...how responsive I am over email/text correspondence. I appreciate getting to know who I am meeting, as it makes the interaction flow better to me once we do meet. Makes me wonder if it’s hard to communicate with providers, or if they communicate at all after scheduling/before engagement?
Feedback?Some are great at customer service, other suck at it.
I have had many providers that made it a point to stay in communication and who have been rather "flirty" leading up to the appointment. I have also experienced ladies who I've never heard another word from between the time the appointment was set and the time I sent my text asking for the room number.
Of course in my case the time between scheduling and meeting is rarely more than a few hours at most. I think it's a bit much to ask for a provider to spend too much time with a prospective client before meeting. I think it is great if they do, but it could actually create "time wasters" who would want to waste hours of your time with only the "promise" of an actual session, and that would lead you into becoming one of those "angry and bitter" hookers we see on these boards all the time.
I enjoy getting to know a little about my client but also to leave a little mystery for when we meet. Some of my bookings are done a month in advance, in these cases once the preliminaries are out of the way there is usually not much communication until the date draws near.
Time is also a huge factor for me. I have a full time career in addition to escorting so I don't always have the luxury of having extra time to spend on pre-meeting flirting and such. However I don't think anyone is disappointed as long as they have my undivided attention during our time together.
Balance is definitely the key. Also, this statement “I enjoy getting to know a little about my client but also to leave a little mystery for when we meet” is spot on!
Brief, thorough communication is great but definitely don’t spend TOO much time, as it could spoil the element of surprise and create grounds for TW.
I’ve had it all over the place. Some, the only communication was confirming the appointment initially and maybe the day before. Some, it would be a quick email once or twice to say “looking forward to it” or something similar. A few, we seemed to touch on a shared interest and sometimes that’s led to slightly more interaction. I personally want it to be a natural communication, so I roll with it any way it happens if it’s feels genuine. When I meet someone for a longer period of time I feel as if it’s more fun to hold off on too much discussion until we meet.
Nice! Excellent feedback.
...... the day before the appointment, as instructed, I sent a confirmation email. I received a return email a few minutes later with the nearest major cross streets and a request to call her an hour before for the actual address.
When I made the call, she asked me whether I preferred peach or polka dots. Huh? She then texted me 2 photos of her. One in peach colored bra and panties, the other in black with white polka dots.. It was an awesome tease and a great way to involve me in the session before I arrived.
The lady knew how to dangle the bait. Then she set the hook.
I chose the peach. On a subsequent session I got to enjoy removing the polka dots.
Haha! Creative lady! Sounds like a fun time!
With someone I haven't met yet. I'm not as chatty with a new lady prior to the first meeting. It seems weird to me to get flirty with someone I've never seen face to face. It's impersonal and does nothing to help me prepare for a face to face meeting.
I'm much more likely to open up and relax once I'm with someone than through text. I hate impersonal communication with another person looking at a screen. I don't really engage in anything more than a what's up, what are you up to, be there in 15 type of message through text. I got rid of IG and FB for that reason. I got tired of looking at everyone's pictures and reading their random thoughts on a cell phone. So I guess I'm in the latter group
... frankly it's more important to me that providers be timely and professional (including being clear) in their correspondence with me. And I do worry a bit about flirting going too far on an unsecured channel. I use encrypted email, but few providers seem to do that. There's some things it's best to not have in emails and texts, knowwhatimean?
That being said, I've had some fun exchanges with providers who enjoy that kind of thing, and that might be considered flirting but it's pretty tame. I don't initiate that kind of thing because I don't want to waste their time, but if they start it I'll reciprocate.
try to flirt with someone you haven't met yet. The more you dialogue before the first appointment, the more there's a chance one of you will inadvertently say something that will put the other one off and ruin the session. Better to keep things minimal before the first meeting IMO.
Subsequent meetings are another matter. I usually prebook, and like to get a reconfirmation exchange by text message the day before to make sure we are set on. Doing it is a fun and flirty way adds to the anticipation once we have met and I can visualize her saying those things to me.
So you've never flirted with a woman without meeting her first? How does that go? Is it something like, you approach a woman you might like to flirt with and say, "Hi, I'm Mr. DeLion. What's your name? I wanted to introduce myself because I'd like to flirt with you, and I never flirt with a woman I haven't met. Now that we've met, don't be surprised if I start flirting with you. Bye for now!"
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try to flirt with someone you haven't met yet. The more you dialogue before the first appointment, the more there's a chance one of you will inadvertently say something that will put the other one off and ruin the session. Better to keep things minimal before the first meeting IMO.
Subsequent meetings are another matter. I usually prebook, and like to get a reconfirmation exchange by text message the day before to make sure we are set on. Doing it is a fun and flirty way adds to the anticipation once we have met and I can visualize her saying those things to me.
I've actually seen him flirt with girls right here on the boards that I know he has never met, as have I.
Actually it's one of the dumbest things I think he has ever said. I can't wait to see what his BFF BP has to say about this one. CDL has definitely thrown a big fat one right over the center of the plate, I certainly hope we see one "knocked out of the park" with such an easy pitch to hit. lol
I think its pretty clear I was referring to a provider/appointment setting, where they have ALREADY booked an appointment, and then start the flirty texts. I think its silly because both parties SHOULD know its just done so the guy doesn't forget to show up or to give him pause if he's thinking about cancelling. Providers will say BS to this reason, but I've seen too many providers do this and talked about it with some that I'm close to, to not know this is the case. Its like a verbal noose around one of his extremities. He's not going to bail on a girl that is flirting with him. I think its silly FOR ME because I don't cancel once I have booked, and I don't need the handholding from the provider to make sure I don't get cold feet. The boards are a different matter, because we are spread all over the country, and no one is invested into anyone else. Yes, I have flirted with ladies here on the boards, but there is no hidden agenda.
But telling him to read something again is a great way to get him to vanish from a thread.
Don't blame me for your own bad choice of words.
what am I supposed to conclude from
"I think its silly to . . . .
try to flirt with someone you haven't met yet."
Those are your exact words, and they are pretty dumb words to boot. I know you aren't exactly going to start flirting with the bookers that you normally communicate with, but occasionally an indy with a little extra time on her hands will flirt a bit while I am en route to the session. Just because you don't do it doesn't make it "silly'
So even if I took your words in the context you "meant" to use, but didn't, your statement would still be untrue and kind of dumb.
I was traveling, arranged an appointment and the girl sent me a cute photo and wanted to chat. I will never forget her, and if I am ever in her area again, I will try to see her. She was hot!
If I flirt… And he flirts back.. Game on!
I am a firm believer that “holding hands” via text/private message/ or email until our smiles and bodies connect is part of the Sexy journey and builds anticipation for Both of us. Anticipation can be such a sexy word. Wouldn’t you agree?
After all, they say that the brain is the largest and strongest sex organ. It deserves some stroking, attention and stimulation as well. 💋
Personally, I go either way with flirtation. I try to pick up on what's already being put down. If the client is more chatty, I'll get the impression that they're craving a connection beforehand and take it as a green light to flirt. Sometimes, people contact me saying something like "hello Olivia, I'm interested in an hour-long incall at 2 PM". I'll give them the details and they'll say something like "great, see you then". It's short, sweet, and to the point. I can respect that people have busy lives or may be in situations where they need to be discreet and can't be on the phone flirting. Rest assured, we'll build up our chemistry in person and the time we have together will be just as intimate as if we had gotten to know each other a bit beforehand.
Perfect! It’s all about the natural flow! Just like w/uber drivers. They usually know when I’m feeling chatty by my thorough/vague communication. Just all depends on how one feels!