I just saw a highly rated girl twice in 1 week and I needed a couple of days to recover. I'm in my mid-30s and don't have half the drive compared to many fellow hobbyists.
Do you guys have a special routine or a diet? I would appreciate any response on how you guys do it.On the one hand you'll find the guys like fish and CDL who believe that a lot of rest, staying well hydrated, yada yada yada is the secret, while OTOH you have guys like me who believe "moderation" is only drinking half the bottle of tequila on a typical Tuesday afternoon and that staying "well hydrated" remembering to order a "water back" with our whisky "neat" lol
I don't know if I am unusual, but at age 58 I still want to have sex just about every single day and if I go more than a couple of days without, I start getting a bit "grumpy"
Honestly, I don't think routine or diet has that much to do with it, I do eat healthy and I am in pretty decent shape, but my bad habits most likely more than outweigh my healthy habits.
I am normally rather flip with my answers to these kind of questions, but I don't believe it's normal to have such a low sex drive at your age, even in my mid-forties I was routinely seeing several women in a single day. I would suggest rather than asking for advice on the internet, you might be better off getting checked out by your doctor. I know "low T" is thrown around all the time, but that could very well be the root cause of your lack of libido, or something more serious could be going on. I guess I should ask, are you height/weight appropriate? Do you have any underlying medical conditions like diabetes or high blood pressure? These could all be contributing factors.
Yes, I'm a big proponent of rest, but that is also to recover from my gym time. I'm 58 like GaG, and if you add fucking three or four times a week to an average eight hours at the gym, you ARE going to need a full night's sleep. You should also get fit. GETTING fit will take more of a time commitment than STAYING fit. If you can bench press your body weight, you will find you won't get tired in any of the usual sexual positions. Fucking is about abs and upper body strength, so you should concentrate your workouts there. I walk briskly several times a week in connection with my work, so I don't have a pressing need right now to add extra cardio. Cardio becomes an issue during sex when your muscles tire because they're not up the stress you are asking from them. Also, holding your heart rate down during sex will make you last longer before popping. Once you start wheezing from the activity, your body's genetic reflex is to hurry up and finish so that your seed may be planted, so PE is often associated with being out of shape.
So my advice is to get fit and stay fit, sleep enough, and hydrate throughout each day. If, as GaG says, you still are getting tired during sex, go to the doc and check your T-Score. One of my golfing partners is a doctor, and he says more and more middle-aged guys are going on T-therapy, either once or twice a week injections, or Androgel, which is applied daily transdermally after you shower in the morning, but low-T can strike any age. It's rare, but there are guys in their 20's on T-therapy. Their bodies just quit producing it one day.
"If you can bench press your body weight, you will find you won't get tired in any of the usual sexual positions. "
I will have to try this but don't think I can succeed. My workout always uses dumbells for legs, arms, shoulders, chest and anything else.
"Fucking is about abs and upper body strength"
My core is definitely weaker compared to my college years and my chiropractor always tells me to work on my core.
"getting tired during sex"
I actually don't get tired during sex and have no problem maintaining and keeping an erection for a long time, but my muscles can cramp or tighten up.
Thanks for the advice CDL and I'm going to destroy my abs today.
If I read it correctly, It's not getting tired "during sex" but his relative lack of a healthy sex drive that's his problem.
In your middle thirties you should be ready for sex again no more than a few hours after having sex, not several days later. Now I am not saying a guy in his mid thirties is supposed to be a "walking erection" like a hormone fueled teenager, but to "need" several days rest in between sexual encounters is not what I would consider normal for a man in his 30's.
I will agree that to be at "your best" plenty of rest, hydration, etc etc etc are important, but even at 58 I could be at the end of a sleepless three day drunk and I would still have the "desire" to fuck, the OP doesn't seem have half that sexual drive while still in his thirties. I agree that is something worth talking to a doctor about
I responded more specifically, but he has taken it down again, along with my response to it.
