I go through all of client's emails and PM's and respond, offer incall/outcall near them, and make it as easy as possible to meet.. then they fall through. I have had over 20 messages/emails from client's inquiring about services fall through (JUST THIS WEEK) and say "they're busy this week" but when messaging me, ask if we can meet in the next couple of days. I understand things change, however if I am going through all of this trouble to respond to ALL EMAILS & MESSAGES and you ALL HAVE COLD FEET, I don't understand the point of contacting me. PLEASE ONLY CONTACT ME IF SERIOUSLY INQUIRING ABOUT MEETING. I have 2 other jobs and don't have time for flakes. Thanks.
Anyone else have this issue????
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I think most people have that play this game on ether side. Yes it sucks. I hope venting helped.
I've never canceled on a provider. Whenever I book, that appointment is 1st priority and I always and WANT to attend for obvious reasons.
I have a question though. Are the guys that are time wasters established guys? Meaning they have a history of seeing escorts, have references and are verified???
I had contact with a lady 30 minutes before we were supposed to meet just the other week. She was go. She never showed up at the restaurant. NCNS. Several days later she contacted me because she had a hotel room and wanted to know if we could "play." I declined.
Once I am booked, I always show up on time and complete the mission. That said, I have looked at your profile in the past and decided against booking you. Most of your reviews are very good, but a couple contain red flags. At $350 an hour, I would be willing to take a chance on a YMMV situation, but not at $700.
I could make 350 in 30 minutes at my other job fully clothed, no thanks!!!!!!!
Did you speak with them on the phone? Maybe is was your attitude that turned them off.
If I had booked you and then read your posting, I would NCSN for sure.
Please don't visit my city!
The average hourly rate of the top ten providers in Minnesota is $400. You're asking for more, and you're not even in the top 100 list for Minnesota. It's possible that you are great and your scores were brought down by a couple of tough graders and a couple of dishonest reviewers. But without more good reviews and more photos, you have priced yourself out of this market.
But with some effort, I think that you can do better. Pay a professional photographer to take some better pictures of you, and then apply some light blurring to your face and your tattoos if you need to protect your identity. Get a better website. Look at the websites of some of the higher rated Minnesota providers for ideas. Take advantage of the one free ad per week here at TER, and maybe offer discounted rates for longer bookings. Maybe do some traveling, if your other job doesn't get in the way. Like maybe go to Chicago for a weekend, after posting weekly ads in the Chicago ad board for weeks in advance. Your rate is high for Minnesota, but not out of the question for a bigger city. And treat this like a professional job. Communicate clearly when setting appointments. Show up on time and with a good attitude. Use nice incall locations.
Solid and meaningful advice!
Also nicely worded.
Fantasy job that is! 
Because you are losing potential clients with every key-stroke.
You didn't take the advice to not reply, you just couldn't help yourself.
The good news is that this train-wreck didn't take long!
Or gift cards , No show No Return !
But it happens. Where do you post ads? What site? That can make a difference. And seeing you took some time off and only have one recent review could make them hesitate and not pull the trigger.
With 20 failures where there any successes? Wish there were more pics of you. And even if I wanted to sadly you are beyond my budget.
Best of luck, try not giving others reason to not come by posting nasty here please, never seems to work out for those who do.
Come visit us in Atlanta! Your reviews are amazing. I love a toned woman with smooth sexy armpits!
found one (1) photo. Did I miss something?
Yes, you are cute but I would want to see more than one pic before making a decision to see you.
That is why you email me. I do not give out too much personal info that is available to everyone. I am very private because of my other jobs. Wouldn't want to risk losing out on professional jobs because of a photo I made available to EVERYONE
I love LA. Available this week & next. Lets talk (:
..... We were discussing how my business is very slow and I'm getting several deals backing out.
She was saying that this is the time of the year that it happens the most. She's had several last minute cancelations. At least they didn't NCNS, but she prepared 5 times for these bastards.
Though frustrated, she has a great attitude. She lets go of the resentment and moves on.
Sorry, not all of us are selfish, inconsiderate bastards. Just some are.
Guys may be finding ladies with similar, maybe less inconsistent, ratings for less. Once they became available, you were cut loose. $700 is steep in any city for the finest of women.
Then while there were 20 fuck ups who wouldn't commit, now there won't be any interested.
But I agree, there are guys our there who are smart shoppers, looking around, feeling it out. And while she could be worth as much as she's asking, who's going to pull the trigger are those who don't care, or are taking a leap of faith. 1 pic and 700/hr, 1 review in 2 years, ok, sorry no, no not me.
