexy assistance to provide extra services.