I think my current locked into a misserisble marriage is the temporary situation . Bieng  free to. Indulge is the future long term goal actually

with very rare exceptions, in any case.

 
As for meeting up with a former client who is now interviewing you for a job, that could go any number of ways, but it is also a calculated risk on your part.   The law of averages would render it rare in any case.

You having been a hooker would not disqualify you from getting a job from me, I will concede that the better our session/s were, the more likely I would be to hire you. As for informing others that you used to be a hooker, that's not my style. If you wanted to keep it quiet, and I assume almost all ex hookers do, I would never be the one to tell others about your former occupation.  For the record, this is not a "hypothetical" question for me. I actually have hired an ex hooker that I had been with before.

 
Second scene, if I were "the friend" I would not say anything about having fucked you in the past. I would expect you to be honest about having once been a hooker, but I think telling him we had fucked before might be a bit TMI.

 
I normally have a rule that if we meet in public and you are not alone, unless I know you well enough to know your real name, I am not going to say a word to you unless you say something to me first. I most definitely am not going to call you by your "hooker name" in front of other people. Now where I differ from most people here is that if we were to bump into each other and I was sure you were alone, I would most likely at least smile, make eye contact and follow your lead if you wanted to say hello, have a drink, go fuck, or whatever. lol

 
"Most" johns hide their whore mongering activities from just about everyone outside these boards, but as I said, "I am not normal" virtually everyone in my life knows I see hookers and I make ZERO effort to hide it, but that doesn't give me the right to "out" other people. My POV is that if you want people to know certain things about your life, it's your place to tell them, not mine.

My two cents:

1) "Hobbying" is generally very solitary.  
2) I have never bumped into a lady in any sort of public space or forum.
3) If I did see a lady outside of this world, I would say nothing, respect her privacy, and expect the same.
4) I did meet a lady (she was in Penthouse and Playboy) who worked as a "greeter" or "function coordinator" (yeah, whatever) at a Fortune 500 company that I worked for several years ago.  She knew all of the Execs that I interfaced with years ago.  A little weird.
5) The only time that I ever communicated about this with people whose real names I knew was when I worked on Wall Street.  Back then it was part of the culture.  We would play credit card roulette, for example, when we got our bonuses. The losers would choose a hooker for the winner.

I have mostly lived in large cities so I have never been too concerned about bumping into anyone.  I am actually trying to wrap my mind around the idea of meeting people.

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I suppose it is not unheard of for a couple of guys (especially younger pals) to hit the brothels together.  But I imagine ( I have no evidence) that most guys don't let it be known they partake.  Paying for sex has a negative stigma -- even in the civie world of courtship where some guys try to buy affection with gifts.  This is universally mocked.  

So the likelihood of a guy tipping his hand that he as ever met you in the past in a client related capacity is extremely remote.

Meeting a prospective boss after having him as a client has about the same downside as meeting him after having an unsuccessful civie relationship.  He may or may not want to deal with that.

I saw a lady and then saw her again at an alumni event.  Awkward!  However we both conducted ourselves professionally and that is all that mattered.  

In regard to your future career prospects, I work in a business where discretion is very important.  If you came in for an interview, you would not be automatically disqualified as long as you've been discrete with me.  Continue to be discrete, and  I can work with that.  

And no, I would not tell everyone you are a provider.  The questions would be how do I know that?  I have zero interest bragging or detailing what I do in private.

... one thing about your OP I found interesting in that it seems outside the norm: you said 85% of your clients are single or divorced men.  That's a high percentage of single/divorced vs married compared to other formal and informal surveys I've seen.

I wonder how you know for sure whether a client is single or divorced or married?  Do you ask every client about his marital status?  Or perhaps they volunteer that info.  And, are you sure you can believe what they tell you?

And you said YOU are an over-thinker.  

I have hired, as a temp for my business , a lady that I see as a hooker. It was interesting paying her far less per hour. She was excellent at the sales job. She was very qualified for the job.  I really enjoyed being around her and she was the best choice for the job.  