FYI, I might have the "desire" for fuck after a sleepless 3-day drunk, too, but I doubt I would have the "ability." Lol
I did not remove my responses but did some editing and now they won't get published after saving the edits.
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Much less have the "ability" to do so at my "advanced age" but all the way through my forties I not only had the ability, but I actually did exactly that on a not infrequent basis.
I was well past 50 before starting to slow down, now all of our "clocks" are different, but I do believe that losing your libido at such an early age is something worth going to a doctor about.
BTW, I did read his post, and your response before it came down.
Personally, I think the lack of sleep is a symptom of the problem, not the problem itself, but I am sure a doctor should be the one to determine this, not a couple of whoremongers on an internet fuck board. lol
I'm acutely aware of medical conditions and medications and their effect on performance .
I have a liver disorder and the liver produces, or in my case, doesn't produce testosterone. That affects my erections ... NOT my libido.
I've had some financial setbacks I'm life and basically life a more "stressful" life than I'd prefer. That can possibly affect performance vis a vis erections BUT it does not affect my LIBIDO.
I only being my issues into the conversation to the point GaGa makes about the OPs DESIRE for sex. I desire sex 24/7. Always have. It's how I'm wired. Maybe reading Penthouse Forum etc. helped formulate my desires. Maybe it's my DNA. But even tho I may show up for an appointment with every intention of enjoying fucking my date, I know there's a possibility my Johnson may take the day off. But I still can enjoy every moment of the session when my date STAYS engaged and makes the date about me.
That's LIBIDO and what keeps,me in the game.
I prefer to ask questions and not have to read every post of the OPs reviews, but maybe it's the women he's seeing. I know that matters for me. Not LIBIDO wise, but performance wise.
My most recent date kept me hard the entire hour, no easy task, but it was easy for her lol. Maybe he needs a very dirty girl to fuck his brains out beyond his wildest imagination. Maybe that will light his wick.
Maybe not, but I'm sure he'd enjoy it. I think he needs a OIAL. We all do.
Thanks for the reply GaGambler,
I don't have any medical conditions but will definitely discuss this with my doctor during my yearly checkup.
The good list
- I eat healthy with very minimal processed food,
- My blood pressure is 120/80,
- My weight is ideal for my height
- I run 2 - 4 miles a week
- I workout 4 days
The bad list
- Getting a good night sleep is never easy for me (4-6hrs)
- Get decent sleep only on weekends (6-8hrs)
- Anxiety
- 3hrs+ commute for work
- Sit 5-6hrs at work
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I think the relative lack of sleep could be a symptom of your anxiety and not a root cause of your lack of libido. Lack of libido is often a side effect of excess stress.
my analysis to say either lack of sleep or Low-T. For me, not getting enough sleep is the most noticeable. In fact, I put forth a substandard performance yesterday with one of my regulars because I had only gotten 5.5 hours of sleep Thursday night, and then had a late afternoon appointment with her, so I was pretty well shot already when I walked through the door. Fortunately, as a regular, she knew I was just having an off day and was capable of better.
If you go to get your T checked, make sure its a doctor who specializes in the diseases of aging. The "normal" range for Testosterone is so wide, that there can be a huge difference from one end to the other in how you feel. A score of 800 is considered "normal" but so is a score of 500, which is substantially lower. More than the overall score, the "free testosterone" score is the most important, because this is the amount floating around in your body taking care of business. Obviously, someone with an 800 score is going to feel a lot more energetic than someone at 500, so its important that you see a doctor that will put you at the high end of the range for age. You'll have a lot more energy.
3+hrs commute for work? Minimal sleep? Throw in some anxiety (probably work related???) and you are one exhausted dude.
With your lifestyle, I would worry less about your T and more about wearing out... your good list enables you to have great sex twice a week where a lesser man would probably not make it that far.
