I had an SP tell me she wanted rights to first refusal. Meaning if I was flying in I had to contact her first and if she had time she would see me. If a regular called or she was busy or just did not want to see me I could then call another provider. Since I fly in from Europe I like to book in advance so this arrangement did not work for me. I never saw her again.
I think she was just trying to get rid of me. I just thought it was strange and wondering if anyone else was in such a relationship with a SP.-- Modified on 6/9/2017 10:19:46 PM
I know that this is not the Legal Corner, and I'm famously not a lawyer (still) but there is a legal term called consideration that has to be met if she wants a legal claim on your selection.
And how exactly does she keep tabs on your whereabouts? Do you need to wear a tracking device?
And, sorry for starting three sentences with the word and.
I do not think it was a legal binding contract. She would put me on an honor system. Funny but when I go to Vancouver or Toronto or Montreal the word seems to spread. I do have a problem hiding it. I guess when they call for references it gives me away and many of my SPs are connected so the word spreads. But it is a mute point as I walked away which was what she wanted. Now she refuses to give me a reference after seeing her for 18 months and dropping over $100,000 on her. I do not blame her. I am not the best of clients,
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Mr. Becker54,
The sad news is that I am considered a poor client. As I am not reliable and the providers can not count on me. Some hate me because I show them things and give them things they can not have so they come to despise me and my adventures.
I am told by a few they feel guilty for me treating them well and feel uncomfortable with my adventures. Then there are those ladies who love the excitement of seeing multiple clients for an hour or two and being with me for 4 or 5 hours dinner date, or for an overnight, or to travel with me is a huge challenge. One recently informed me she did not like my sleeping habits as I only sleep a few hours a night and some do not like how horny I get at 3 in the morning. So they refuse to spend the night.
So Mr. Becker54 many a SP who has seen me would tell you they like the money but spending time with me where the only rule is they have to be happy is a killer. You have to also know I do not drink, smoke or do drugs. So I am kind of boring.
Oh well, there is always a new SP around the corner who I can enjoy. Some last a night, some a month others two or three months. I have had a few that last a few years but like every ride at Disneyland, the ride does come to an end. we then move on.
No. I do have an account as a SP told me I needed one but I do not use it much. I am older not a big tweeter.
There's this guy whose kind of famous for tweeting a lot who seems to share some commonalities with you.
Who might he be? I thought I was unique. I would like to meet him.
mrfisher's previous post in General: http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-12/woosh-914586?page=
Who might he be? I thought I was unique. I would like to meet him.
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If I got a healthy discount or plenty of OTC time in exchange for her rights of first refusal
Seems the "right of first refusal" was all in her favor and I don't see (or you haven't mentioned) what the benefit to you would have been. Was she giving you something in return for the RFR?
One of the things that many clients treasure about p4p is the ability to book with whomever they wish to see and can afford, assuming the provider wishes to see them. Many clients look for quantity, some form of quality that attracts them and the ability to book on the client's schedule.
I like to book repeat sessions with providers with whom I've struck some sort of mutual attraction, so we both get something a little extra from our playtime.
What were you gaining from this arrangement?
I really believe after 18 months she was done with me so this was a way for her to walk away.
So nothing to gain for her or me. She had got what she was going to get as her closet was full of Kate Spade bags, designer dresses, shoes from her favorite shoe store. We had traveled throughout North America and Europe. We had done what we were going to be done. She had grown tired of my fantasy events.
So it was over and time to part company. It was the right time to move on. I then went on to meet some great SPs and she gained access to much better clients. The ride at the amusement park was over.
I hope that answers that question. I was just sad that she could not give me a reference. But that is the game we play in.
It seems counterproductive from her standpoint to want a right of first refusal and that means you at least have an informal agreement to contact someone who doesn't want to see you. Doesn't make sense to me. But then again, it might to a Nigerian Prince lol.
My speculation is knowing her and what a lovely lady she is, she did not want to hurt my feelings by telling me go away so she came up with this "right of first refusal" to have me leave. I see now that this provider who is a wonderful person was cracking the fantasy as time went on a little at the time. I remember taking her to London and as we across the street she made a side remark that she did not want me looking at her like we did in the past. It was a sidebar and I never thought much of it but I now think back and realize that was a turning point.
She really had a kind heart and many of the ladies are as well. There are some good ones out there. But rather than slapping you in the face, they just wander away. As it should be. They do not want the drama of a heated "get out of my face" approach they are in the service business by the way.
It is just a business. Maybe if you have a good investor you have used for years and they think you are a jerk but they are not going to tell you to your face they just hope you go away or you do not call them. Some might be assholes but generally, service providers are kind caring individuals. It is just a business.
My take on it.
At first I could plan my business trips to Vegas a couple of weeks out. So seeing this one special lady was easy to set up. But then, my client in Vegas changed our scheduled meetings to a "per need bases". So scheduling with my friend in Vegas became a pain.She wasn't great on "last minute dates"
But she asked me to let her know whenever I'm in town, no matter what, "Just let me know you're here". I did, and it sorta worked out. We'd meet late night for fun. And sometimes, we'd just meet for drink or a quick dinner before either her date or mine. So in a way, I let her know whenever I'm in town, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.