A lot of my friends know that I p4p, I'm twice divorced single. So, I don't have a problem with others knowing. If asked about it, I tell the truth.  

As to the lady and her anonymity. I take that very seriously. I would never approach a hooker if she is with someone else.  I have been in the situation a few times. One time she came running over to me and grabbed my hand. She wanted me to meet the monger she was with. Thankfully, it was with his permission also.

The other side of it is that I know three of my regular's extended families. I know 2 of their boyfriends. I thank them for sharing.

Reality is that this society can be very intolerant but there are decent people that can surprise you.

people in real life know that I see providers.  I just don't want them to know I'm that outlandish guy, CDL.  Making CDL the opposite of me is what keeps me anonymous.  

 
To answer your hypothetical question, always act in public they way you would if you had met them some other way, as if you were a civvie girl.  How HE reacts will tell you whether to go or stay.  If he treats you like a co-worker or female non-sexual friend, then its probably okay to have dinner with them, but if he takes liberties with you when he's not paying for a session, then maybe you want to decline.  

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Job Interview: If your social skills are top notch and you meet the other qualifications and are the best person for the job, then you will be hired. I don't mix work with personal life.

If after we have had a session and we were to meet in a public location at a later time, then I would ignore you unless you approached me first. Again, I don't mix RL with hobby life.    

While your concerns are legitimate, the chance that any of them will materialize is small.  Speaking for muself: (1.)  I would never out a provider under any circumstances. I realize most providers want to keep this aspect of their lives secret, as do I. If I see you in public or learn that you are dating a friend, I keep my mouth shut.   (2.) I do not discuss the hobby with anyone.  (3.) I am an employer. I would not decline to hire someone whom I knew to be a provider if they were otherwise qualified for the job. However, you would do well to keep your face obscured in advertisements because it might be an issue for employers with public image concerns.  

I guess I am an outlier as well.  Many of my friends know I monger.

If we had met via an appointment and then encountered one another socially I would leave wether or not to acknowledge one another up to you, but I would look, and when no one else is looking you'd get a smile.

I would have absolutely no problem hiring many of the women I have met mongering.  On the whole they have been smart, hard working, and intelligent.

As far as your "85%" figure though?  I've talked to many woman and that's about the percentage of married men they see regularly.

I'm single, divorced, have no qualms about what I do, and am honest about it.  I suspect some of the ones you see aren't.

I have hired a woman I met first as a stripper then later as a provider. She had the knowledge to do the job I needed and was an excellent employee for several years before moving on to a better job more fitting her skillset.

One of my best friends is a woman I met as a provider. She is now married and her husband is a great friend. He knows of her past but not that we met via that past and never will from me. That part of her life and our relationship is past and I would never betray her trust to tell or to try to repeat it.

Taking your points in order:

 
If I had a session with you and later interviewed you for a job, whether you got the job would be strictly based on your qualifications and how I thought you'd fit with the organization. If you interviewed with somebody else at my organization and I happened to see you in passing, I wouldn't say a word. I would inform *no one* that you were a provider. I'd consider that a really sleazy thing to do.

 
Second scene, you have a normal relationship with a man, time to meet his friends, and I'm one of those friends--Actions of the friend? "Hi, nice to meet you." It's not my place to out you. Of course I want my friends to be happy and to make good choices, but the way you treat my friend is what will make him happy or not--not that you are, or were once, in this profession.

 
I've never talked about my "hobbying" with anyone outside this life. I probably never will, even if I end up being single again. I have actually never run into anyone I've had a session with--I don't think it is at all common, at least in a big city and its suburbs. If I did, and I was with Mrs. Cavalier, then sorry, we don't know each other at all and I assume you'd act the same way. If I met you and was just with some friends, I'd take my cue from you. But, again, the situation is very unlikely ever to happen.

 
I hope this eases your mind. I know all about being an overthinking person!

Thanks for comments

Thanks for all answers! No one can't imagine how more relaxed I am now so, who will invite me for an interview?