Married guys generally have sex seven times in a month, even in a good marriage. TER is filled with some pretty high octane sex drives so don't worry if you don't meet the high bar set here. Your lifestyle us one of a regular, real life, grind it out guy (with one hell of a commute - I do an hour and I'm beat) so maybe pretend you're married lol, and by doing so two great fucks a week is to declare victory! Of course it never hurts to have a check up as we're (mostly) not docs, but in the absence of any medical conditions in need of correction I say feel good about yourself... fuck when you can... and don't worry.
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I think you are 100% right. Once all of the construction goes away my commute will go back down to 2.5hrs and still exhausting. I gotta figure out how to keep myself from burning out.
Thanks for the reply.
Needs to be on the girl because, as you say, I don't have one. The more she is into it, the more I will rise to the occasion.
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I live a pretty healthy lifestyle. I hit the gym 6 days a week and alternate strength training with interval training. That along with a clean diet have allowed me to stay active into my 60's. Of course, when I was younger, I wasn't as disciplined and still had a high sex drive. I do think that heredity influences this.
The best advice is to talk to your doctor. Like GaGambler stated, obesity and diabetes can negatively impact a guy's libido.
What most guys said here...
At your age you should be ok, but some factors to consider...
Smoking
Alcohol consumption
Diabetes screening
Sugar levels
T levels
Porn and masturbation??
Stress levels and or depression (something that affected me for a short while)..i had low desire due to personal circumstances.
Best thing do is talk to your dic..i mean doc. Don't be afraid or ashamed or embarrassed. Good news is, if you have something going on you can get it resolved and enjoy your sex life.
I do have anxiety that usually brings stress when it starts acting up and lately my anxiety is noticeable with work related stress. I am definitely going to talk to my doctor about this with my annual checkup.
Or were both visits "one and done"? Or did you unload on her 3-4 times per visit?? You're kinda vague here...
So I don't know what to tell you...you seem to get some sort of exercise. I guess your diet is "Ok". But if you smoke, I'd quit that. And if you drink excessively, I'd watch that also..I don't care what Gag says..
But you did mention one thing, anxiety. That's could be a deal breaker to a degree.
Two visits were less than 48hrs apart and 90 minutes sessions with 3 pops in each visit. The second visit I was a little more rested and the little guy was up and did not get flaccid for easy 40 min even after the pops. I think I have to manage my anxiety a little better which also is accompanied by stress.
Thanks for the reply.
Then, in my opinion you sound OK, yeah you'll need time to recover. I really don't see why you're tripping over this.
2 days, 6 "pops"....sounds what about right. Don't kill yourself over this.
But do try to control your anxiety,,you don't want a stroke while you're in missionary mode...jus sayin
powdered kind and rub it on your dick, or stick the whole root in your ass?
With modern technology, we can probably get a good growth right on your body and the ginseng juice will ooze into every nook and cranny. You'd might have to increase your outdoor activity or put a "grow light" above your work space. If the ladies ask if you are manscaped, you can tell them that you are all natural.
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And you can trim the excess to sell at the Farmers' Market or sell to the Chinese Apothecary to pay for some extra hobbying.
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I'm in need of a makeover anyways.
I'm in my early 50's. Sure my Sex Drive isn't as frequent as in my younger years. I take about a week in between my playtime to get re-energized. I don't take any supplements or Viagra. I just let my urge happen naturally
And I'd highly recommend seeing a Endocrinology Dr because your family Dr probably is NOT up to speed with the subject and all the variables that could cause low testosterone.
For example, taking pain medication for an extended time can seriously lower a man's T levels. Also, family Drs are more inclined to put you on testosterone roll-on gels, but those gels are no where near as effective as injections once or twice a month. And, family Dr's won't do the blood tests and follow up that is required even after they get your level where it needs to be. But I'm not a Dr so proceed with whatever..
I eat healthy most of the the time and physical activity at least six days a week.
I have seen providers on consecutive days many times and on occasion two providers in one day.
I take a break to accrue more volume in the chamber.
As if others have suggested perhaps check your testerone levels. Get it done early.