I honestly wish her well. She likely is making enough, but why post then?
I only hope she knows negative or harsh responses won't help her cause. And then I hope she takes more pics to post to her website, and is humble to say thanks for the advice, I'm sure that would help.....
I took a break and have two other jobs that are professional making it difficult to post a ton of photos of me. I have tattoos and features that would give me away to anyone that knows me in my other professions risking those jobs. You must know nothing about that xD
Actually I do. And have photoshopped many tattoos away for provider friends in the past. Even without photoshopping what you wear how you pose can hide those identifiable tattoos. It was only a suggestion to add more pics but apparently you don’t feel the same.
Don’t waste your time with time wasters. Get there references and desired schedule reply and move on.
So you didn’t say where you were posting ads where these guys are coming from, my guess, Backpage. Most of them just want low cost entertainment and will get that if you entertain them with a conversation by email.
Good Luck
I see that you haven't posted an ad on TER in many months. If the issue of cancellations, flakes, and cold feet is only recent you may want to change where you advertise. I also notice your donation has increased significantly. Some guys do their research after an initial booking and may be turned off by increased donations, controversial board posts or less than stellar reviews.
For what it's worth, I rarely (maybe once per year) cancel an appointment with a provider I haven't met. It's never cold feet, sometimes a very believable bad review or two pops up, sometimes a better option materializes, sometimes I have an unavoidable issue. That said, if I read an ad that said "PLEASE ONLY CONTACT ME IF SERIOUSLY INQUIRING ABOUT MEETING" I wouldn't even consider contacting the provider, just because.
If you're trying to make ends meet at the end of the year consider a holiday special for returning clients. They're least likely to flake.
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all over the place, too inconsistent to justify anything even close to $700/hr. What's particularly telling, is that the guy that reviewed you twice gave you a 10/10 three years ago, and this month a 10/8. Most providers get better with age and experience. How could you not give a repeat customer at least the same level of service as last time? This would be a huge red flag for me at ANY price. I sense a little GPS here.
With that said, I condemn guys who waste a provider's time with back and forth emails. If he's got reservations, he should not contact you until he has made a FINAL decision he wants to see you. I NEVER back out on appointments once made, but in this case, I would have checked your reviews, photo gallery, and rate structure and would not have booked in the first place.
Good for you, don't bother talking with me again. You're missing out, I'm happy you're steering clear, you're probably not the least bit attractive (: bye
take it personally. Its a business decision. You're running a business. I'm telling you why I wouldn't buy. Most marketing people would appreciate the honest feedback. You should keep your emotions out of it or else grow up a little before you do this.
If you only want to see attractive customers, then YOU'RE the one missing out. Most hobbiests range from average-looking to outright repulsive, but they all have money to spend. If you're putting conditions on taking their money, you will fail. For me, its an age thing. I like fucking women 20-30 years younger than me. Hard for a 58 yo guy to score that in the civvie world, so I pay to get what I want and I do it often. I have no illusions about looking like a 30 yo.
Modified to correct typo
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Most mongers are average to repulsive?
Sir, you are seeing the wrong heauxs. If you saw the right ones, you would find out that we are all extremely handsome and amazing lovers.
The downside to being so handsome and such a great lover, is that the ladies charge more to us better looking mongers.
"most", not all. We all know you're not an average guy, and anybody that doesn't believe it can just ask any of the ladies you're paying for sex. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so its not surprising that the ladies I pay for sex say the same thing about me. We're just not seeing the same girls, so that accounts for the difference of opinion.
I don't know who is contacting you based on your awful website, one picture and inconsistent reviews but your attitude is most definitely the reason they aren't booking. You may be gorgeous on the outside but your inside needs a lot of work.
What ever happened to the rule that if you post a new review of a gal, the old one is taken down?
Is that rule gone?
Guy sees your one picture, just like that sexy hot car on the lot, they go googoo over you, they get excited and the blood goes to that one area where they're vulnerable. Then when the "dust" settles, reality kicks in. It was nice eye candy but...
It's just a thought from someone who has refrained from this sort of out of body experience
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Maybe that's the problem.
sugar-coat it, just tell her what you really think. Lol
Everyone in Minn has cold feet this time of year !
I feel for you girl. I believe all ladies here have gone through it, even the hobbyists run into the same issue. That's why when I meet those special individuals I express my appreciation and we have a wonderful long term relationship. Keep positive, those wonderful lucky individuals are just around the corner,