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LonLosWB 2475 reads
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I have had a few wonderful get togethers with my ATF and after my last get together she asked me to contact her the next day to hang out and have dinner.  The next evening we had a nice dinner and spent hours talking about life and sports.   She has not returned my text or email.  Did I miss something when a provider asks to hangout?  Was she expecting a gratuity for her hanging out with me?  Or did we cross the line by hanging out.  How often does one gets asked to hang out?  Not sure where I stand at this point with her and would like other ladies to give me their thoughts.

souls_harbor34 reads

It is their responsibility to state the basis of the invitation.   Manners don't change just because she's a working girl.

If she's pissed, you're well rid of her.

...it's that you managed to use some form of the word "hang" six times in one paragraph.

How many times have u seen her? U must be a charming guy.

Happy for the time you've had together ...Memories

I've "hung out " with some gentlemen I know but we both know it's just "hanging out "  not sure really Wtf is going on here. Maybe she's sleeping? Lol šŸ˜‚
Either way,  you 2 had fun hanging out.  I suggest  
not reading more into it and move on if it doesn't work out for you. Reach out in a few days and say hello maybe.  
Hope this helps šŸ˜š
XOXO  
TL

..... what she is thinking or what she is doing, other than her.

Do as I try to do.  I stay out of other people's heads. Specially women's heads.

souls_harbor43 reads

Consider also that if she was your ATF, by ditching you she's thrown away part of her regular revenue stream.  Joke's on her.

Two that come to mind. Saw my then ATF for a dinner date and she invited me to stay overnight OTC. I couldn't because I had to work in the morning. The other was on a road trip; saw a lady in the afternoon, I was a repeat client, who called me later that evening, invited me to her home OTC, came and picked me up, her photog husband was clicking away (that guy really liked watching his old lady getting fucked) dropped me off later at my hotel and then e-mailed me the pics.  

MfSD>>>>

I've been in this situation before. Depending on what you texted and emailed afterwards, she might be concerned that lines are getting blurred. She likes you, but probably doesn't want to lose your business and is afraid that you might take her for granted now that you got some OTC time.

 
Give her some space for now, and then after the usual amount of time between your past visits, contact her again to book a session. During that session, you can talk to her and get an idea of what she is thinking.

And there's the outside world LLWB. She liked BCD LLWB, but she may have found outside LLWB a bore. Her thinking may have been, "What a mistake". Now she's stuck in a weird deal with you...But like someone said, "Do nothing, for now".

Sorry, that was a premature submission!

Someone has said it is impossible and certainly dangerous to try and get inside the head of a provider...or a hobbyist for that matter.  Perhaps she had a lull in appointments and really wanted to get out and be normal...or perhaps she was looking for generosity beyond what you have already shown...who knows?  Bottom line is not to read anything into it. If you want to know for sure, just ask directly...but it is likely that you don't want to know the answer.

I had the good fortune of meeting a provider who really clicked with me from the start. She offered to hang out well after the session ended (I think the offer was "lets go have a drink then come back and I will blow you..."). I reluctantly passed on that due to a prior obligation. The same provider also invited me to help her prepare for an appointment a few days later...she had a client who wanted to meet with her immediately after she was with another guy...and with the results of that meeting still on her!  I did NOT pass that up and I got to have an OTC session with someone who turned out to be an ATF.  Of course what I paid for that initial meeting was on the high end so I kind of viewed it as a wash.  Bottom line is that I didn't try to read anything into it - the offer for a drink was likely because she was in a strange town with no further appointments and wanted to get out of the room.  The OTC session was probably me being in the right place at the right time.  

Too often guys start thinking with their big head too much because their little head is so happy. This seems to be one situation where you should stick with the little head!

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